More Than Friends? St8 Friend Spends $800 dollars On Me Out Of The Blue?

[BruhBruh2013]

Ok so a few weeks ago a friend of mine, who has no clue that I am interested in guys although sometimes I give off that vibe, spent $800 dollars on me for no apparent reason!

But before I get started, I think I need to say that I am the kinda guy who is really good at reading into things and assuming that my guy friends have feelings for me when often times, they don’t.

The situation was a little confusing for me so I thought this would be a good place to process my thoughts and get a little clarity.

Ok so I have this guy friend whom I have known for a while now but we have not been very close til more recently. I was actually planning on getting an apartment with this guy, as roommates, before I lost my job about a month ago. We were both raised up in very conservative homes, but one thing that we both have in common is that I haven’t dated a girl in like 6 years and this guy has never dated a girl....I believe he is truly st8 but unfortunately this is where I start reading into things.....

So this friend of mine was really excited about the idea of us rooming together and I was looking forward to it because we get along fairly well and he is responsible enough to where I know that I wouldn’t have to worry about him not paying the rent or being a bad roommate.

After I told him that I was unable to room with him due to my job situation, he seemed upset but I told him that I still wanna room with him once I find a new job.

Ok so all that seems pretty basic right? Moving forward...

So about 2 weeks later he texted me and asked me if I was free later in the week. I then told him that I didn't have anything to do the next day and then asked why. He then told me that he just wanted to come over and hang out. I thought sure, what the heck and decided to have him come over and hang out the next day. I also told him that I wanted to go see the movie “Now You See Me” and that I would pay for both him and me because I had free movie tickets. We agreed.

Although to some of my friends it might seem weird to go to a movie with another guy who is also paying, because of the platonic friendship I think we have, I didn't think he would have an issue and I certainly wasn't thinking anything romantic when I told him I would pay.

So the day comes around when we are suppose to hang out, and he comes over to my house before we head over to the movies. While I am getting ready, he says, hey come with me for a minute... I say "what"? He says follow me around the corner, it will only take 5 minutes. I am a little confused now, so I ask, where are we going? He then tells me that he wants me to follow him to Goodyear tires so that he can buy me some new tires for my truck. (FYI: My truck tires were super worn)

Me, being the greedy bastard that I am, couldn't say no. This is completely out of the blue and I am trying to figure out why he decided to do this. I then informed him that it cost almost $800+ dollars to get 4 tires and a spare for my truck. He says, I know... and then tells me to follow him yet again.

Ok so, my friend has just finished college and is about to start an electrical Engineering job that is gonna pay him boku dollars. But he doesn't even start that job for almost 2 more months. And even if he is gonna get paid well at this new job, spending $800 dollars on a platonic friend is A LOT OF MONEY! I mean, he wasn't lending it to me, he was paying for it! So at this time I am thinking in my brain that maybe he just won the lotto, maybe he was given money, maybe he just got a new credit card? This is odd....I really was not able to make sense of it.

So then after it is all said and done and he has paid for the tires, we get back to his car and I say “can we talk about this for a moment”. I then asked him why he did this, and he says, just because I wanted to......?

He then says, the only thing is that I want you to accept it and don't do anything WEIRD.......

I think that is him saying that this is just something he wanted to do for me and that he didn’t want me to read into it....... But I can't help it.

Maybe I am just a poor friend but I know that the only people I spend that kinda money on is people whose pants I would like to get into.....Am I right????...

But really.... Is it just me or is this kinda an odd out of the blue gesture? Do I just need to work on being a better friend or is this really random???

Thoughts?

[dragon08]

Hmm I think the situation is really random.

I think that it is a little weird that he hasn't had a girlfriend. Even if he is uber conservative and wants to wait till marriage or remain pure or something, its not like he's going to get married out of the blue, he has to first FIND someone to be his wife after all. So I think that that is definitely questionable. (Is he just entirely unattractive? Is it that he is unable to GET a girlfriend?)

I don't think wanting to hang out, out of the blue is weird but thats just me.

Perhaps he felt that you were really down on your luck, maybe he already has a lot of money more than you realize like maybe his family is loaded or something. I know a really generous rich guy but he doesn't really let on that he has money. He also just might think that he will make more than enough to make up for it later when he gets his new job.

He could have also been worried about your safety while driving.

The roommate thing I don't count it as a sign for or against him being gay it could mean different things.

Sorry I can't be of much help but I don't think that I would spend that much on someone even if I WAS trying to get in their pants.

(Mostly because I don't have that money) But 800 is just way too much to give away for anyone. I would have to be dating someone for over a year to even consider it.

I say to try to keep your eyes and ears open. Try to gauge the situation more. Try to bring up homosexuality in conversation see how he reacts to it.

[Georgiadude]

Yes the fact he hasn't had a gf is suspicious but don't read too much into it. He said he did it bc he wanted to and not to do anything weird. Take him at face value. It sounds like he felt bad for you and wanted to help. Don't ruin a good friendship by looking for something that most likely isn't there. If he's interested in something he'll let you know

Steven

[KaraBulut]

Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

If you're this far into a friendship in which someone would spend $800 on you and you would be planning to live together, yet the two of you don't know whether the other is gay or straight.... well, that's something to give some thought to.

And give some thought to how you're going to repay him for the tires.

[silentalk]

I'd say this: if it turns out to be more than just a gift... please don't hurt each other.

[HunterM]

I can say this. None of my friends would spend $800 on me. Them cheap bastards!

[Junior42]

Hard telling, but I have several amazing friends who have helped me out financially over the years, including my best friend that gave me $1,500 for a lawyer when I needed one. Now, I paid back every dollar, but I never thougt for a minute it was anything more then a friend helping out a friend in need.

[ryanboy]

When you guys move in together cut him a break on the rent for a few months until the $800 has been repaid. Don't take this decent gesture for granted regardless of where this relationship goes.

[Benvolio]

Best not to promise to repay, for this reason. The danger of loaning money to a friend is that when it should be repaid, he probably is still hard up. So he fears that if he meets you, you will ask for repayment. So, often, he will start to avoid you. I realize that you would not intend to approach it that way, but once you promise to repay, the relationship may change.

[On The Edge]

Hmm sometimes it maybe better to see it being a really good friend...who knew you may not be in the fitting to pay for that. Less complications...if something more happens..cross that bridge when/if it comes