How's your self-esteem? What do you do to boost it?

[legend145]

^ I read your posts and I can relate because I'm struggling with self esteem issues . Beautiful people are confident because they receive compliments from other people. Facebook for example, attractive people get more likes while those that aren't don't. I sometimes wish I was uglier so I could at least pass for ugly cute. I also noticed my need to be perfectionist. I don't know why but I have very high standards in everything I do and if I don't meet those standards I'm a failure. I workout weekly and when I look in the mirror I still feel like I'm a fat ass.
I recently applied for a job at my university and the interview went great in my view, but I found out I didn't get the job. I don't know why. It's one thing to be rejected by strangers but it another thing to be rejected by an institution like a college. It means that there is something really wrong with me.

[-Kane-]

I don't necessarily doubt this, but how do you know for certain that your appearance was the reason you were rejected?

How does he know?

Because he just told you so! He was there, and if he says his looks were a factor, don't try to paint it a different color. Sometimes, the world is actually the cruel place we see it to be..

[-Kane-]

But as everyone dispersed, she pulls the Australian dude aside and says "wait here."
But yea... wrong industry. Old, average-looking Black man. If I get one more bartending job in NY, it'll likely be my last.

I'm sorry you had to see that with your own eyes. But as you already now, LIFE IS UNFAIR.
If it were fair, some of the biggest assholes in the world wouldn't be enjoying wealth, fame, and good health. Instead, they would be broke and miserable...

But again, life has no favorites. It looks as though you understand that fact already, but your self esteem has yet to fully embrace it..

BTW:: Don't write or contact that lady whatsoever! Accept her superficiality and move on. Writing her won't change her mind, nor will it make her more altruistic towards life and people. She wanted a dumb beauty and she got one..

All the best!

[-Kane-]

^ My Gawd. He can make a sensible post.

[JayHawk]

Two of my gay friends tonight, told me there is no chance in Hell they'd ever date/sleep with me... Kinda brought me down the way they put it :/

What are some good things you do to make yourself feel better?

I try to catch Saybrookes eye and then seduce him into my bed....

I dunno... we all get down. I just try to always looks on the bright side of life....