Why Eveyone Hates Couples

[Apollo]

I have to admit, i'm that guy right now. I really can't stand being around my friends who have girlfriends. That 3rd wheel shame just seeps in.

Dear Couples,
The other day I looked at my boyfriend and asked him what he wanted to do for Valentines Day. “Nothing, I’m not big into Valentines Day,” he replied. At which point I burst into tears and ran out of the room, slamming the door behind me. Just kidding. No I didn’t. Because I also hate Valentines Day. Because I have been single for my whole life, this holiday conjures up images of me sitting alone on my bed watching The Great Mouse Detective and drinking Diet Coke out of a liter container, thinking about the fact that if I died at that very moment, I would not be found for days.

http://hommemaker.com/2013/02/07/why...hates-couples/

[Apollo]

This picture takes the cake if you have ever been a third wheel.

[G-Lexington]

Valentine's Day should be rolled up into a huge ball of crappy floral arrangements, limp greeting cards, and substandard chocolate. Then it should be set on fire for all eternity, and the ashes pissed upon by all humanity Then, February 14th will henceforth being "Single Celebration Day", where everybody who is single goes out with their other single friends, getting huge deals on special menus at restaurants, while people in relationships have to stay home and eat microwave dinners off of their laps as they're forced to watch TV specials about people who aren't in relationships and are 1000% happier because of it.

Lex

[DigitalFudge]

This picture takes the cake if you have ever been a third wheel.

I can't breathe

[Rolyo85]

Meh, sour grapes bitterness is unhealthy

[loveguys72]

So I take it the thrill is gone.

Valentine's Day should be rolled up into a huge ball of crappy floral arrangements, limp greeting cards, and substandard chocolate. Then it should be set on fire for all eternity, and the ashes pissed upon by all humanity Then, February 14th will henceforth being "Single Celebration Day", where everybody who is single goes out with their other single friends, getting huge deals on special menus at restaurants, while people in relationships have to stay home and eat microwave dinners off of their laps as they're forced to watch TV specials about people who aren't in relationships and are 1000% happier because of it.

Lex

[G-Lexington]

I'm quite happy with my relationship. That said:

1. If you need a day to "celebrate your relationship" or "get the spark" back into it, you already have one. It's called your anniversary.

2. Valentine's Day pushes the idea of a heteronormal relationships as the ideal far more pervasively than perhaps anything else in existence.

3. Single people deserve a day just as much as couples do. And not in a consolation-prize sort of way. As in a "you kick ass" kind of way.

Lex

[refujiunderground]

it's ironic that the article was written by a guy that is partnered. i understand he's trying to show us single guys some love BUT @ the end of the day, he ain't single so he can't relate to being single on valentine's day. nice try though.

i don't HATE couples or partnered folks. a better word to describe my feelings would be annoyed. i really don't care if what someone else wants to do with their hubby, boyfriend, fuck buddy or whatever. that's cool. i have nothing against that. it's more about a confidence and insecurity thing with myself with why i get annoyed with other people. i'm far from confident. i'll be the first person to tell you what's wrong with me before i tell you the good things about me. i think being single on valentine's day just confirms how i feel about myself by using the fact that i feel unwanted. to even go further, it would be feeling unwanted because the persons that you want to be with doesn't want to have shit to do with you or you simply aren't going to be able to deal with. it's like i hear about so and so being able to find somebody, so and so being able to chop it, and etc. i don't try as much BUT i'll admit when i get shot down and rejected or whatever. it does hurt my feelings and backs up the feelings that i have about myself. so yeah, i would say that i'm a bit jealous and envious of all you folks that don't have to deal with that shit.

ya can say whatever about searching or whatever the fuck BUT it's easier for some. harder for others. i'm one of those guys that it's harder for so it's more of a personal thing.

[Laufey]

Couples annoy me the whole year.

Especially when they are in your face with it.

[Scealle]

I don't mind gay couples but I kinda mind the straight ones.Call me bitter I don't really care. it's just not fair that so many of my single friends are in a relationship and dropping our hang out time to non-existent. So much for all these years of friendship.

[Rolyo85]

I'm quite happy with my relationship. That said:

1. If you need a day to "celebrate your relationship" or "get the spark" back into it, you already have one. It's called your anniversary.

2. Valentine's Day pushes the idea of a heteronormal relationships as the ideal far more pervasively than perhaps anything else in existence.

3. Single people deserve a day just as much as couples do. And not in a consolation-prize sort of way. As in a "you kick ass" kind of way.

Lex

1. That's sort of a fail logic that applies to ANY once-a-year holiday, including Mother's Day and birthdays or even Christmas. Now, if you wanna make a general argument against those...

2. How so?

3. Well, to be frank, most people don't enjoy being single. Not judging those who do of course, but for the majority of single people a celebration of that would be sort of like one that celebrates being in the closet.

[rareboy]

Well I've been a part of a couple for 30 years now.

But there are lots of couples I'd love to slap.

[G-Lexington]

1. That's sort of a fail logic that applies to ANY once-a-year holiday, including Mother's Day and birthdays or even Christmas. Now, if you wanna make a general argument against those...

Mother's Day celebrates the relationship between mothers and their children. Birthdays are a special fun day for the birthday person. Valentine's Day celebrates the couple in precisely the same way as an anniversary does. It's redundant. The other ones aren't.

2. How so?

See below.

3. Well, to be frank, most people don't enjoy being single. Not judging those who do of course, but for the majority of single people a celebration of that would be sort of like one that celebrates being in the closet.

I think people are taught that their self-worth should be directly tied to their relationship status. I've known far too many people in far too many lousy relationships, but hey, they at least found someone, right? Better to have somebody to come home to, no matter how bad the relationship is.

I think being single SHOULD be celebrated. At least as much as being in a relationship is. Yes, being in a great relationship is a fabulous thing. But compared to being in a lousy relationship, being single is also a fabulous thing.

Lex

[maxpowr9]

I'm quite happy with my relationship. That said:

1. If you need a day to "celebrate your relationship" or "get the spark" back into it, you already have one. It's called your anniversary.

2. Valentine's Day pushes the idea of a heteronormal relationships as the ideal far more pervasively than perhaps anything else in existence.

3. Single people deserve a day just as much as couples do. And not in a consolation-prize sort of way. As in a "you kick ass" kind of way.

Lex

1. If you need a specific day instead of any day to show love to your significant other, your relationship is pretty much doomed already.

2. That would be St. Valentine's day which answers that. Leave it to Christians to commercialize a religious holiday.

3. February 14 is already national singles day.

[HunterM]

This picture takes the cake if you have ever been a third wheel.

How cute!!! The guy in the middle is kissing the guy in the sweater while playing footsy under the table with the girl on his right.

[Rolyo85]

Mother's Day celebrates the relationship between mothers and their children. Birthdays are a special fun day for the birthday person. Valentine's Day celebrates the couple in precisely the same way as an anniversary does. It's redundant. The other ones aren't.

See below.

I think people are taught that their self-worth should be directly tied to their relationship status. I've known far too many people in far too many lousy relationships, but hey, they at least found someone, right? Better to have somebody to come home to, no matter how bad the relationship is.

I think being single SHOULD be celebrated. At least as much as being in a relationship is. Yes, being in a great relationship is a fabulous thing. But compared to being in a lousy relationship, being single is also a fabulous thing.

Lex

To the first - actually, Valentine's celebrates love and romance, not "couples", and definitely not in the same way as anniversaries do, although I guess the end results for couples is the same.

To the second - no offense, but people in long term relationships tend to romanticize the whole "independence and self-sufficiency" part of being single. Sure, those are important. But I don't agree that it's some societal brainwashing that makes us strive to find a significant other. For myself, I've been single for most of my life - and am single currently - but I know that I function better in a stable relationship. Same applies to most people I've met in my life. So no, I don't really see a reason to celebrate being single. There's not really a way to make that not feel like a consolation prize.

[FlimFlam]

This picture takes the cake if you have ever been a third wheel.

Dead at this pic.

[birddog7]

Valentine's Day should be rolled up into a huge ball of crappy floral arrangements, limp greeting cards, and substandard chocolate. Then it should be set on fire for all eternity, and the ashes pissed upon by all humanity Then, February 14th will henceforth being "Single Celebration Day", where everybody who is single goes out with their other single friends, getting huge deals on special menus at restaurants, while people in relationships have to stay home and eat microwave dinners off of their laps as they're forced to watch TV specials about people who aren't in relationships and are 1000% happier because of it.

Lex

I also dislike Valentine's Day. I see nothing to celebrate about in being single. I envy those who have a partner in life. A loveless, sexless life is very lonely, and not much good for anybody...

[Callum]

I don't mind it. I was the third wheel for about three years. Never for a moment did it bother me (likely because I'm not overly insecure/and/or they're my best friends).

[BlondeCanadian]

My friend who just moved from China a couple years ago said that they celebrate a single persons day sometime in febuary or march.. They all go out together and have fun.. I like that.. And I do not think that Valentines day is all for people already in relationships think of that person gathering up the nerve to ask out their crush on valentines or something.. It is about romance.. not necessarily Heteronormity or relationships... Can it be a little but hurtful to those of us who are lonely and do not like to be reminded of it absolutely... but possibly in the same way that mothers day could wound someone who is without a mother..

[Kiwils]

I tend to root for couples. It gives me hope that loving relationships can/do exist. Well, I know they exist, but I have not seen it personally. I mostly see what Lex mentioned. People tell me that I'm just setting my standards too high, but honestly, if that's the norm, I'd rather be single and just get me another dog. lol

[RaKroma]

I never hated couples. But I do hate the feeling of being a 3rd wheel. I dislike it when my friends invite me to a night out, but then spend half the night smooching and hugging their BFs which makes me feel like I'm inconveniencing them with my presence.

[eastofeden]

Meh, sour grapes bitterness is unhealthy

^^^QFT^^^

Just an FYI...I am part of a happy couple...and neither one of us have ever celebrated Valentines Day.....we made an agreement when we first met.

I can't relate to the other part...I always LOVED when I was single and never once did I wish for a BF...oddly enough I have pretty much always had one....

[freefall]

I hate being a third wheel because everything gets awkward. Either me because I feel like a voyeur watching the couple getting any close and personal and I don't talk at all due to fear interfering them, or the couple because they want to do something but is hesitant due to my presence but too polite to swoosh me away. The sad thing? I have been a third wheel for too often - either I crash in without knowing my friend would be bringing his/her couple or one of them sacrifices their time just to take me in

I really need to find a boyfriend

But I LOVE Valentine! It's the time of the year where expensive flowers rarely seen in my place appear everywhere - that or lavish wedding parties *wrong focus*

[Rolyo85]

To be honest, doesn't really bother me too much, long as they don't go all gooey in front of me. I wouldn't know where to look and I would feel like I'm intruding. But besides that, I'm fine.

And I actually like Valentine's Day! Though I'm not in a relationship or anything. I just find that it's a nice day.

I just always start making gross slurpy noises around them if they go overboard. Better they feel awkward than me ^_^

[Rolyo85]

In closing, I can say that while I've hated relationships during times in my life, I've never ever hated couples for loving each other. That's just wrong.

Thank you! Quoted for holy scripture.

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By the way, an easy way to avoid being a third wheel is to make oneself a FIFTH wheel. Then both couples feel like they aren't really "alone enough" to get all coupley, and instead interact with everyone else.