I was invited to an orgy - Sunday, Jan 26 - not sure if Im going to go

**Just_Believe18** · January 22nd, 2013, 12:26 AM

This is all you need to know:

Never go to a public orgy.

**star-warrior** · January 22nd, 2013, 01:40 AM

Originally Posted by Just_Believe18

This is all you need to know:

Never go to a public orgy.

Yeah, but it's a private orgy

**vacancy3** · January 22nd, 2013, 01:46 AM

dude you have to go

**hylas** · January 22nd, 2013, 02:20 AM

i would try to find out who organises the orgy (in whose house it takes place) and then make contact with him, to see what vibes he gives off.

**HunterM** · January 22nd, 2013, 04:57 AM

If I were you, I would drive (or get someone to drive you) by this address/house and check out the neighborhood the next few days. If it is a house alone in the woods in the swamp, skip it!

If it is at the White House, GO!

**palbert** · January 22nd, 2013, 05:33 AM

I would check the date.

The 26th is Saturday.

Sunday is the 27th.

**FPNY** · January 22nd, 2013, 05:39 AM

Be funny if the 60 year old is the hottest one there....

**Scealle** · January 22nd, 2013, 05:45 AM

Sounds like fun! Better see photos of them first and play safe!

**G-Lexington** · January 22nd, 2013, 05:50 AM

You're welcome to go and sit on the periphery as they start. If it doesn't float your boat, you can leave.

Lex

**Benjoe** · January 22nd, 2013, 05:58 AM

Hmm... I think you'll turn up and it will just be you and some dude in his 60's.

Oh look I guess it's just us so shall we get started?

**borg69unimatrix** · January 22nd, 2013, 07:10 AM

I'm thinking AshyPhoenix's avatar should go here.

(DO IT.... )

**Harke the Boeotarch** · January 22nd, 2013, 07:16 AM

I would... even though I'd be the youngest one there.

**MissAnne** · January 22nd, 2013, 07:46 AM

Its the woman in me saying this but...

I wouldn't go if I were you. Id be worried about getting gang raped, tortured and murdered. Be careful if you do go.

**jensu846** · January 22nd, 2013, 07:49 AM

hell ya, i would go!!!

**hylas** · January 22nd, 2013, 08:21 AM

He was impressive. He answered in detail every question I had like what happens at orgy. he has had one before. He said he will show me his photo if he knows I am coming. For me, knowing what to expect - what guys look like - is important. So there are no surprises.

did you guys just communicate with chat/text/mail, or did you talk to him on the phone or video chat? in my experience, its hard to "get a vibe" through chatting or texting alone, and lies come easy in written form. but if you can hear his voice, and you have a good feeling about him, then id say youre good to go!

i will however not even say anything about your anxiety issues or whatever youve got going on there, because thats something you and only you can make decisions about.

**G-Lexington** · January 22nd, 2013, 08:23 AM

Originally Posted by M10000

I checkedd my mail and I have two offers to drive me. One I would pass on but the other guy was sexy.

Good. Never accept a ride from an unattractive man.

Lex

**xbuzzerx** · January 22nd, 2013, 11:02 AM

Can someone educate me? I may be the most naive gay man on the planet. Or the least exposed. Are orgies common? Who organizes these things? Are they private parties thrown by a couple or a group of friends? Or by unofficial bathhouse clubs or?

I'm so perplexed. I wasn't seriously aware that orgies actually went on. Since Rome.

Is there etiquette to orgies? What happens if someone you really really aren't attracted to just starts manhandling you?

**G-Lexington** · January 22nd, 2013, 11:37 AM

Originally Posted by xbuzzerx

Can someone educate me? I may be the most naive gay man on the planet. Or the least exposed. Are orgies common? Who organizes these things? Are they private parties thrown by a couple or a group of friends? Or by unofficial bathhouse clubs or?

I'm so perplexed. I wasn't seriously aware that orgies actually went on. Since Rome.

Is there etiquette to orgies? What happens if someone you really really aren't attracted to just starts manhandling you?

"How do orgies work?" is a bit like asking "How do parties work?" It depends on the orgy.

Some are private affairs. You invite your sexually open friends to come over and have sex. Sometimes, a friend might suggest bringing a new friend along, but that's as far as that goes.

For the online ones, I'm assuming there's a filter in place. Somebody organizes the event and gives the date, time and vague area. Interested parties contact him, he chats with them, decides if they're "cool", and if so, he'll give the location.

I'm assuming etiquette is similar to bathhouse etiquette. Be open to possibilities, but respect people's boundaries. If you really don't want to do something, you say so, and they're supposed to respect your wishes.

No, never done one. I might be up for one someday. The fact that I tend to like "regular" people means I might enjoy it.

Lex

**palbert** · January 22nd, 2013, 11:53 AM

If I had the anxiety issues you say you have I wouldn't even consider it.

**G-Lexington** · January 22nd, 2013, 12:48 PM

I don't doubt your anxiety - I'm just unclear if an orgy is a necessary step in this equation. Because I'm guessing 99.9% of people never take part in an orgy. And 99.9% of them aren't avoiding orgies because of anxiety issues. They just have no interest in taking part. It may be that you at some point down the line said this: "I've always dreamed of taking part in an orgy. The only thing holding me back was my anxiety." And if that's really and truly the case, then yeah - go for it, and I hope it kicks ass. But if you think taking part in an orgy is just some random stepping stone towards "feeling good about myself again", I'm not sure I agree. It reads like those hucksters who say they'll teach you to "live your dreams" by making you go firewalking.

Lex

**palbert** · January 22nd, 2013, 12:55 PM

Originally Posted by M10000

So I should just waste away? not try anything?
that's productive, not

I do not know you, other than from this Forum. I do not doubt your anxiety issues. I have them myself -- although not as severe as you. I have conquered them very gradually.

Go if you think it will advance your "cure." But for goodness sake leave yourself boltholes or escapes. A full blown panic attack under these circumstances could be more regressive than therapeutic.

**diamondstar** · January 22nd, 2013, 02:32 PM

Don't do it OP I'm only teasing. Just do me a favor and be safe.

**EuroSoccer** · January 22nd, 2013, 02:45 PM

I would give it a miss if I was you mate.
An orgy with strangers is never a good idea.

**G-Lexington** · January 22nd, 2013, 02:45 PM

I haven't been with a "bunch of naked guys" since...well, I don't know. Maybe when I changed at the water park a few months ago? When I was in a steam room a couple years back? I don't think I have body issues, really (the naked photos suggest that), but neither am I all that interested in tracking down groups to be naked in. It's just not a situation I find myself in.

Again, I'm not interested in talking you out of this. I just want to make sure you're doing this for the right reason. To wit, "taking part in an orgy sound really fun and hot". If so, then yes, feel free. Play safe, play smart, but go play. But if you're still equating "not taking part in this orgy" with "giving in to my anxiety fears", I think there's a disconnect there.

Lex

**LatimerRd** · January 22nd, 2013, 05:04 PM

I'd forget it. Way too complicated.

**G-Lexington** · January 22nd, 2013, 09:26 PM

Originally Posted by M10000

Maybe Im dumb but I dont know what that means.

If I dont go, that means I am letting my anxiety get the best of me?

confused

Close. You shouldn't equate "maybe I shouldn't go to this orgy (or any orgy)" with "I'm letting my anxiety rule my life". Because there are plenty of reasons not to go to an orgy that have nothing to do with your anxiety ssues. There are other ways to push you anxiety limits that don't involve orgies.

Lex

**AlmondMilk** · January 22nd, 2013, 09:59 PM

My friend went to one to look around. I guess I'd go if it were close.

**dereperez** · January 22nd, 2013, 11:02 PM

I personally am not into orgies, but if you have a curiosity that needs to be scratched, then hey why not? But just as with most things in life, take it with a grain of salt. Find out more from the guy and if it's truly legit, he would be comfortable enough in divulging more info to you. Maybe bring a willing friend along?

**glasvegas** · January 22nd, 2013, 11:09 PM

Do it if you really want to, not someone pressuring you to. I am not into orgy, I am not even into threesome. Perhaps just watch at the sideline first then decide if you want to be in it?

**IAMTHATIAM** · January 22nd, 2013, 11:15 PM

Intimacy with strangers?

Oxymoron

To touch and be touched by...

some random person. GOOD LUCK WITH THAT.

**dereperez** · January 22nd, 2013, 11:24 PM

Originally Posted by IAMTHATIAM

Intimacy with strangers?

Oxymoron

To touch and be touched by...

some random person. GOOD LUCK WITH THAT.

Some people get off on that, nothing wrong with it. Different strokes (pun intended).

**rareboy** · January 23rd, 2013, 03:19 AM

Originally Posted by CupidBoy

Lex beat me to it.

Cupid and Lex and Palbert beat me to it.

But if you think you might enjoy it...then go for it.

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