can anyone give some tips on turning my boyfriend on

[sly-skunk]

sorry if I'm posting this in the wrong area of the site I'm new here lol anyway my boyfriend says he wants to finally have sex but I've never really done anything before I asked him what he wants me to do to him and he said to treat him.. well like he's my bitch I've really never been the dominate type so can someone give me some tips on what I can do, thanks

[medic1]

sorry if I'm posting this in the wrong area of the site I'm new here lol anyway my boyfriend says he wants to finally have sex but I've never really done anything before I asked him what he wants me to do to him and he said to treat him.. well like he's my bitch I've really never been the dominate type so can someone give me some tips on what I can do, thanks

I think that the first thing you both have to do is have an open and totally honest chat about what boundries you do not cross .
Then perhaps discuss with him what BOTH your fantasy`s are , be safe and enjoy , wishing you all the best............

[borg69unimatrix]

It sounds to me like you're both inexperienced.

I'm going to go out on a limb and assume he's telling you that because HE doesn't quite know what to do either, and is hoping you'll take the lead so he doesn't have to, and/or he's too shy to say what it is he wants.

I would suggest just exploring each others bodies, and do to him what you think you'd like done to you...

And as Medic1 suggested, LOTS of communication and safe sex.

[sixthson]

Four point restraints. Tits up for sitting on his face or riding his cock. Face down in the pillow if you want to saddle up and ride him hard. Depends on your mood.

[sly-skunk]

heh I guess I should just get over my nervousness and ask him directly.. I'll talk to him tomorrow thanks everyone

[medic1]

heh I guess I should just get over my nervousness and ask him directly.. I'll talk to him tomorrow thanks everyone

Good luck mate , hope it all goes well for you both .
Let us know how it went............. .

[stickorock]

Fuck all this talking about it before hand - sounds like a therapy session of neurotic middle age women rather than sex. Eroticism is based in a sexual tension, feeling and most of all being surprised. Explore his body with you hands and tell he must just lie there - you will tell from his reaction what he likes. Try some gentle squeezing, pinching and nibbling/biting on nipples, cock and ball as well as other sensitive areas on his body. Focusing on the whole body rather than just the traditional sexual areas can be very revealing and rewarding. Slap his arse a few few times and see if he likes that too - but always try and be inventive and not predictable. Few people are into real abuse, so whether slapping, pinching, biting etc, be gentle (but not too gentle) and find out through experience what he likes, instead of talking about it. Best to do the talking AFTERWARDS - let him tell you then what he liked. Another way to make talking less sterile and therapy-like is to tell him to close his eyes and image his fantasy guy just walked into the room - and get him to describe what this guy does to him - start acting it out as he describes it and ask him "like this?" to make sure you are getting it right. That my 2 cents, for what its worth.