Coping With A Small Penis...

[Laufey]

After reading all the posts it seems to me like you are very stubborn and that no matter what anyone says you will stick with the same attitude about this.

So there are probably just two options which MIGHT work for you. Having the surgery or trying OCD medication.

Btw can you please share with us the numbers you used to calculate that you are thinner than 97% of men?

[Laufey]

So you pretty much base it on a feeling rather than scientific data?

I think it's time to look into some research and then compare it to your own. It might not be as bad as you think it is.

[borg69unimatrix]

Wear this around town, and see what happens.

[Nishin]

Honestly, if surgery was cheap, success guaranteed and risk-free I'm pretty sure 90% of all posters in this thread would do it, myself included ...
But it's not, my only concern for you Naughty is that I think this type of surgery has a higher fail rate then others... you may end up with lumps of grease not uniformly spread enough to look natural, or a traumatized dick that will not get hard anymore etc etc so do make sure to get documented the most you can (and more) before taking a decision

[jktoooo]

I have a friend who bought a device that you can wear under your clothes that slowly pulls at your member. He swears by it and claims to have grown by at least half an inch with it. I can't attest to that but I believe him. I could find out what it was and let you know if you are that interested.

[jktoooo]

... you may end up with lumps of grease not uniformly spread enough to look natural, or a traumatized dick that will not get hard anymore etc etc so do make sure to get documented the most you can (and more) before taking a decision

that's hilarious and scary at the same time. The surgical thing is permanent, like plastic surgery. I think plastic surgery is awful and it's obvious. ....so my opinion think A LOT before deciding on permanent surgical solution.

[Laufey]

I have a friend who bought a device that you can wear under your clothes that slowly pulls at your member. He swears by it and claims to have grown by at least half an inch with it. I can't attest to that but I believe him. I could find out what it was and let you know if you are that interested.

It would not make him thicker though. If anything it could make it thinner since it stretches it.

[borg69unimatrix]

[Laufey]

I'm not proud of my penis either... I just love it.

[Laufey]

The T-shirt was about loving your cock, not being proud of it.

[Laufey]

Can you give me your girth number?

[cgymike]

Vids or it didn't happen. What the OP needs to do is to POST progress proving his dick is getting bigger. Meanwhile the only thing getting bigger here is the number of posts in this ridiculous thread.

[G-Lexington]

(that) would imply that I have a penis worth loving.

I didn't know there were qualifications for lovable cocks. Can you let me know the requirements so I don't screw up and end up loving one that's not worthy?

Lex

[birddog7]

If I had a tape measure, I would. Circumference can't be more than 2, though.

I can't quite accept that. Diameter = circumference / 3.142, which would be .64" or a bit over 5/8ths of an inch. I find that very difficult to accept. If you actually mean a diameter of 2", then you are quite large as that would be 6.3" in circumference.

Please do measure it some time, and let us know. You don't need a cloth tape, just a strip of paper or cloth, wrap it around your erect penis, mark it, and then measure from the mark with a ruler.

Mine is about 4.75" in circumference mid shaft, about 1.5" in diameter, and I'm about 5" long...

[GamerBear]

So is this really about you having a skinny penis width wise or both a small one in length & width?

[Laufey]

Waiting for the number

[Kabluey]

It's amazing how much intrigue you've managed to generate around your penis.

[G-Lexington]

Mm-hm.

Lex

[Laufey]

Have you changed your mind about measuring it?

[GamerBear]

So what is it in length, most of the time width isn't as bad as people make it out to be.

[G-Lexington]

I don't even have a ruler around the house. 2 was definitely a horrible estimate (hard to judge circumference when you're not used to measuring circular patterns) but it's still by far skinnier than most men I've seen in person.

If you really care:

1. Take a piece of string.
2. Get yourself hard. If you get performance anxiety, try again later.
3. Wrap the string around the girthiest part of your cock.
4. Lay the string flat, marking where the string intersected itself.
5. The distance from the tip of your thumb to the first knuckle is usually roughly an inch, unless you have huge or tiny hands. Use that to figure out how many inches the girth was.

Or we can just all accept that it's exceptionally, freakishly thin.

Would I have a problem with your cock if you were in bed with me? No, not in the slightest. But that doesn't matter. You obviously have decided it's a problem. In which case, perhaps you should do something about it.

Lex

[LemonMonk]

I can honestly say I don't care about the penis size of a partner. I do however care about my penis size, it is just below average. I don't find it matters, hope I am not the only one whose found this.

[GamerBear]

I can honestly say I don't care about the penis size of a partner. I do however care about my penis size, it is just below average. I don't find it matters, hope I am not the only one whose found this.

I'm basically the same way, my partner's penis is just great size about average maybe bigger. But when it comes to my size I just care so much about it, sometimes I even forget about it when nobody mentions it to me or brings it to my attention.

I've had my partner tell me once that he wishes it was bigger, it leaves me depressed but I get over it because what I've done is accept the fact of my size, you CAN NOT change it at all. Acceptance is the only solution and coming to the realization I can't do anything about it just be happy that it works is all that makes me forget about the size.

I've yet to meet or know someone whose smaller than me, but again I think the real issue with the TC is his width of his cock not the length.

[birddog7]

I'm basically the same way, my partner's penis is just great size about average maybe bigger. But when it comes to my size I just care so much about it, sometimes I even forget about it when nobody mentions it to me or brings it to my attention.

I've had my partner tell me once that he wishes it was bigger, it leaves me depressed but I get over it because what I've done is accept the fact of my size, you CAN NOT change it at all. Acceptance is the only solution and coming to the realization I can't do anything about it just be happy that it works is all that makes me forget about the size.

I've yet to meet or know someone whose smaller than me, but again I think the real issue with the TC is his width of his cock not the length.

I understand you guys on that one. My size is what concerns me, not some other guys. My size has bothered me all my life, and probably
always will.

[GamerBear]

I understand you guys on that one. My size is what concerns me, not some other guys. My size has bothered me all my life, and probably
always will.

So if you feel bad about your own penis, think of me and it will cheer you up knowing someone out there is smaller than yours.

[ChickenGuy]

I once had a guy grab my junk and say "awwwww... a Black guy with a little dick. That must suck."

How often do you have to put up with guys making these types of shallow and insulting comments at you?

If someone has no respect for you and is going to treat you like a piece of meat then I'd say move on to the next. It would certainly kill the mood immediately and turn me off having sex with them right there and then.

A shame that you're having to deal with so many (as they say in U.S.) assholes and douchebags.

[Laufey]

Well I think this thread has reached an ending point without more info.

All I can say now is I hope you manage to feel better about yourself, one way or the other.

[bankside]

I think it's hilarious so many people place the importance on the partner. I have to look at myself in the mirror every day. I couldn't give two shits if someone else is "okay" with me having a freakishly small dick.

I once had a guy grab my junk and say "awwwww... a Black guy with a little dick. That must suck."

I think it's hilarious so many people place the importance on the partner. I have to look at myself in the mirror every day. I couldn't give two shits if someone else is "okay" with me having a freakishly small dick.

I once had a guy grab my junk and say "awwwww... a Black guy with a little dick. That must suck."

See what you want to see.

[bankside]

I'm sure your penis is thinner than average. It's just math. But you seem to be denying that it is relevant whether other people find you and your cock attractive or not. I learned a long time ago not to argue with my guy about what he finds attractive. I am not my own type. But I'm not trying to turn myself on, I'm succeeding at turning him on. At least don't assume someone is just feeding you a line when they say it's not important to them. And admit that for some guys a thinner dick is what they're actually looking for.

[sixthson]

I don't think it is fair to say that as long as our partner is happy with our dicks that it is somehow not that important for us to be happy with them.

[bankside]

I'm trying to turn myself on.

Like I said, even masturbation is difficult because I'm so turned off by how small I am. There have been times where the other guy is into me and it doesn't matter because I loathe myself. This is where (surprise surprise!) you and I are different.

Fair enough, point taken. I like to feel sexy when my guy comes my way, and that mood of my own can change. Sometimes even contradicting what I enjoyed before.

I have a question for you: have you ever known someone who didn't like something permanent about himself and was down about it? Other than dick size.

[bankside]

^Thank you. A lot of folks have these ideas that the goal in our lives should be to find others to validate things in ourselves that we are insecure with. I completely disagree with that.

Oh, and that is not even close to what I was saying, or feeling, btw. I was just pointing out that whether you like it or not, other people are entitled to find you sexy and not be called a liar. That point of mine still stands, even if I agree with your other remark.

[bankside]

Only on the internet. But then again, that's probably where one feels most comfortable opening up about such things.

True enough. I hope it feels better to at least get it off your chest. And I actually agree with seeing a surgeon just for a consult. I think if people pierce their dicks and split their tongues with laser beams then finding out the risks/rewards of adding some girth would at least put an option on the table.

[sixthson]

^Thank you. A lot of folks have these ideas that the goal in our lives should be to find others to validate things in ourselves that we are insecure with. I completely disagree with that.

You aren't saying how others view you is unimportant, are you? When you feel like you don't measure up to other black men, you must be comparing yourself to them. The opinion of others can't be totally without value. Feeling inferior has it's root in comparison to others, right? If you are inferior, someone else must be superior, no?

Haven't small breasted women had to deal with their issue all their lives? Some accept themselves as they are, while others make surgical changes. Many would argue they do it just for themselves and no one else.

[G-Lexington]

I'm trying to turn myself on.

Like I said, even masturbation is difficult because I'm so turned off by how small I am. There have been times where the other guy is into me and it doesn't matter because I loathe myself. This is where (surprise surprise!) you and I are different.

This brings up another point, though. I'm assuming most straight guys aren't turned on by themselves, and yet they find a way to masturbate regardless.

But I'll reiterate that it's obviously a problem, and you should definitely look into getting the surgery.

Lex

[G-Lexington]

I'm thinking straight men like their dicks, and playing with them, mainly for the pleasure it affords them. They might take pride in having a larger one, or feel ashamed at having a smaller one, but I don't think they enjoy the whole "playing with a cock" thing the same way gay men do.

But to distill it down, you have three options.

1. Learn to accept what you've got.
2. Go under the knife to make it more impressive.
3. Stay the course.

Friend: I don't know why she's with him. He's all wrong with her.
Lex: OK, we get it. You keep bringing that up. Would you just deal with it?
Friend: I am!
Lex: Not very well.
Friend: You don't think so?
Lex: Well, you keep bitching about it.
Friend: That's my way of dealing with it.

Lex

[FaceJism]

The only realistic way to deal with this defect is to embrace it and its consequences. You don't just feel inferior to real men, you were born with a clearly inadequate sex organ that makes you obviously inferior. Your penis will always be a joke for others, regarded as cute by some, but mostly ignored. You claim you don't like to "bottom," but it's not for you to decide. Becoming a sexual female to authentic men is the destiny assigned to you by your sad excuse for genitalia.

There is enormous pleasure and satisfaction in being owned and occupied by a true, phallic male. Learn to make his pleasure your reason for existence. If it hurts, endure quietly. Eventually, your inner female nature will be unleashed and your cunt will begin to respond to his overwhelming male power. You can rub your clitoris if he allows, but don't orgasm until after he finishes breeding and you have sucked him clean. Love your inferiority to him just as you love the power of his thick, long, amazing penis.

[sixthson]

Do you feel any differently about anything after 3 pages?

[bankside]

The only realistic way to deal with this defect is to embrace it and its consequences. You don't just feel inferior to real men, you were born with a clearly inadequate sex organ that makes you obviously inferior. Your penis will always be a joke for others, regarded as cute by some, but mostly ignored. You claim you don't like to "bottom," but it's not for you to decide. Becoming a sexual female to authentic men is the destiny assigned to you by your sad excuse for genitalia.

There is enormous pleasure and satisfaction in being owned and occupied by a true, phallic male. Learn to make his pleasure your reason for existence. If it hurts, endure quietly. Eventually, your inner female nature will be unleashed and your cunt will begin to respond to his overwhelming male power. You can rub your clitoris if he allows, but don't orgasm until after he finishes breeding and you have sucked him clean. Love your inferiority to him just as you love the power of his thick, long, amazing penis.

LOL that is so not a hot fetish, and I'm so glad I can say that here because this isn't the fetish forum.

[G-Lexington]

For the record, I like being treated like a piece of meat. But apparently, the meat isn't good enough and I'm only worth being liked for my personality. Which is total bullshit.

It IS enjoyable being treated as a piece of meat from time to time. Although it's far more likely for someone to say "you're hot" than "I like your cock". I can't say as I've wanted more compliments on my cock, but yeah, it's nice to hear them.

I'd spend more time disagreeing with your gay/straight theories, but I've yet to even understand the relevance.

Agreed. Dropped.

Most of what I'm saying here is me responding to folks trying convince me that there is no real issue.

Should we tally up all the threads of yours that reached at least a second page, where people continually failed to "get" you? Where they continually applied their (uninformed) beliefs on "how things are" to you when they apparently didn't apply? Where you were basically reduced to finding different ways to phrase the same two sentence response to the same mind-bogglingly stupid suggestions?

I don't share this issue with you, but there are certainly other places where my body, my responses, my issues, my thoughts deviate from the accepted norms. And I don't mind stating them when the situation arises. But neither do I ask JUB or the world at large what I should be doing about these things. Because I know their responses will almost certainly not be applicable to me. Or I would've dropped another fifty pounds, done some major manscaping, gotten rid of my grandpa underwear, and started mooning after Ryan Gossling by this point.

Lex

[palemale]

Basically that it may not be worth the risk. But I also want to know the risks, because right now I have no chance of being happy with what I have, so I may not really have anything to lose anyway.

The place I originally signed up for consultation with hasn't gotten back to me, so I just signed with another local clinic.

Nothing any of us can say, it seems, is going to make you feel better about your penis. The problem, however, isn't your penis. The brain is the most important sex organ in the body. It is good that you have spoken to a therapist about this. However, any mental health professional who would urge you to get surgery is nuts and you should see a new one.

Early in your thread you asked how guys cope with this. This is what you should focus on, not changing your penis surgically. People have to learn how to cope mentally with all types of physical short comings, real or perceived. Some people have very prominent birth marks on their face, or bad acne, or they are just, plain, butt ugly. They do learn to cope. Focus on yourself mentally. You might discover that you don't have much coping to do after all.

If all else fails, I'm in New York. I would be more than happy to give you an objective and unbiased opinion about your penis.

[sixthson]

Finally found a ruler. Just under 4.

You got an erection just for us? Sweeeet!

[ChickenGuy]

I am butt ugly.

I'm now beginning to wonder if you have the same condition as M10000, the body dysmorphia or whatever it's called, where NO AMOUNT of hundreds or thousands of people telling you that you're NOT UGLY will make the SLIGHTEST difference.

I and many other JUBbers would say you're extremely attractive in looks. Do you think we're deceiving you, or patronising you, or pandering to you? Do you try to find an excuse in your head for why what we say isn't true?

[Nishin]

I am butt ugly.

You just lost all credibility babe ...

[G-Lexington]

I and many other JUBbers would say you're extremely attractive in looks. Do you think we're deceiving you, or patronising you, or pandering to you? Do you try to find an excuse in your head for why what we say isn't true?

Have you missed all of his posts? It doesn't matter what WE think of him. What matters is what HE thinks of him. HE thinks he's ugly, and HE thinks he has a small penis. He wants to be attractive - TO HIM - and he wants to have a desirable penis - TO HIM. And he currently is unattractive TO HIM, and has an undesirable penis TO HIM. And neither of those things will change because one, two, ten, ten thousand people tell him otherwise. It'll change when he changes himself into something that he DOES think is attractive, and when his penis is a size that is acceptable to him.

I'm curious: what would such a tally prove?

Just that you seem to have a propensity to start conversations/discussions/advice-seeking among the hoi polloi who are unable to give you what you're looking for. I think you've proved that the site is full of exceptionally slow people who don't get you, on many levels, but I'm guessing that wasn't really the point of all the threads.

Lex

[G-Lexington]

(deleted for double posting)

Lex

[ChickenGuy]

If what you say is true Lex, then it does rather seem to render all our suggestions and opinions pointless.

[GamerBear]

wow...really?

that was a bit...messed up. Not very considerate of your feelings...

Like Jules said in Pulp Fiction. "If my answers frighten you then you should cease asking scary questions."

I asked the BF the question and he told me the answer, it wasn't the one I wanted to hear but it made me realize that I have to accept it and be a forced bottom. That's what a lot of JUB members here always say about guys with small dicks. It's just the truth.

[Laufey]

The way you have been talking I was expecting it to be deformed or something.

Then it turns out you are just slightly under average.

What I get from this thread is that you are just a extremely negative person. One thing wanting a bigger dick (most of us do)... but to let this "problem" prevent you from ever being happy is just all in your head. If you would have your penis surgically "fixed" then you would just find something else to obsess about.

If my penis was the same size yours is... a birthmark on my face would bother me more.

Your goal should be to get cured from the obsessive depressing mindset. Changing your body won't change your mind.

[G-Lexington]

So what is this thread, then? An announcement? "I'm looking into getting my penis surgically enhanced, and don't fucking tell me that I should learn to love myself as I am, because I don't and I won't"?

Lex