Guy in My Class?

[Tomruyssss]

I'm in a small local college and there's this cute EX marine guy in my class. He's white but has a Puertorican girlfriend. Anyways I'm not really out in college, I was out to some people in HS but in College haven't told anybody and really watch the things I do, so I maintain a level of masculinity. (hes 30 so he doesn't know about me being out in HS at all) but I've had about 3 classes with him, but this last class we were forced in a group by our teacher with 2 other girls. He seems to be a pretty cool guy, really relaxed and chill. But something just tells me he's bi-bicurious.

1.Every time I come into class he'll look up and smile at me as I walk past him and says Hi
and is always the first to say "Take Care Man" or something like that to me when I leave class and just say a general bye to my group

2. I sit directly behind him but he'll kinda turn his head to look back at (what I think is me) every few minutes (theres only 2 other women who sit in the back and they're way older and very unattractive)

3.He'll try to talk to me sometimes, even the most random things, like his dryer being broken outta the blue (which i think is just to have a reason to talk to me)

4.He loves Puerto Ricans, and me being one we talk a lot about PR life esp Food
or he'd try to make small talk about class or projects

5.Last semester I did a presentation in my Sociology class comparing the Gay Rights Movement to the Black Rights Movement so I'm thinking he might think I'm gay/bi from that possibly

It's tricky, I mean I would like to hang out with him once in a while just because he's a pretty cool, relaxed chill guy, but I wouldn't mind giving him a discreet BJ too. But I know he's definitely into Puerto Ricans. He doesn't get on the computer much, but I added him on Facebook and accepted but Idk what to say to him or how to approach this, since we're not super close or anything, and don't know much about eachother to kind of build up a decent conversation


I'm Bisexual btw and Don't want a relationship with him, friends and maybe fuck buddies

[seven2go]

Fuck the facebook bullshit.......
You SEE him all the time...so talk to his FACE.
How hard is it to ask if he'd like to have a coffee (or whatever) with you sometime?

[sixthson]

You probably should respect that he has a gf. Why not ask him for coffee and just get to know him better as a friend?

[Ganoderma]

4.He loves Puerto Ricans, and me being one we talk a lot about PR life esp Food or he'd try to make small talk about class or projects. (...). I'm Bisexual btw and Don't want a relationship with him, friends and maybe fuck buddies

#4 is great, as you have loads and loads of shared topics for conversations that can go on and on and on (etc.). React friendly to him, and why not invite him to drink coffee (or hang out, or whatever), or cook together? Towards my opinion, you can talk with him for hours and hours.

Definately, he is not a homophobe (given your presentation). So why not tell him / let him know that you are bi? Are there homophobes at your college?

But please be aware that there is the possibility that he is straight (and don't forget he has a girlfriend), and that he likes you very much: (a) because you are a nice & friendly etc. guy, and (b) because you are a Puerto Rican as well.

Good luck & please keep us informed.

[jayzeenc]

I've known a number of Marines, very few of whom felt their sexuality threatened by a stereotypical masculine male who happens to be gay. In fact, most, but unfortunately not all, have at some point approached me about sex. In every case, each of them wanted to bottom, and not just bottom but be dominated, to have all control taken away and assumed by another man. Psychologically, I always racked it up to thinking that their having to be this hyper-masculine soldier machine exhausted them and they sought an opportunity to escape it to the Nth degree. The difficulty though with the ones I had sex is that they were all so very different at home versus in public, and I am someone who needs consistency. I hurt for them because I saw how they recognized the lack of integrity in their character. What were they? Labels? Some were definitely straight. Some were most certainly gay. Some were simply horny, or confused, or wanting to be anything other than what they had determined society expected them to be. The few with whom I didn't have sex I was able to have very open honest friendships, though I saw this same brokenness in them as well. I remember one guy, just returned from deployment, a friend of a friend, had a bit much to drink and fell asleep in my bed. Everyone else had left and I had decided to snooze on the sofa to give him space. He actually came and got me and said, "Dude, I'm not coming onto you, but I just need someone to hold me and make me feel safe." I held him throughout the night and he stayed with me a few more days. We cooked together, laughed together, never had sex, but we were also very comfortable nude in front of one another for showers, etc. He eventually returned to his home of origin in another state. I hope he's happy wherever he might be today. I also hope his experience with me has led him to advocate for equality for his friends. Best wishes...

[jleon83]

He has a girlfriend so I say avoid him. Try becoming friends with him & if the relationship fails then step in. You said you don't want a relationship so be the rebound guy lol. If the vibe is there go for it at the approproiate time.

[LatinJay]

Safest course of action? Just be normal. Make small talk. Don't flirt or come on to him or anything like that. Let him decide where it goes. Let him invite you for coffee or beer or something. He may just think you're a cool guy, and that you have some things in common. Hell, maybe he's just looking for a friend. Admire him from a distance, (or when you're alone with your dick in your hand), but don't just assume that he might be bi because he pays you some attention.

[jmadaf]

Maybe he has no guy friends, just a GF, and wants male companionship. Have coffee or a beer with him and say you love hangin out with him, and see where it leads. Good luck.

[The lad of night]

Fuck the facebook bullshit.......
You SEE him all the time...so talk to his FACE.
How hard is it to ask if he'd like to have a coffee (or whatever) with you sometime?

You sir have given me an idea
But seriosly in these times technology can almost be so easy to access that it makes simple face to face difficult

[seven2go]

^ Except there is no substitute for the spoken word or the reaction to it....... .......it's in the face babe.......

[syoBsUtsuJ]

Nothing ventured - nothing gained. I had one friend in college whom I drooled over, and he knew I was gay. He told me right off the bat that he hated whenever he had gay friends they'd be constantly hitting on him, so I didn't. He'd come over and pick me up for drives to nowhere that would last for hours. Years later, he FB'ed me and IMed me saying that he was mad I didn't try anything. I caught a few of the signals, but I didn't want to be that gay guy in constant pursuit of that highly prized straight guy.

Ha ha, I told him flat-out not to be mad at me, because it is a two-way street; he could have initiated, and of course, I would have been seduced at "hello." Now years later he wants me to fly back to San Diego so he can have his first gay experience. I told him that as super sexy as he is, I can't see myself paying $456 for sex. He got immediately mad thinking that I was referring to him charging me, but I was talking just about the airfare. Shit, he's in Cali and there are hotties a-plenty there, and he's a hottie and a half himself.

It's 2012, dude, go for it ... even should he decline your magnanimous offer, I'm sure that he'll be flattered by the gesture.

[Tomruyssss]

Damn haha thats a pretty cool story. And yeah I might do that, I just gave him my number on facebook today so we'll see what happens.

[seven2go]

Oooooo........this is getting good.......