Guys Are Fucking Weird

[Harke the Boeotarch]

You're on a steep learning curve.

[Telstra]

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Everyone had that experience as you ...

[HunterM]

Start dating women. They sit by the phone waiting for their guys to call!

Learn from Glenn Close:
"Well, what am I supposed to do? You won't answer my calls, you change your number. I mean, I'm not gonna be ignored, Dan! "

[sixthson]

Naughty baby, other than sex partners, you have the worst luck with men. Do you think it is some kind of game?

[loveguys72]

Been there, done that--had the t-shirt and wore it until it faded.

Just mentally call him a 'motherfucker' and keep about your way. You'll go crazy trying to figure out why some people do such idiotic things.

Quoted for truth!

[evanrick]

maybe he died. maybe he was faking it.

[glasvegas]

It happened to me for a few times. One was head on macking on me on our first date, saying I am adorable blah blah and then the next day he vanished. Other was nice, telling me he finds me really interesting and want to know me more, texted back and forth and then he decided not to reply, which is fine, but then he texted me in Grindr few weeks later which I ignored.

[Just_Believe18]

Go on a date, have a great time, we're both excited to see each other again, text each other back and forth and then he goes completely cold and doesn't respond to anything anymore.

What the hell is that all about?

I can honestly say that in any point in my life, if I've seen a guy and have indicated to him that I am interested in him that I'll communicate to him when that interest changes. The whole concept of leaving someone hanging like that is just ridiculous. I don't get it at all.

Yup, it happens to all of us. Most recently for me. A FWB for 2 months suddenly stops replying to texts. Respectfully called a few times and texted with zero response. Huge asshole, and I'll never know why.

[sixthson]

In a place like JUB, there must be some guys guilty of doing this to others. Maybe they could post and give some insight?

[G-Lexington]

Guys Are Fucking Weird

I KNOW! Isn't it great?!

I seem to recall you saying you didn't date, you didn't want to be in a relationship, you were happy with just hooking up and not dating at all, etc. But here's another "I tried dating a guy and it didn't work out" from you. Just stop forcing the square peg in the round hole. You're different - you don't need to date, so don't.

Lex

[refujiunderground]

dude, i think you worry too much about not being able to find somebody. if one doesn't fall through, then another will. you'll find that guy. after all, you live in new york.

[cgymike]

Yeah well recently I travelled a few hundred kilometres after dating the guy on line and over the phone for months. It only took a few minutes of meeting for us to decide there was really no chemistry romantic or otherwise. Ugh...I just hate dating. But I can't say he was deceptive nd everything clicked up to the meeting. Btw before and leading up to the meeting there were frequent emails/phone calls. After...nothing. It just proves you can't do anything long distance and I think I never will again. The screen, the phone all a lie!
But I guess it would have been worse had the rejection came solely from him (and I would have found him hot). As it was neither of us were interested so yeah...

Fuckkkkkkkkkk.

So yeah I would retitle your thread to "Dating is weird"...

[sixthson]

But it seems as though my heart is more than ready be given to someone should the opportunity present itself. A very odd development, but there it is.

Imagine that!

[sixthson]

^NOTHING to be happy about.

A heart that's open to love is always something to be happy about, my friend.

[loveguys72]

Yo, NA, don't be so hard on yourself. There's plenty of people willing to do it for you.

Good luck with your new love interest!

[bw92116]

He doesn't feel a connection after ONE date? So he just drops you?
Does he need to be electrified on the first date in order to be interested?
Sounds pretty shallow to me.

[Laufey]

Usually it just means he wasn't as interested as you thought he was. Or he's afraid of commitment.

It seems like most guys just cut you off instead of telling you the truth. Cowards.

[umjreon88]

OP, it's good that he has replied. Coz I've had such an experience before. The guy just completely did not reply after meeting and a day of texting. I thought the coffee date was great and we clicked on all levels. He was someone I thought I could see a long-term future with. Oh well, so much for giving people chance upon chance and they took it for granted. Next!

Maybe dating isn't weird, it's the men who are, plus the douchey attitude!

People, be nice!