Being older, is it the end?

[TRITON]

Im 74 and still active got cut when 69 improved sex .rock on

[Corny]

Definitely not. Just yesterday we were at a gay party and there was this AWESOME old couple. I would have guessed they were at least in the middle of their 60s. But instead of trying to still look as young as possible, they did their hair very neatly and orderly and one was dressed a bit like Ian McKellen in this pic



and this other one a bit more plain, with grey linen pants, white shirt, black suspenders and a flat cap. This one was next to me at the bar and I told him that they are the most awesome couple here tonight. I hope it made his day/night

[Alistair]

^ well said Hardup. We've got many examples of couples like the one Corny mentioned here on JUB. I know Lube is in a wonderful relationship for one example. He's no where near as old as the couple corny described I don't want to offend him that way.

[FPNY]

How old is old these days anyways? I need to know before I comment. I might not even be old yet.....

[HoodedRat]

17+ seems to be considered old these days.

[Essex Boy]

When I started my first job at the age of 16 my boss was 30. I felt embarrassed calling him by his first name because he was a Grown-up. He seemed very mature. Now I think of anyone under 35 as a young whippersnapper.

[G-Lexington]

Hell no. If I were single, I think I'd really enjoy dating and hooking up and all that. As it is, I'm really enjoying being in a relationship. And lots of people seem to think we kick ass.

Lex

[Beachguyj]

30 is a senior citizen in the gay community.

[DanikShade]

Dating an older guy has advantages. We have a hell of a lot more money, a lot more talent, and experiences that teach us to enjoy the moment I was just catching my stride at 30

[ozguy]

When I was in my teens & twenties, I used to think that once you got past 40 it probably was the end. Well, I'm in my late 50's now and guess what .... it's not the end at all! Still living and loving life to the full (and getting my fair share of cock, too)!!

[Orlandude]

30 is a senior citizen in the gay community.

Only if you're 18 or 19.

[Beachguyj]

How do you find an old man in the dark?

It's not hard.

[DanikShade]

Listen for the dentures to clink in the glass? Listen for his joints to creak? Listen for labored breathing? Lol the list goes on and on. Look for the glow of his pace make power pack? Find the squishy lump under the covers...

[cabsterman]

Late 40s here and in great shape!!.... and having a great time with guys younger and older too. Safely of course! Not in the "older" bracket until your around 85. Can still have sex at that age too. Still have a tongue to eat out ass and enjoy life.

[Spiff]

Im thinking 35, I'll be dead in dating game.

Well if that's what you are thinking, that's what will likely happen. Only you can live your life.

[Scealle]

Depends, but I would say not really. We learn more things as we grow older anyway.

[bw92116]

Yes, it's the end.

The end of waking up with a hangover.
The end of being controlled by your hormones and desires.
The end of worrying about paying the rent.
The end of frantically looking to get laid.
The end of stolen street signs used as decor.
The end of late-night phone calls to try and fix something.
The end of having to buy the latest pop diva album.
The end of "tricks" and hookups.
The end of injuries due to taking silly risks.
The end of leftover issues from your childhood.
The end of that clunky used car you've been driving.
The end of irresponsibility.

But the end of your sex life? That ends when you no longer have a penis.

[loveguys72]

LOL at "the dating game."

The fact that it's a "game" is exactly why I want nothing to do with it.

Living your life and being open to compatible men that come into your life? Awesome. Playing silly "games" to attract people? Fucking dumb.

This. Live your life as you wish, enjoy the life you have, and take whatever comes in stride.

[mikey3000]

I prefer guys my age and up (i'm 43). They are much more skilled and more sensual. I've found that the younger guys just want random, anonymous fucking. No thanks.

[Beachguyj]

Whatever age your are you can find guys your own age. Hopefully they are looking for the same thing. Too many idiots out there 60s and up looking for 20 year olds.

[DanikShade]

So even in this economy, age guarantees financial stability?

And now the effect of traumatic childhood experiences come with an expiration?

When did this all happen?

Not all of us suffer trauma, some of us worked damn hard and are financially stable. Some of us, young and old, rolled with the punches and moved on. That cheesy old expression is true... That which does not kill us makes us stronger

[DanikShade]

Whatever age your are you can find guys your own age. Hopefully they are looking for the same thing. Too many idiots out there 60s and up looking for 20 year olds.

The opposite is true as well.

[Lefty]

What a load of crap.

Being older is what happens when you get up tomorrow.

Being old is what will happen in another 10 years

And in 20 you will be really fucking old...

everybody should know this...

And Corny, if you had said something like that to me...

I'd have caned you proper

and then run over your ass

with my wheel chair.

[refujiunderground]

What a load of crap.

Being older is what happens when you get up tomorrow.

Being old is what will happen in another 10 years

And in 20 you will be really fucking old...

everybody should know this...

And Corny, if you had said something like that to me...

I'd have caned you proper

and then run over your ass

with my wheel chair.

pretty much. cosign what you said. there's nothing wrong with getting older. as long as you're alive, it's NEVER too late to enjoy life. it annoys me whenever i hear my mom talking about as soon as you reach my age (she's in her late 50s), that your life is finished and you can't enjoy life as you did at your age. people really don't appreciate life as they claim they do because they're ready to stop living it at a certain point. things might not be as exciting as they were before because you're used to them but as long as you're living, it's never too late to enjoy life or live out your dreams. i'm a late bloomer/learner so i guess i'm cool with the idea of growing old.

[HoodedRat]

But the end of your sex life? That ends when you no longer have a penis.

I think most women would probably disagree with that.

[Telstra]

Yes most people dies at 70 plus, 80 plus, 90 plus ... ?
So i hope you live well to that age.

[DanikShade]

I'm not saying we all did. What I'm saying is that his post makes it seem like being older automatically equals financial stability and escaping childhood trauma. I don't agree, and I'm not aware of any findings that support what he said either.

So your response to a generalization is... a generalization. Hmmmm. There is the slightest possibility you're over thinking this. Its a minor thread on an internet web site populated by people who for the most part have never met and freely spout opinions just to see what reactions they can get. It's not worth getting upset over. If you try to find 'findings" to support every opinion you're going to wear yourself out.

Another advantage to age and maturity, you learn when to drop something as insignificant or irrelevant Give it a try sometime.

[DanikShade]

after reading this i feel depressed

No reason to. You don't have to crawl in a coffin on your 30th BD. You could actually break the stereotype and actually try going on. A few of us made it lol.

[Beachguyj]

The opposite is true as well.

I've never met someone in their 20s looking for a man in their 60s. I would assume some gold diggers are out there, and some guys want a daddy, I mean granddaddy.

[DanikShade]

I've never met someone in their 20s looking for a man in their 60s. I would assume some gold diggers are out there, and some guys want a daddy, I mean granddaddy.

You've never seen it so naturally its never happened right? I have a friend in NC who is 65, his partner is 24. THey've been together for 5 years. Seem pretty happy. They just started a bed & breakfast. The 24 year old busts his ass working on their business, doesn't seem to be a gold digger.

So much for fighting stereotypes lol. They're alive and well in our own ranks.

[Lefty]

Hey Armi,

One of my heroes made 84 in May.

His spouse is 20 years behind him.

Golfs 3 X a week, 18 holes each and no cart.

Bowls on a league and every other Friday

its guys poker night ...

[cgymike]

Well your sex drive goes down compared to being 18 but dating is a lot more than that anyway so you find ways to make it just as good as it was because as you get older you just find/discover new ways to improve the quality of dating rather than focusing on how many orgasms you have each day. But also in the dating process you may have fewer people to choose from than you did when young but then again you don't have all the competition either. I was rejected more when young on superficial things than now because most older guys who are looking for guys in their own age group are not going to be so judgmental about physical aspects. We all have some wrinkles or an extra kilo or 10 maybe (NOT an extra 50 kilos mind you). So that means in general your chances are not greatly reduced because of that compensation. There are of course olders looking just for younger but I am excluding those because IMO they are in the minority EXCEPT just for hookup but here we are hopefully talking about something more relationship oriented. But if we aren't then you also have to consider that when you get older you open up a whole group of younger guys (sugar daddy) that wouldn't have been interested in you as a younger guy. Again you can see the compensation.

[Harke the Boeotarch]

The end of irresponsibility.

Tell that to the geriatrics who have been 'running' my country for the last twenty years.

[star-warrior]

Everyone has a thought or two about the inevitable. But, since people die in childhood, in their teens, twenties and so on, old becomes relative.

Some wise old bird once said something like "Live each day fully as if it's your last". Make sure everyone you know appreciates the now also.

[palbert]

It will be unless you submit Gardening Pics!!

[floridaboy]

both my neighbors right now are old gay guys. I dont live in a gay community or anything, just happened to move in between two elderly gay couples

[ozguy]

It will be unless you submit Gardening Pics!!

I'm working on it!

[mikey3000]

I'm not saying we all did. What I'm saying is that his post makes it seem like being older automatically equals financial stability and escaping childhood trauma. I don't agree, and I'm not aware of any findings that support what he said either.

You never agree with anything anyone says. And I do have "findings" to support that hypothesis. Just check every thread you ever posted on.

[Audio Tech]

I think it depends on where you live and how well you keep yourself.

[mikey3000]

I prefer guys my age and up (i'm 43). They are much more skilled and more sensual. I've found that the younger guys just want random, anonymous fucking. No thanks.

On second thought, have as much sex as you want when you're young. I did, way more than my fair share too. That's what youth is all about. Have fun. As I'm getting older, I don't want that kind of sex anymore. But I sure had fun when I was young.

[Lefty]

You're to old to get castrated, your voice has already changed. If you want to get castrated then you might

as well say fuck it and go for the whole remodel. Vagina remodel from testes sack, trim the cock back to clitoris

size and hang a set of tits on you. Then we'll have to call you Princess Josette and not let you into the Mens Room.

[Saybrooke]

Joe, I'm worried about you. Have a hug!

<(^.^)>

[Saybrooke]

Hey cutie, I'm going to bed. Ttfn

[ozguy]

..... have as much sex as you want when you're young. I did, way more than my fair share too. That's what youth is all about. Have fun. As I'm getting older, I don't want that kind of sex anymore. But I sure had fun when I was young.

Kind of how I feel, too. Spontaneous, frequent, wild sex is great when you're young, but it's definitely not something I yearn for now that I'm in the 55+ age group. A slow & satisfying head job does me quite nicely these days!

[sixthson]

If I understand the OP correctly (and I may not be), he has no problem getting sex. He just is not finding it enough.
Not everyone is cut out for non-stop casual sex, especially those who don't know what real love it. Sex does not equal love.

I realize many feel that youth is a time for sowing their wild oats by having lots of sex with lots of different guys.
I see youth as time for love and making lots of love with someone you truly love. The days of our lives pass by so quickly and before we know it, we have built a foundation for our lives. The question is what kind of foundation? You reach the age of 40 and with all the sex partners you have learned to be good at sex, but is that all there is? Have you learned about putting another person first, have you learned about genuine commitment and loyalty? Have you learned about kindness and tenderness? Have you learned how to be genuinely intimate with another person? In other words, have you learned how to love? When you are in your early 20s, life often seems carefree and what a wonderful time that is for learning how the share and laugh and be playful with one other person. These might seem like simple things, but by the time you reach your 30s and life becomes much more serious and demanding, these simple things will pay big dividends because they will be a major part of the foundation of your life.

I can assure you that in your 40s, the passion you feel for each other is great. It's not the passion of a new relationship. It's the passion of deep love, exclusive love, proven love. Have you ever seen the bud of a flower begin to open? It's a beautiful thing full of anticipation for what it will become. But it's not until the flower is fully opened that you can see it's real beauty. This is what love is like--magnificent in it's beginnings, but perfected over time.

Also, when two people are in love and healthy and vital, sex is better than ever.

A long time ago I noticed something. I awakened in the middle of the night and we were holding hands in our sleep. I've awakened to that many times over the years. Even in our unconscious slumber, we are drawn to each other.

I guess my point is this: while we can't help getting older, love matures but never gets old.

[sixthson]

Once again, has any study suggested that those who have suffered childhood trauma had those experience expire with age? Because if not, I don't understand the problem you had with my comment.

I'm not sure what childhood trauma you are referring to, but if you mean molestation, I can tell you, as someone who was molested, that it never expires. There can be healing, but memories rarely die. At least that is what I think. I know I have had to work hard in my relationships to overcome certain things because of it. As a friend used to say "molestation, the gift that keeps on giving".

[HunterM]

Joswan,
You sounded like you are in a depression. Go see a counselor for help. Or get a new iPhone 5! That cheered me up instantly.

[loveguys72]

Ok, Joswan, here's my best shot. Love is about more than sex and physical attraction. You can get those all day every day anywhere you choose. Love is about committing your whole self and your whole life to another person. Not because he's hot, not becuase he's the best lay you've ever had, but because you care about what happens to each other, that you want to be with each other not just when times are fun and good, but even more so when times are bad. And it's true that love will swell and ebb over time. That's natural. He'll drive you mad sometimes, and you'll do the same to him. But if it's real and true, you get past the temporary nonsense and noise and see the bigger picture: that this is someone who has your back, always, who'll be there for you when no one else is. Someone who knows all your secrets, all your hurts, all your regrets, all your flaws, and loves you because of them, because they're a part of the whole you, and the whole you is the man he loves above all others.

Life isn't always fun. Sometimes it's utter crap. Sometimes it's thrills and laughs a minute. But mostly, it's just the day to day process of living, and taking delight in the small joys we encounter along the way. Being in love with someone makes that process richer and more meaningful, as you have someone to share it with.

Finally, love can come along at any time. More often than not, it's quiet and unassuming. There probably won't be fireworks or little starburts all around. You'll be talking to a guy, maybe someone you've known for a while, maybe someone you've only just met, and it will suddenly dawn on you "this is who I belong with."

Live your life, Jo. Love will come along in it's own time. When it does, embrace it.

[rareboy]

Well allow me to weigh in.

My partner and I have been together 30 years.

I know from other men's experience that some of them only found their perfect partner in their 40's or even 50's. One as late as 65, if memory serves me correctly.

There is no age limit for love and affection.

What there is....and let me be perfectly blunt about this....is a trend among the very young toward an anti-socilaism...or a stupid virginal romanticism that I can guarantee you will leave more of you unattached and lonely than you can shake a stick at. Unless you get out there and take some risks...particularly emotional as well as sexual...and by that I don't mean going bareback....I mean letting the sex happen and happen without fifteen dates before you blow the guy.

I met the two loves of my life...including my partner of 30 years and tore the sheets up the very first date with each.

Get out there. Spread love.

[Lefty]

Josie,

First, are you still being silly and mad at me?

Second, leave your penis alone. If you cut it off you will have to pee sitting down
and the world is full of disgusting toilet seats....especially in the Mens' Rooms.

Now don't get all pissy here but think about this...
you got to try on a lot of pants to find the perfect fit.

You got a 'friend' that wants to investigate natural urges with you, wear
protection and BOTH of you have a good time. It's not a great idea to buy
the first car you see on the lot, thats why they have test drives.

Seriously my little neurosis, stop internalizing everything and doing Tab A/Slot B.
Thats for OLD OLD OLD folks that no longer want to bother with the other.

Shuffle the cards, roll the dice and pull the handles. Life is a trip to Las Vegas.
Do what you can while you can now. Save the coulda/shoulda/woulda for when
you can't anymore.

Bottom line, you got to give to get. Last time I was in Neiman Marcus, Bellevue store,
they had no Prince Charmings in stock...shit, neither did Nordstoms or Bealls.