Bear & Twink Dating - Does it exist?

[jm12480]

I'm 31, and not really old enough to be a "daddy." I'm hairy all over, so I guess I fall into the category of "big brother bear." I'm 5'10", weigh about 230 - 240 (I do work out, so my weight fluctuates), and am pretty handsome.

One thing I've always struggled with is the whole stigma of not chasing after guys because I fear they won't want me due to my looks. We all have our insecurities, and we're all a work in progress. That being said, at the end of the day, the kinds of guys that I'm attracted to are more on the athletic/twinky side - smooth, young-ish bottoms. And I often feel I have to apologize for it, because I guess it's seen as hypocritical in the gay community to chase after something you're not and never "can have." But, after reading many messages on this board, it does seem that there are quite a few guys that would interest me who like a bigger, hairy, masculine man such as myself.

So....where do you go to find your "opposite" who's looking for you? I tend to do the online dating/chatting thing a bit. Are there websites where opposites go to find each other? Any leads would help greatly. I don't date a whole lot, but as I get older, I'm starting to want to branch out, date more, and find a very special guy to call my own.

Thanks, gents!

[WestCoastWilson]

Jm12480, if I were you, I would make sure that you put a little posting about yourself in the "Make Friends - Introductions and Connections" of JUB (via the link below). It would also help if you state where you live and post at least a good face photo of yourself in your posting.

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=49

If you have not done so already, you might consider placing a profile on the following websites:

biggercity.com

bearciti.com

bear 411 .com

As I think that all of those websites cater to men (young and old) who look like you and their admires.

Good luck.

Wilson

[Today4U1989]

It definitely happens. I'm twinkish and I most often date bears, cubs, and stockier muscle-types. My preference also leans toward older or older looking. My past three boyfriends have all been in the cub-bear range.

[Bi for Older]

lucky you, those are the only type of relationships I see. I'm not really completely smooth so after I met a guy that I liked, he changed his profile's preference to 'smooth guys.' So yeah, you'll have no problem.

try silverdaddies.com

[nabbytho]

Don't worry so much about it, it will happen just put yourself out there. I met my ex at a frat party, he was big, hairy, buff, with a bit of a belly. I'm a slender gymnast, so yeah, you can find it, just don't loose hope!

[43FORTWINKLTR]

Fort lauderdale,fl...
Looking for twink boys 18+ for ltr and hot man play. .
Very cool,down to earth,friendly,high sex drive. Hit me up. Tj here

[scooter63]

Fort lauderdale,fl...
Looking for twink boys 18+ for ltr and hot man play. .
Very cool,down to earth,friendly,high sex drive. Hit me up. Tj here

How come you hijacked this guys thread to post a personal ad in it? If you are looking for that, then start your own thread.

Please be considerate of others.

Thank you, rant over.

[mt2286]

Yes these relationships are real. I have had a healthy one for 7 years now.

[txbonhomme]

I'm sure there're twinks out there who're into bears and daddies. We humans are so so complex, and we're all individually different. Just because one twink has rejected you doesn't mean they all will, so don't get discouraged. You just have to keep on looking and not quit.

[Florent]

31 is old enough to be a daddy to someone my age.

[kingston]

Yes, it exists! I know this because I am a slim, smooth 23 year old and my boyfriend is 35 and a big hairy bear!

I found him on Biggercity and contacted him. I think Biggercity in particular is a great website for this kind of thing. The reason I say that is because when searching profiles you can filter results based on how you and other people identify (for example - bear seeking bear, chub seeking chub, bear seeking chaser). We have been together for just over three months and our relationship is AMAZING. We have SO much in common. Anyway, your thread is not the right place to gush about that, haha.

Honestly, just put yourself out there and don't let porn fool you... there ARE gay men out there that look for that contrast in looks and size and don't want to just fuck their clones (hm, that sentence sounds negative but it's not supposed to be).

Good luck!

[WestCoastWilson]

Yes, it exists! I know this because I am a slim, smooth 23 year old and my boyfriend is 35 and a big hairy bear!

I found him on Biggercity and contacted him. I think Biggercity in particular is a great website for this kind of thing. The reason I say that is because when searching profiles you can filter results based on how you and other people identify (for example - bear seeking bear, chub seeking chub, bear seeking chaser). We have been together for just over three months and our relationship is AMAZING. We have SO much in common. Anyway, your thread is not the right place to gush about that, haha.

Honestly, just put yourself out there and don't let porn fool you... there ARE gay men out there that look for that contrast in looks and size and don't want to just fuck their clones (hm, that sentence sounds negative but it's not supposed to be).

Good luck!

Ummm . . . "What Kingston, said." LOL! Great idea about Biggercity.Com, Kingston! I had forgot about that site, that is a great place for bears & cubs to find chasers and chasers to find bears & cubs.

Wilson

[Ichigofang16]

I'm kinda twinkish and i like bears--especially young cub bears

[JonnyTheFox]

If I read anything in a personal ad that remotely resembles a description akin to "I'm handsome" or "I'm sexy" then I'll move straight on to the next ad.

It's not for you to decide, and it comes across as being conceited. Not an attractive trait.

[DonMartino]

If I read anything in a personal ad that remotely resembles a description akin to "I'm handsome" or "I'm sexy" then I'll move straight on to the next ad.

It's not for you to decide, and it comes across as being conceited. Not an attractive trait.

Couldnt agree more. God, thats such a turn off to read

[aaggii]

Of course it exist. I was in 2 relationships like this and the last one is still going strong, living together for almost a year now. I´m 23 and he, in a week, is 48.

[bike10]

Love this kind of relationship of experence meats novice.

[mt2286]

Ill be 27 in June and My husband just turned 64 and we have been together 7 years this August

[Melgum]

Sure it exists. I am 40 and my boy is 25, slim and smooth, although if you called hima twink he would have a sense of humour failure. But if you mean smooth, tomed/slim lads liking larger older guys, it is more widespread than you imagine. Do not fall for the 'media image'...

[Youngcub93]

I would say it defiantly does. I typically identify in the bear community more because it what I find attractive. All though I have a very bear like personality and most of my friends are bears, I myself am a twenty year old five eight 150lb IT guy and the only really part that make me a twink is the beard and my personality. But my boyfriend is thirty four and he's a big ol bearded bear. We have been talking for two years and I just love him to pieces. Most people are insecure about how they look. I think look like a fifteen year old white Ethiopian child. I hate the way I look and my boyfriend dislikes his size. But sometimes the worst thing you may think about your self is what attracts others. He loves that I am pocket sized and I love his big fuzzy body. So yes there are people out there you just have to be patient. And as far as websites go I would try scruff or growler.

[Ninja108]

It does indeed exist, I have a friend who will be dating hsi bear for ten years this October.