
Originally Posted by
T-Rexx
I disagree that JUBbers are overtly antagonistic to Mr. Foley's plight simply because he is a Republican. In fact, my read of the above posts (as well as those in other threads) is that most of us have a sort of reluctant empathy for this man, who is clearly suffering much, in part because he is a homosexual.
But, Republican or Democrat, it is difficult to rally enthusiastically behind any man who has done so much damage to the gay cause, even if such damage was unintentional. Foley has done much to perpetuate the stereotype of homosexual men as sex-crazed pedophiles who lack self-discipline, self-respect, and a moral compass. It is astonishing to me how many Republican leaders, right-wing "journalists", and fundamentalist clergy have jumped on this stereotype as a sort of "excuse" for this scandal. "Of course Foley couldn't control his behavior - he was gay!" Foley is not responsible for the phenomenal stupidity of these people. But still it grates to see such idiocy reinforced. I have already read extremist blogs demanding the purging from the Republican Party of all homosexuals. How can one maintain any semblence of morality when gays are present? I fear this scandal will hurt us.
It is difficult to support a man who may have used the authority of his public office to obtain personal gain without respect for the dignity of the lives he was affecting all around him.
It is difficult to feel remorse for a man who, at least superficially, does not seem to accept much responsibility for the course of events which is his life. He states that he is not using his alcoholism or the fact that he was molested in his teens by a clergyman as an excuse for the behavior which forced his resignation from Congress. But he was, you know, molested by a clergyman, and he is, of course, an alcoholic.
It is difficult to condone the behavior of any man who feels compelled to pretend to the world that he is something he is not. Mr. Foley tried to hide his homosexuality from the public, presumably either because he regarded it as shameful or because he could not reconcile his own homosexuality with his public support for a party which has made opposition to the mainstreaming of homosexuality in American culture a party platform. Neither eventuality makes Mr. Foley particularly endearing to the gay community.
As far as Mr. Foley's "support" for gay causes, it is difficult to imagine how a gay man could have been any more lukewarm in his support of the cause. Mr. Foley voted for the "Defense of Marriage" Act. When Congress voted to legalize discrimination against homosexuals in hiring for certain (i.e., "faith-based") jobs, Mr. Foley appropriately (and unsuccessfully) opposed this. But his opposition was couched behind the banner of "state's rights". He agreed that homosexuals should be discriminated against - but he said that local authorities should be enforcing this bigotry, not federal (hence his negative vote). Cowardice of this magnitude is disgusting.
Mr. Foley is left alone now not because we - the gay community - have abandoned him. He is alone because, throughout the entire course of his career, Mr. Foley never really supported anyone or any cause except Mr. Foley himself.