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    I'm really beginning to think I am destined to be single. I have only had basically one serious relationship (which lasted 4 years). Even with my last relationship, which ended after I realized I was being taken advantage of, I never really felt loved. All I basically want is someone to love me for who I am. I am not rich, I don't have a smoking hot body, I do not have a Master's Degree. Every guy I have talked to just wants to have sex. I met a great guy that lives 2.5 hours away. He seems to be everything I am looking for. He's not into one night stands, wants a meaningful long term relationship. Not to mention he's pretty hot! We've been chatting for a few months now and we've met in person twice. Today he tells me that he's not wanting to date at this moment. The problem I have is that my job requires me to travel. I could be gone for months at a time. In fact, I'm getting ready to go overseas in 2 weeks. I have been battling some pretty severe depression lately. I get online and read about all these happy gay couples. Apparently I'm just not destined for that. Sorry for the long post, but you guys always seem to make me feel better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by briefs4me View Post
    I'm really beginning to think I am destined to be single. I have only had basically one serious relationship (which lasted 4 years). Even with my last relationship, which ended after I realized I was being taken advantage of, I never really felt loved. All I basically want is someone to love me for who I am. I am not rich, I don't have a smoking hot body, I do not have a Master's Degree. Every guy I have talked to just wants to have sex. I met a great guy that lives 2.5 hours away. He seems to be everything I am looking for. He's not into one night stands, wants a meaningful long term relationship. Not to mention he's pretty hot! We've been chatting for a few months now and we've met in person twice. Today he tells me that he's not wanting to date at this moment. The problem I have is that my job requires me to travel. I could be gone for months at a time. In fact, I'm getting ready to go overseas in 2 weeks. I have been battling some pretty severe depression lately. I get online and read about all these happy gay couples. Apparently I'm just not destined for that. Sorry for the long post, but you guys always seem to make me feel better.
    Hey, I feel you. Well I never had any relationship before so I can't say if a "not good one" is better than nothing since you said you felt being taken advantaged of. I actually just posted 2 threads, one asking how to find a boyfriend while I'm still in closet and the other one being having a 1st date that made me worried. So compared to me, at least you don't have to worry about how to come out? I'm trying to enter a career that requires lots of potential traveling, too. It's a career path I really want but at the same time works against LTR according to you.

    Well at least you are not alone here and at least you have a job . I just graduated college and am gonna start my Master. If I can't find a good job after school I won't be able to stay in the U.S for too long. But the problem is my country is less gay friendly/accepting compared to U.S and besides I think white boys are so cute. So.... am I in a worse situation? LOL.......

    Best of luck buddy :P

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    Re: Destined to be single?

    Quote Originally Posted by Shyboyjoy View Post
    Hey, I feel you. Well I never had any relationship before so I can't say if a "not good one" is better than nothing since you said you felt being taken advantaged of. I actually just posted 2 threads, one asking how to find a boyfriend while I'm still in closet and the other one being having a 1st date that made me worried. So compared to me, at least you don't have to worry about how to come out? I'm trying to enter a career that requires lots of potential traveling, too. It's a career path I really want but at the same time works against LTR according to you.

    Well at least you are not alone here and at least you have a job . I just graduated college and am gonna start my Master. If I can't find a good job after school I won't be able to stay in the U.S for too long. But the problem is my country is less gay friendly/accepting compared to U.S and besides I think white boys are so cute. So.... am I in a worse situation? LOL.......

    Best of luck buddy :P
    I guess both of us are in a predicament. My problem is I'm 35 years old. I just came out to my family last year. I got tired of sneaking around about my sexuality (I knew I was gay when I was 12). I guess my advice to you would be to come out when you are ready. I only wish I had done it sooner.

    Having a job that requires you to travel is very hard on relationships. I'm proof of that. I guess I'm just tired of being alone. Looks like if it weren't for bad luck, I'd have no luck at all. Especially with relationships.

    I hope you can find a job and stay in the US.

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    Re: Destined to be single?

    Quote Originally Posted by briefs4me View Post
    I guess both of us are in a predicament. My problem is I'm 35 years old. I just came out to my family last year. I got tired of sneaking around about my sexuality (I knew I was gay when I was 12). I guess my advice to you would be to come out when you are ready. I only wish I had done it sooner.

    Having a job that requires you to travel is very hard on relationships. I'm proof of that. I guess I'm just tired of being alone. Looks like if it weren't for bad luck, I'd have no luck at all. Especially with relationships.

    I hope you can find a job and stay in the US.
    Thank you! I hope so, too!

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    Re: Destined to be single?

    Quote Originally Posted by briefs4me View Post
    I'm really beginning to think I am destined to be single. I have only had basically one serious relationship (which lasted 4 years). Even with my last relationship, which ended after I realized I was being taken advantage of, I never really felt loved. All I basically want is someone to love me for who I am. I am not rich, I don't have a smoking hot body, I do not have a Master's Degree. Every guy I have talked to just wants to have sex. I met a great guy that lives 2.5 hours away. He seems to be everything I am looking for. He's not into one night stands, wants a meaningful long term relationship. Not to mention he's pretty hot! We've been chatting for a few months now and we've met in person twice. Today he tells me that he's not wanting to date at this moment. The problem I have is that my job requires me to travel. I could be gone for months at a time. In fact, I'm getting ready to go overseas in 2 weeks. I have been battling some pretty severe depression lately. I get online and read about all these happy gay couples. Apparently I'm just not destined for that. Sorry for the long post, but you guys always seem to make me feel better.
    I believe your mate is out there. You seem to be a great guy. The thing is to find that one guy that work around your job. Truthfully I think you are a great looking guy and can match up with anyone.

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    Re: Destined to be single?

    Quote Originally Posted by BillyT View Post
    I believe your mate is out there. You seem to be a great guy. The thing is to find that one guy that work around your job. Truthfully I think you are a great looking guy and can match up with anyone.
    Thanks Billy! You are too kind! I know the old adage is that there is somebody out there for everyone. I think my soul mate got lost. I just have this fear that I will grow old alone. I love my job but it does require me to travel and I can be gone for quite some time. In fact I'm getting ready to go overseas for 6 weeks on the 25th. I guess I'm just looking for someone I can come home to, tell them about my trip, talk about fantasies, cuddle, someone that truly makes me happy. Maybe I'm asking too much but it seems that guys like this are only in romance novels. From my experiences here, guys only want to have sex, get their rocks off and move on. Again, sorry if I'm just complaining. I am grateful I have a job, a roof over my head, and enough money to pay my bills. I'm fortunate in that respect. Just the love department has been a major letdown.

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    Just don't stop trying to find that one guy. I am betting that you will find him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by briefs4me View Post
    Thanks Billy! You are too kind! I know the old adage is that there is somebody out there for everyone. I think my soul mate got lost. I just have this fear that I will grow old alone. I love my job but it does require me to travel and I can be gone for quite some time. In fact I'm getting ready to go overseas for 6 weeks on the 25th. I guess I'm just looking for someone I can come home to, tell them about my trip, talk about fantasies, cuddle, someone that truly makes me happy. Maybe I'm asking too much but it seems that guys like this are only in romance novels. From my experiences here, guys only want to have sex, get their rocks off and move on. Again, sorry if I'm just complaining. I am grateful I have a job, a roof over my head, and enough money to pay my bills. I'm fortunate in that respect. Just the love department has been a major letdown.

    I started worrying about growing old alone without kids at the age of 16 when I fell in love for the first time. He is straight. That's also when I discovered about really being gay. I was extremely upset and depressed and everything was wrong.....

    Now I am away from home in another country pursuing my education and possible career and mostly importantly, love life. All I know is I tried to fight for my life and possibilities.... even if nothing cheerful has happened yet.... I don't know what I am saying now...

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    Maybe you two could make a love connection?
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    Re: Destined to be single?

    Quote Originally Posted by sixthson View Post
    Maybe you two could make a love connection?
    You mean me and him?

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    Re: Destined to be single?

    Quote Originally Posted by Shyboyjoy View Post
    You mean me and him?
    You and briefs4me.
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    I don't mean any disrespect, but I think he's a little young for me! Unless he's into it!

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    Re: Destined to be single?

    it can be difficult but there are plenty of spices on the spice racki keep myself hopeful and i am no spring chicken.
    you are a handsome guy and there will be a mate for you.i have only been in one relationship it lasted a year.
    i am 36 and still feel there is plenty of time left to find mr.right

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    I guess my thought process is that as I get older, the single men get fewer and fewer. Most are already taken (or married!) in a long term relationship. I try everyday to keep my head up and hopefully one day my Prince Charming will arrive to sweep me off my feet...

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    Re: Destined to be single?

    Quote Originally Posted by briefs4me View Post
    I don't mean any disrespect, but I think he's a little young for me! Unless he's into it!
    I'm not implying anything, but I'm more into guys older than me but not more than 40 yrs.

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    It's up to you guys now. I've done my part.
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sixthson View Post
    It's up to you guys now. I've done my part.
    Yeah, I don't think I can date someone younger than my nephew. No offense Shyboyjoy!

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    Re: Destined to be single?

    Quote Originally Posted by sixthson View Post
    It's up to you guys now. I've done my part.
    hahaha you are so funny Thank you!

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    Re: Destined to be single?

    Quote Originally Posted by briefs4me View Post
    Yeah, I don't think I can date someone younger than my nephew. No offense Shyboyjoy!
    It's fine! Like I said, I was just saying my age limit. It's good enough to be friends. I don't have any gay friends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shyboyjoy View Post
    It's fine! Like I said, I was just saying my age limit. It's good enough to be friends. I don't have any gay friends.
    Shyboy, let me suggest you post in a lot of different threads so you can get to know us and we can get to know you. That is how becoming friends works. Hope to see you post more.
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sixthson View Post
    Shyboy, let me suggest you post in a lot of different threads so you can get to know us and we can get to know you. That is how becoming friends works. Hope to see you post more.
    I'll try lol Thanks~!

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    Quote Originally Posted by sixthson View Post
    Shyboy, let me suggest you post in a lot of different threads so you can get to know us and we can get to know you. That is how becoming friends works. Hope to see you post more.
    China
    I saw in the post comments notification that you asked me this question. But how come I can't find the post here?

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    Re: Destined to be single?

    Quote Originally Posted by briefs4me View Post
    I guess my thought process is that as I get older, the single men get fewer and fewer. Most are already taken (or married!) in a long term relationship. I try everyday to keep my head up and hopefully one day my Prince Charming will arrive to sweep me off my feet...
    Keep your head up. You never know when you going to find the right guy. It just takes time and hard work.
    I was in my 30s until I had my first relationship. Just give it time. Stay happy and positive.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Shyboyjoy View Post
    China
    I saw in the post comments notification that you asked me this question. But how come I can't find the post here?
    Click on Quick Links toward the top of the page. Post comments is the first one there.
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    Re: Destined to be single?

    I have managed to convince this guy I've been talking with to let me take him to dinner tonight. His birthday is coming up and I won't be here so I asked if I could at least take him to dinner.

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    yay!!
    Go for it!! Is he cute?


    Quote Originally Posted by briefs4me View Post
    I have managed to convince this guy I've been talking with to let me take him to dinner tonight. His birthday is coming up and I won't be here so I asked if I could at least take him to dinner.

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    Quote Originally Posted by briefs4me View Post
    I have managed to convince this guy I've been talking with to let me take him to dinner tonight. His birthday is coming up and I won't be here so I asked if I could at least take him to dinner.
    I hope you guys have a great time.

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    Re: Destined to be single?

    Yes, he's very good looking. Dinner was great. We talked quite a bit. He just doesn't seem interested in dating. We'll see. He's hasn't totally rejected me yet, but I just get the feeling he's not into me. Maybe its just my insecurity showing. We'll see.

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