This is really embarrassing and shameful to admit but I need some input for those who are there/ have been there.... I started writing this with the tone of “my life sucks” but then I stopped and thought my life may not be where I want it to be right now but at least I don't have an incurable illness, or am in massive debt or am living in third world country. After all I'm only 28, live in NYC- there are so many people, resources, opportunities here it's embarrassing I'm still basically at the same place I was when living with my parents in college.
Basically the problems in my life are not really huge problem but are rather temporary states of being which have actionable solutions (financial, social, surrounding environment, etc)
So a quick summary without to much whining about the current state of things: I have no real close friends (this is worrying but again can be solved), work at a job making just over $20k per year (no benefits), thus can only afford a room in a junky neighborhood and can't even afford to move... yet. I don't even have my driver's license due to laziness and hating going to the DMV but I do know how to drive thanks to driver's ed.
There's solutions to all of these and I think a root cause of how I let my life slip into this "loser" state is lacking confidence to make the necessary changes (which is for another thread). I noticed my self esteem really took a dive after my BF broke up with me this past Nov and while I'm not in the place to start dating again (I need to prioritize getting things in order and then start dating) linking your confidence to someone else isn't wise... It's also a bit needy which is a turn off for quality guys.
The other part of the equation of why things are they way they are right now is the how I use time after work
Keeping this relatively short I've resolved so far to cut back on browsing the net, (which can lead to browsing porn and that wastes a ton of time) when time could be better taking action steps toward my goals (building a group of friends/ meeting people, getting a better job, etc...) and more time planning, researching, gathering info, etc to get to where I thought I would be at this age.
It seems overwhelming when looking at it as a whole but breaking it down into little chunks is more manageable. Maybe the best way to start is to begin networking since that will hit 2 birds with one stone; job hunting and meeting people.
Does that seem like a good place to start? How did you turn your life around for anyone who can relate?