So fairly recently I found out that one of my best friends is actually transgender (by snooping). He's still closeted even in terms of sleeping with men even to me so I don't know how to approach this conversation. I knew before this that he had been "dressing up" and having his hookups call him Jennifer. So at the time, figuring it was just dressing up, I passed on some hints that it was his fetish and he should keep it to himself. Now that I know he's planning on transitioning I feel like I may have accidentally told him/her that I don't want to know her afterwards. I feel kind of like a dick now and was hoping that other folks would know some ways of talking about something like this. I feel like I need a more experienced perspective since I haven't openly dealt with transgender people before.