It sure does seem that way, at least with me.
I was born and raised in the south. Surrounded by a majority of black people, (I'm also black, if I haven't made that clear yet.) During high school, I loved black men. It was all I knew - I was around sexy black dudes everyday all day at school, walking home, on the bus or train. My first boyfriend was black. My next few "men of interest" were black (I've only ever had one real relationship).
Now, in college and in the real world, I'm obviously meeting a variety of men of different races, and I like them all. Every race is beautiful or has something that fascinates me. Since I was so used to black guys, I've been trying to date outside of my race lately, but I can't help but feeling that I'm not good enough for them. Not because of my own insecurities, but because of the subtle hints they give me signaling that they're not interested. Failed attempts and peer pressure led me to sign up for Grindr and Tinder. Even there, no response outside of my race.
I still get plenty(that may be too generous. I get a few) black guys that are interested in me in both real life and on grindr or tinder, so I'm assuming that not completely unattractive. And I'm not a self-loathing racist - I still talk to the black guys that like me, but it just makes you wonder if gay black men are only in the league of gay black men. Thoughts?