How often should the person you've recently began dating bring up his ex-boyfriend(s)?
I've been seeing this guy since February and right off the bat I knew that he broke up with someone in December, and that he was in a five year relationship not long before that. No problem, that's fine...but here is how our conversations usually go
Me: I love potatoes!
Him: Oh my god, this one time I made (insert name of boyfriend of five years) fried potatoes and then his sister came over and I had to make them for her too!
Me: I hate driving in the dark because I have terrible vision
Him: This one time I had to drive (insert name of boyfriend of five years)'s car in the dark and I was so nervous I was going to crash it!
These type of conversations happen every visit. Every visit. Recently he graduated from university and asked me to attend, but I had something else to attend....His ex of five years was in attendance at the graduation, however. Now five years is a long time to date someone, so I understand how stories can accumulate overtime and referencing them does make some logical sense. Only, I never hear stories about other friends (which he has, and I've met). Usually, every little comment I make can be traced back to boyfriend of five years.
December break up boyfriend is usually different...It's more somber. The ex was impatient, and kind of immature, from what I've heard (which is a lot). The guy I'm seeing is an artist, and his apartment was like a shrine for the ex - full of paintings of said ex - which I understood! But again the context is different, as I can tell the break up really hurt him. He claimed to be depressed, and started taking medication recently. To clarify, he didn't say he was depressed over the break up, I'm only guessing, as he didn't elaborate.
He's a sweet guy, and the most thoughtful guy I've encountered - ever. We like each other plenty, which is why I plan on bringing it up to him. I'm not jealous, and I'm not going to tell him 'no more ex talk,' but I do want to know what he's feeling about said exes. I hear the stories he says, but I'd like for him to just tell me directly.
Has this ever happened to anyone? What did you do?