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    I don't know what's going on.

    I was talking to this guy for the last couple of days on okcupid and yesterday we decided to go on a date. He was my type, medical student, Eagle Scout and a frat bra lol. Our conversations by text flowed well and we seemed to have a general interest in each other. While on the date I could feel that something with him was wrong. I felt that he wasn't that interested anymore and I never heard back from him after the date which was yesterday. I don't know what happened, we talked, I don't think I came off as weird or off putting, and it was generally a good time. He shook my hand after we ate and left. This has happened to me multiple times now. Some of you might remember the guy I was talking to about a month ago who just stopped talking to me all together. Also there was this guy I was speaking to on grindr who I had a lot in common with but he stopped talking as well. Like what's going on ? Are guys just that easily bored ? Am I uninteresting ? I came out of a 2 year relationship in December so I know it "takes time" to find the right person but idk I feel like guys are just in it for that "thrill of the hunt" that I see pop up on here every now and then. I'm on okcupid and grindr so I know not the best place to meet ppl but it's not like I have better options. I mean what else is there, go to a bar and just wait for someone to talk to me ?

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    Re: I don't know what's going on.

    What happened was that you didn't have any chemistry, shit happens. The biggest mistake people make about dating is unreasonable expectations.

    I've been on a lot of dates, I can count on less than one hand the number of those guys I was really interested in, some of the rest were a good time, some a good fuck, some made good friends, a bunch just faded away, that's what dating is.
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    Re: I don't know what's going on.

    Oh yeah, and there is nothing wrong with the "thrill of the hunt," turn off your computer, and get out of your house, you screen out a bunch of time waters by meeting people in person UP FRONT.
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    Re: I don't know what's going on.

    He shook your hand before leaving? o-0 .... If I were you in that moment I would've known instantly he wasn't all that into me and sucked it up just to be nice. A hug after a date fine, a hand shake? No, no, no, nooooo...

    I should also mention guys just dissapearing off the face of the earth on Grindr, Scruff, Okcupid is kinda common I think-- I think people assume how the person they're meeting up is going to act, talk, just in general how he is going to be in person and when everything they thought blows up in their face-- they're not interested. That why I strongly don't approve of these sites and apps for actual legit dating/ finding a potential serious relationship. They're ok for sex and hookups though. In my experiences most relationships I've had I've met them in person not online. Including my partner now haha.

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    Re: I don't know what's going on.

    So this makes 14.

    All I can tell you is that, from the sounds of things, you are trying way too hard to find a man RIGHT NOW, instead of trying to get to know someone and see where it goes. My advice from the last thread stands - STOP. RELAX. HAVE FUN. STOP LOOKING FOR NOW.

    I'm not saying this to be mean, I'm just letting you know that the stench of codependency wafts off of you, and you should focus on just you for right now.
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    Re: I don't know what's going on.

    Quote Originally Posted by MoufOfKhaos View Post
    So this makes 14.

    All I can tell you is that, from the sounds of things, you are trying way too hard to find a man RIGHT NOW, instead of trying to get to know someone and see where it goes. My advice from the last thread stands - STOP. RELAX. HAVE FUN. STOP LOOKING FOR NOW.

    I'm not saying this to be mean, I'm just letting you know that the stench of codependency wafts off of you, and you should focus on just you for right now.
    A bit brutal but good points.

    Dating is supposed to be about meeting people and enjoying spending time with other people. Sometimes it concludes with "let's be friends" or "let's fuck and never see each other again" or "sorry no spark" or "how about a second date?". If you're going to trying dating, you have to be ready for any of these and not take any of them personally.
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