I have not been as active on here since I moved in with my BF two months ago. It feels good to be back after a bit.
Anyway... let me explain the point of this thread...
My BF and I have been together almost a year and have lived together for more then two months now. I know that may seem quick for some but we both knew we wanted it, plus we talked and got to know one another for about 1.5 years before we even started to date.
Things are great between us. Do we have our fights yes, but we always talk them out and we are good. However, there is still a pink elephant in the room. My BF likes to still jerk off even though he has me now. At first I was really upset about this. He told me its not me and that he feels its completely normal and healthy for anyone to want to masturbate, even when they have a partner. For him its still a way for him to have privacy in his life now that we live together. Which I understand there are still times I just want to be alone. He said he likes the fantasy of it. He likes looking at the porn or reading stories online and thinking about it. He says he does not want to be with anyone else and does not engage with other "real" people via online to jerk off with. He said its purely fantasy and that he feels he still has some privacy.
He said that he is still sexually attracted to me and we have sex on a regular basis. There are times he will jerk off and then later in the day once I am home from work or out shopping he will want to be with me. Which is great to me. I guess I just do not get it. I like waiting for him. But then on the other hand I like the fantasy about it. I like being able to look at porn and getting lost in it. I like being able to look at the hairy muscular guys online that I feel are amazingly hot. I still love him and want to be with him. I do not want to be with anyone. The thought of ever cheating disgust me.
So for anyone in a serious monogamous relationship... Is this something you have dealt with? If so, how did you work through it? Any tips are appreciated!