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    Do you get bored with your partner over the years?

    Most married couples get married because of love but over the years the sizzle seems to be gone. It might have happened to your parents, what is it that keeps your love life last? Any tips
    If you get a bit bored, is that means the relationship is over?

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    Re: Do you get bored with your partner over the years?

    Boredom is a necessary element in our appreciation of our life's worth....rather like day, and night we need to know boredom, to understand satisfaction...the course of true love will daily face trials that strengthen us leaving, us with the understanding that we are truly human...and not robots programmed to behave as if we lack choices, and feelings....

    Momentary dissatisfaction merely encourages us to do better to improve our appreciation of the man with whom we are sharing our life....

    Remote from our daily reality, Hollywood romance stories that paint an idyllic picture of a white washed cottage, and picket fence representing contentment, and harmony might well encourage each of us to try harder to value the gift of love who enters our life in fulfilment of our absolute need to love another human person, and be loved by him in return....with all the ups, and downs that this loving relationship will present to us to grow us into the complete human being....realised through our daily struggles to love our partner for all our life's worth.
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    Re: Do you get bored with your partner over the years?

    I don't really understand boredom...never have. There is always something that interests me I guess.

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    Re: Do you get bored with your partner over the years?

    The thread presupposes that relationships can be a bed of roses all the way.

    One tends to forget that one needs to work at a relationship in order for it to endure; it requires compromises, indeed sometimes sacrifices; understanding; consideration; seeing things from another's point of view; sharing; etc;

    ... and obviously an enormous amount of love and caring for one another.

    In fact it is a bloody full time job; no wonder mine were not eternal.
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    Re: Do you get bored with your partner over the years?

    Quote Originally Posted by dpnice View Post
    The thread presupposes that relationships can be a bed of roses all the way.

    One tends to forget that one needs to work at a relationship in order for it to endure; it requires compromises, indeed sometimes sacrifices; understanding; consideration; seeing things from another's point of view; sharing; etc;

    ... and obviously an enormous amount of love and caring for one another.

    In fact it is a bloody full time job; no wonder mine were not eternal.
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    Re: Do you get bored with your partner over the years?

    I have never been bored of my boyfriend because he's not a boring person. I love him. If he keeps being who he is I won't ever get bored of him.

    What makes things last is that we trust each other and we give each other reasons to do so. We are both open books with each other and talk about everything. I told him in the very beginning that if there was anything thing he wanted to talk about to bring it up right away so we could talk about it and deal with it so we would never have feelings build in ourselves that would lead to guilt, resentment, anger, etc.

    My personal opinion on relationships is that honest communication is one of the most important things. I think a lot of problems in relationships stem from the lack there of. If both parties were more willing to talk with each other, come to understandings and comprises then a lot more people would be happy in relationships.

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    Re: Do you get bored with your partner over the years?

    We're starting our 10th year together and we're closer and more in love than when we first met. There's something about having a "rhythm" together that makes things good. Expecting champagne and fireworks every day is not a realistic expectation. Life evolves and changes and we enjoy finding and keeping what makes it good and keeps it good.

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    I think the greater risk to the relationship is taking each other for granted.

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    Re: Do you get bored with your partner over the years?

    Quote Originally Posted by lacrayfish View Post
    Most married couples get married because of love but over the years the sizzle seems to be gone. It might have happened to your parents, what is it that keeps your love life last? Any tips
    If you get a bit bored, is that means the relationship is over?

    How naïve.

    'Sizzle' is much more about lust than love, dear. A marriage based solely on lust is almost sure to fail.

    Check out divorce rates - current, and throughout history. The first wife/marriage is often based on lust, but then, if people are able to mature, the second time round - by the second or third marriage - there will be more emphasis put on stability - the 'house with the picket fence', the 'hog in the cellar', the 'birthing hips', the dowry, etc.

    With a common desire for commitment and stability, love will grow [no 'work' involved - really].

    If all you want out of a relationship is lust (sizzle), then there really isn't any reason to get married, is there?

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    ^^^^^^This

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    Re: Do you get bored with your partner over the years?

    I admit that whenever I hear someone say "I'm bored" it sounds more like "I'm boring."

    People are not inherently boring. It's what we do ourselves, and what we do with them, that makes the difference.
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    Re: Do you get bored with your partner over the years?

    I also think people tend to use the word "boring", when what they mean is "routine". Things can become quite familiar as the years pass, but that is just part of being in a relationship with someone for an extended period of time. Some just don't seem to do so well when that period of "novelty" wears off. I still think at the end of the day, if you choose your partner for the right reasons...there will always be some excitement and fun to be had in sharing your life with them.
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