While I feel like a real jerk for posting this, I have to ask guys who ended up in long term relationships if their expectations and what they ended up with were anywhere close to the same thing. I've been with someone for almost a year now, we never argue the sex is good(not great) but they are extremely nice and supportive. Sounds perfect right? My main two concerns is I feel a little uneasy continuing to take steps forward when I'm not sure we're completely compatible in the long run. He's unaware of most things going on the world, current events, music, literature, art, etc. Outside of his work there doesn't seem to be a real passion or curiosity. Whenever we do anything I'm always the proactive one and I rarely experience or learn anything new when I'm around him. Being with someone that doesn't necessarily stimulate my mind or turn me on to new things is kind of throwing me off, since I have never had this experience before. He's usually willing to try new things with me and follow along with me but he never takes on that role. This seems like a marginal concern, it's just that we are both under the impression that we plan on building a life together and I'm still a little concerned about how sweet and boring it's going to be. No doubt he's been good to me just concerned it's not going to be as adventurous as I had hoped. So question is, Am I settling for the sweet boring guy or expecting far too much?