I'm curious when you realized that your relationship had reached maturity and you were ready for lifetime commitment? How long had you been in the relationship? Did you have a second thought?
I want to know your story because my boyfriend and I are considering getting married at the end of the year. We've only been together for 9 months, and we love each other a lot. I know a lot of you will jump the gun and say that the relationship is too short to make any serious commitment, but I actually put a lot of thoughts into this. I've been in a couple of serious long term relationships before (3 years and then 2 years), and he was in a relationship for 3 years and a half, but I've felt a deep connection with him not just on the physical or personality level, but also in the ways we think and look at the world. He's changed me in so many ways, and I guess I can say the same about me to him.
We both understand that getting married this early at this age may not be the best idea (I'm 25 and he's 26), but due to our nationalities and our distance, I can't go to his country and stay and he can't work in the US (I'm not American by the way - just in the process of moving there). We are deeply in love, and after doing long distance for three months, we realized that we can't just end the relationship abruptly at this stage. We both made plans to be visit each other before I leave for America, but then from there on the only way for us to be together is to get married (yes, I've looked into all options and talked to immigration lawyers already, so that's really the only choice). He's not gonna be able to work in the US, but thankfully my job pays well enough for me to support us both.
We're both excited at the prospect of getting married, but at the same time, the idea scares the shit out of us. When we started dating, we even thought that the relationship would end after my boyfriend left the country. Apparently he's more committed to the relationship than I'd thought, and the idea of finally living together makes it easier for us to go through this temporary long-distance.
I guess what I'm looking for here is some... positive experience? It's not like we have any alternative here (besides breaking up, which neither of us is willing to). I guess only time can tell if we're making the right choice or not, but any advice is appreciated. I've read a lot about marriage, but they're mostly for straight couple (though the differences are not that much), so I would love to hear from gay couples