I just read this article, and I have to say I was very enlightened, and I'm curious to see what you guys think.
The gist of the article is that, if we rank sexual attraction to a potential mate on a scale of 1 (not attractive) to 10 (very attractive), that dating guys in the mid-range of the scale might give the best chance of a loving, long-term relationship.
I'm enlightened because I have dated guys in the 9-10 range, and I've always felt stressed, jealous, uncomfortable, perhaps inadequate--those exact things that the piece mentioned. I'd check my texts every 2 seconds, always question if I'm doing wrong, etc.
The article argues that if you date a guy who's in the mid-range, dating might be more comfortable, and there's a chance that your attraction would grow and blossom.
I've not dated enough guys to know if this is true, because I've often shut the door on guys who're in the mid-range. I guess I'm just not very patient. I've always been the jump-in-bed-right-away-then-get-to-know-each-other kinda guy.
So what do you guys think? And for those who have found loving, long-term relationships, how would you rate your INITIAL attraction to your partner on that scale?