So today at work, another situation happened when folks started talking about relationships and the discussion inevitably came to me. I was asked the last time I was in a relationship. When I said, "never," I got the usual shock, then the predictable "but you're so handsome/funny/sweet" comments, before being grilled as to why I could possibly be in my mid-30s without ever having been in a relationship.
I mentioned being a loner, and that I prefer my freedom.
Instantly, one of the folks gets annoyed and says "I don't know WHY people act like they can't have their freedom in a relationship!" and goes on and on about how she's so 'free' with her boyfriend, and that I shouldn't think that way.
Anyway, I'm bringing it up, because I find it funny when the topic of "freedom" comes up, there's always at least one person who is so incredibly butthurt at the suggestion that a relationship might hinder one's freedom.
It bothers me because these folks don't seem to realize that someone else's idea of freedom may not be the same as their own and that saying "I like being single because I like my freedom" isn't an attack on their relationship--it's just an admission that the person speaking might not want to be tied down to someone else.
It's happened here on JUB numerous times when I or other posters have mentioned preferring our freedom, and that reaction has always bothered me because regardless of my opinions of whether relationships are something I'm into, I'm not one to knock someone else's.
So when I say "I like my freedom," it's about me and what I value as being free. Don't be offended. Don't lecture me about you and your boyfriend. Cause it ain't about you.