Just came across this article which was written years ago, but just recently started in my Google searches: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...u-single-heart
I love this article (and the woman for the following reasons)
1.) It is fucking AWESOME that a writer for a well known Psychology Magazine has taken plenty of time to write about her solitude.
2.) I love what she has to say. A lot of time I write about being single and people interpret it as some dark, negative, "oh woe is me" moment, when it's not something negative. It's just a thing.
People also tend to make it into something soulless and superficial--an excuse to sleep around. Truth is, even if I had a low sex drive, that has no bearing on my desire to couple with anyone.
Folks have also said I contradict myself for saying I'm not the dating type, even though I would open myself to it for the right person. But there will always be a difference between someone who aspires to be coupled and someone who does not.
For those who have ever wondered, check out the questions and see how you stack up.To be single at heart, I think, means that you see yourself as single. Your life may or may not include the occasional romantic relationship, and you may or may not live alone or want to live alone, but you don't aspire to live as part of a couple (married or otherwise) for the long term.
You can be single at heart regardless of your actual status as single or coupled. Similarly, you can be a coupled at heart regardless of whether you really are coupled at the moment.
I might just buy a book by the writer. I'm so captivated by what she has to say. A mix of her research and experience are a rarity.