Hi everyone, some advice or food for thought would be appreciated. Iíll start with what I love about my boyfriend. Heís smart and ambitious. We share similar goals. He works on things. Heís sweet.
Weíve been together for 6 years, and weíve gone through tough times and good times. Weíve been working on some issues like him getting upset over small things, and weíre finding better ways to communicate. Still Iíve been feeling frustrated. I feel like we arenít connecting as much at that we think very differently. Heís much more right-brained and Iím left-brained. That contrast is nice at times but it can be difficult to communicate other times. His energy can also be much more intense while mine is calmer. Then thereís the sex. We still have sex, thank goodness. And I do get turned on a lot when we have sex, and I can cum very quickly and usually need to find ways to hold off. The problem is that itís become a routine, and I need more variety, kink and playfulness to be fulfilled. A third person or persons is not an option for me. Iíve talked about my sex concerns with him, and he says heís willing to try new things, but whenever we do try things he acts uncomfortable and awkward. I donít mind teaching and coaching him, but itís not fun for me when he looks so uncomfortable. Also I donít always want be the one introducing new things or changing it up, I want it to come from him, but left to his own-devices we do the same thing over and over again!
Iím really frustrated, but I havenít given up. I have some plans to try and get him to be more playful and adventurous in bed. Still Iíve been wondering if Iíd be a lot happier with someone who is much more playful in bed and thinks more like I doÖ.
Thanks for taking the time to read this. Best Wishes!