So a little bit of backstory, over the past 2 years, I have only been single for about 2-3 months and the rest of the time I was in relationships. There were two men I was in relationships with, guy A for 6 months, guy B for 13 months, and then guy A again for another 5 months. I h e been single now for about two months and while I have enjoyed it and had fun, I truly feel I am a relationship kind of guy and I like having somebody to do things with and be with.
Last week I was out at a bar and I met a guy, we were checking each other out all night and eventually starting talking, which led to us making out. Usually when I go out, this is a normal occurrence, but "Andrew" and I ended up hanging out all night, going to a few different places, and not paying any attention to anybody else. Whenever we walked he would hold my hand and keep me warm because it was freezing outside, which was very nice. We were kissing and touching a lot all night, and neither of us wanted to hook up because we both agreed that we didn't want to do that with someone we actually might like. At the end of the night, well, 5am.. We exchanged numbers and kissed goodbye and I drove the hour home. I drive to his city because it has a better gay community than my small town does.
So a few days go by of us flirting over text, I asked "Andrew" on a date and he said he would love to. We made plans but they had to be postponed and I took him out to dinner last night. We both had a great time any afterwards we went to a bar and hung out for a few hours before we took off. I was kind of hoping he would ask me to spend the night, but that didn't happen. We did kiss and make out a lot, plenty of feeing and little kisses like boyfriends would do. So he walked me to my car and we said our goodbyes. He woke me with a text this morning saying he had a great time and would love to see me again. He also said he "doesn't know what is going to happen."
My problem lies here. With my two exes, after the first date, both ended up as my boyfriend in the same night as the first date. This probably isn't the norm.. But that's what happened each time. So I'm not really sure how to go about my situation with "Andrew". We both are obviously attracted to each other and both have said we liked each other, and he has made jokes about our wedding and innocent things like that. I'm just not sure what to do next.. This is basic dating protocol that I'm sure of for obvious reasons.
I like this guy enough to not want to kiss or hookup or date anybody else, but should I expect him to do the same? Should I ask him straight out what he's looking for? Is is too early to ask him where he thinks it's gonna go? Would it seem too needy or weird if I ask him to go out again? And like I said above, I go to his city a couple times a week for the gay community, when I go should I let him know? Sorry to sound dumb with such a simple question, even though I've been in relationships I have never "dated".
Thanks for any advice and suggestions