So first off i just wanted to say i'm a long term lurker here who wanted to post because I had an issue I needed to get off my chest.
I'm 24 and I recently got back to the US from teaching English in an asian country. I was there for a year and a bit before I quit my job, mainly because I hated the job and realized I didn't really like the country I was in anyway.
In January of this year I started dating a guy from the country I was living in, to protect his identity let's call him "M". I was also M's first boyfriend, but there was a little bit of an age gap between us (He was 19 when we started dating, I was 23. Now he's 20).
M and I had a date every single week we were together, and even went on a few trips together. He came out to his mom because we were dating (a huge deal in asian countries). It made me feel really happy to have him. He was my first boyfriend, and he made me feel special. We even casually started to discuss the thought of him moving to the US with me and us getting married (after the Windsor decision). As he was still in college he said he would just try to transfer to a US university (since it was his dream to visit America).
Unfortunately, in August everything at my job started going south. Into my 2nd year at my job I had rewarded myself by using my paid leave days to take three weeks off during the summer break. Upon returning to the school I found that my coworkers began treating me with contempt (mainly due to the fact that Asian teachers can't take vacation and are essentially social slaves who work six days a week). This made me feel bad about myself because no one at work would even say hello to me, and it made me feel really isolated. Around this time I also began having panic attacks and tension headaches. For the first time I began to truly believe i wanted to quit and go home. My boyfriend of course wanted me to stay, but around this time our relationship also started to get a little rocky because he was dealing with a lot of stress from school and his part time job.
Anyway, in September I said enough was enough after a major panic attack at work. I decided that it wasn't work risking my mental health over the job so i decided to quit and booked a flight home.
When I told M he wasn't sympathetic for my problems at all, instead only being concerned with himself and the fact he wouldn't get to transfer to a US school. I told him that before I left I wanted to say goodbye to him. He refused. He called me cruel and selfish and proceeded into a long rant in his native language I could only understand about 20 percent of.
I just said I was sorry but had to take care of myself, he told me never to speak to him again, hung up and blocked my phone number. It made me feel horrible. We dated 8 months, did so much together, and then when I was going home to preserve my sanity he refused to even say goodbye to me.
That was a little over a month ago. Still to this day i'm not over it because I feel really betrayed by it. Anyone got any tips or advice to help? :/
Thanks and sorry for troublesome story.