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    Jealousy

    Anyone else struggle with it?

    Like I wish the best for everyone, I really do, but sometimes I just get so jealous of folks who have the things I want (and can never attain).

    Tonight, I'm out with my friends at a gay bar to celebrate one of my friend's birthday. My very close friend and roommate (straight guy, but has been to gay bars plenty of times with either me or other gay friends) says to me that this bar is annoying him because he "keeps getting hit on."

    I then roll my eyes, turn to him and say "Well if only you were me. Then you'd never get hit on."

    Just the idea that something like that could come as an inconvenience to someone irked me. When I know that just feeling that attractive for even a day--hell an hour--would be such a huge uplift for me.

    I feel like I'm constantly surrounding by wonderful people who look better, are better, have so much going for them. And I'm happy for them. But I'm so damn jealous.

    How do I change that? How do I accept my role as the "ugly friend" without being jealous all the damn time?
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    From your other thread describing "sex parties," getting tired of Grindr life, can't hook up with same person regularly, sounds like you have a quiet active sex life...not bad for a self proclaimed unattractive "ugly friend." http://www.justusboys.com/forum/threads/411614-Celibacy
    Jealousy is part of human nature. Cultures and religions attempt to guide people to control this force for ages, or otherwise it becomes destructive.

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    Well...I painted my room periwinkle blue rather than green

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    Quote Originally Posted by RaKroma View Post
    From your other thread describing "sex parties," getting tired of Grindr life, can't hook up with same person regularly, sounds like you have a quiet active sex life...not bad for a self proclaimed unattractive "ugly friend." http://www.justusboys.com/forum/threads/411614-Celibacy
    Jealousy is part of human nature. Cultures and religions attempt to guide people to control this force for ages, or otherwise it becomes destructive.
    Getting laid at sex parties and on Grindr is easy, even for an ugly person. Someone actually wanting to hit on you or talk to you in public is entirely different.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    Getting laid at sex parties and on Grindr is easy, even for an ugly person. Someone actually wanting to hit on you or talk to you in public is entirely different.
    Hmm interesting. I have the opposite problem. Being hit on in online hook ups sites is rarer while in bars I'll get approached. But being hit on in person doesn't mean you get hit on by "hot guys."

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    I envy those who are in good health

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    Quote Originally Posted by RaKroma View Post
    Hmm interesting. I have the opposite problem. Being hit on in online hook ups sites is rarer while in bars I'll get approached. But being hit on in person doesn't mean you get hit on by "hot guys."
    Instead of "hot guys" I should have said by right guys with proper intentions. It's frustrating when you feel that the only reason anyone would approach you is to make some last ditch effort to get laid for the night but otherwise they would not be engaging in any convo.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RaKroma View Post
    Hmm interesting. I have the opposite problem. Being hit on in online hook ups sites is rarer while in bars I'll get approached. But being hit on in person doesn't mean you get hit on by "hot guys."
    When I can see how hot the guys are with my eyes, yea, they're hot.

    Update: saw your last comment. Yea, I get that. In my friend's case, that wasn't the issue. These guys would've loved to date him OR take him home.



    I should also add "talent" to the jealousy list. Talented artists. People who are athletic (or at the very least, coordinated). Confident people. Fearless (or at least not ruled by fear). So jealous of all of those folks.
    Last edited by TheSpectatingLoner; October 18th, 2013 at 12:06 AM.

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    I guess the only thing that I may be a tad jealous of is people who make friends easily and have people skills. I find myself lacking in that area, I am working on it, old habits are hard to break.

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    I don't really have to deal much with any kind of measurable jealousy...I rarely ever experience it. I usually don't even understand it.

    There are a few times when I am out shopping at an antique show and someone in front of me scores big...and for a few minutes I wish it could have been me and I guess I get a form of jealousy...but then I let it go and tell myself it wasn't meant to be and go on my way. It fades quickly.

    I have something that might be similar though...there are a handful of people I admire and respect so much I sometimes wish I could walk in their shoes for a day or two and experience their life...but I still wouldn't want to "be" them...I like being who I am.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    Anyone else struggle with it?

    Like I wish the best for everyone, I really do, but sometimes I just get so jealous of folks who have the things I want (and can never attain).

    Tonight, I'm out with my friends at a gay bar to celebrate one of my friend's birthday. My very close friend and roommate (straight guy, but has been to gay bars plenty of times with either me or other gay friends) says to me that this bar is annoying him because he "keeps getting hit on."

    I then roll my eyes, turn to him and say "Well if only you were me. Then you'd never get hit on."

    Just the idea that something like that could come as an inconvenience to someone irked me. When I know that just feeling that attractive for even a day--hell an hour--would be such a huge uplift for me.

    I feel like I'm constantly surrounding by wonderful people who look better, are better, have so much going for them. And I'm happy for them. But I'm so damn jealous.

    How do I change that? How do I accept my role as the "ugly friend" without being jealous all the damn time?
    How well I know those feelings...

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    I was jealous that it felt like everyone else had electronics and I didnt. Ive never had a cellphone but I dont really have use for one but I focused on getting an Ipod Touch so I felt like I was part of things. And then I wanted an Ipad and I bought Ipad 2 for $377 with birthday money. Now I kind of wish I had a car but thats such a far off wish / thing to come true that I dont really think about it.

    I was jealous of guys in the muscle forum because - think what you want - but they were being with muscle escorts and I wanted to be with a muscle guy. Ive only been with one guy who was a bodybuilder in 1991? There was a guy who was a social butterfly and he was always name dropping about who he had hung around with muscle escorts or porn stars and I was jealous of him.

    I get jealous of guys who look good and I try to talk myself out of it. I have given myself a thing to think about when I see a guy with a nice body. I remind myself he has put in the hard work and I could look that way too if I did the same. So I dont feel as bad when a guy has a nice body because I know he has worked for it.

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    I got a friend request from a guy on Facebook. We have some mutual friends, but I've never meant him personally. But I'm looking through photos and he's incredibly good-looking. Model material. Looks amazing in every photo, go-gos at a ton of clubs, has the body, the bulge, the potent hair I've only been able to dream of.

    And all this while going to a college in fashion. I'm bitter that I wasted my time getting a Bachelor's Degree in Information Technology.

    And then again, I think of how he's just so beautiful. In ways I could never be.

    ...and I'm just bitter. And jealous.

    I hate that feeling. But I get it all too often.

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    Not at all, I'm way to amazing to give a fuck about someone else's little happiness.

    My life will be extraordinary.

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    hmmm...the only thing I have that most resembles jealousy is that I'm slightly jealous of people who have found a profitable career that they enjoy(not the people who make good money but HATE their jobs). I've never really been jealous of anyone because of how much easier I perceive their life to be or what they can obtain because of their "good looks", charm, or the the like.

    As for your latest post about the guy from fb: I know that the grass often looks greener from the other side. People always put their "highlight reels" on front street (especially on Facebook).

    Hell, MY life probably looks fabulous to people who only see what I post on fb. What they don't see is that I'm constantly stressed about my flailing "career", and insecurity because of it. I post the things that make me happiest in life...and that is often ALL you will see from individuals' social media outlets.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    Not at all, I'm way to amazing to give a fuck about someone else's little happiness.

    My life will be extraordinary.
    Ha ha ha!! Don't count on it. You're still young, life may have different plans for you. Just ask most of us if our life turned out the way we hoped.

    Having said that, I am way more blessed in ways I never thought imaginable before, so no, no jealousy here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    Anyone else struggle with it?

    Like I wish the best for everyone, I really do, but sometimes I just get so jealous of folks who have the things I want (and can never attain).

    Tonight, I'm out with my friends at a gay bar to celebrate one of my friend's birthday. My very close friend and roommate (straight guy, but has been to gay bars plenty of times with either me or other gay friends) says to me that this bar is annoying him because he "keeps getting hit on."

    I then roll my eyes, turn to him and say "Well if only you were me. Then you'd never get hit on."

    Just the idea that something like that could come as an inconvenience to someone irked me. When I know that just feeling that attractive for even a day--hell an hour--would be such a huge uplift for me.

    I feel like I'm constantly surrounding by wonderful people who look better, are better, have so much going for them. And I'm happy for them. But I'm so damn jealous.

    How do I change that? How do I accept my role as the "ugly friend" without being jealous all the damn time?

    Buddy, there is nothing less attractive than a person who does not accept himself, believe me it comes across and some guys can sense it. The way to get over it is sitting down by yourself and write down things that are attractive about you and what you can offer a guy. Change your attitude and the rest will come naturally. Look at your friends, which of them who get hit on have ever had a meaningful relationship, which of them is focus on their looks but their attitude stinks etc etc...I am not George Clooney but i have never had a problem attracting guys like i said IS ALL IN THE ATTITUDE..if someone selects a friend of mine who is more attractive THEN SO BE IT...I don't know how else to explain it, good luck just the same..

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    Quote Originally Posted by mikey3000 View Post
    Ha ha ha!! Don't count on it. You're still young, life may have different plans for you. Just ask most of us if our life turned out the way we hoped.
    Thanks for the encouragement. Anyway, unlike many people I do know who I am and I accept and love myself. Jealously, bitterness and self loathing ain't my bag.


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    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    Not at all, I'm way to amazing to give a fuck about someone else's little happiness.

    My life will be extraordinary.
    Same here. tbaft.

    Too busy being magnificent.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BENDERBOY View Post
    Same here. tbaft.

    Too busy being magnificent.


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    Please.

    the people who go on and on about how fabulous they are, are often the most troubled. Overcompensating, perhaps?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gentleheart View Post
    Please.

    the people who go on and on about how fabulous they are, are often the most troubled. Overcompensating, perhaps?
    If you don't believe in yourself who will? No one is out there trying to help me, I have to help myself.

    I'm certainly not going to be jealous of someone else, that's their life, not mine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post


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    Quote Originally Posted by BENDERBOY View Post


    woad.
    I think some people are a bit jealous of us bender.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    I think some people are a bit jealous of us bender.
    It's only natural. tbaft.


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    Quote Originally Posted by spanishguy View Post
    ...I am not George Clooney but i have never had a problem attracting guys like i said IS ALL IN THE ATTITUDE..if someone selects a friend of mine who is more attractive THEN SO BE IT...I don't know how else to explain it, good luck just the same..
    You explained it well..attitude IS everything.

    I have had people who thought I was living a charmed life solely because of my attitude but the truth is I had more crap happen in my life than anyone would ever know...I just don't feel sorry for myself or think like a victim or compare myself to anyone else...

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    Quote Originally Posted by CupidBoy View Post
    I think some people are a bit jealous of us bender.
    If only there was something real to be jealous of. I'm beginning to believe everyone who tells me it's all fake. I hope not, but everyone says it is... and it's really looking that way.
    Inspired - but too tired.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mikey3000 View Post
    If only there was something real to be jealous of. I'm beginning to believe everyone who tells me it's all fake. I hope not, but everyone says it is... and it's really looking that way.
    What are you talking about?

    Whatever, y'all want to be jealous of others go ahead. I don't have time to dwell on what I have or don't have.

    Goodbye.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mikey3000 View Post
    If only there was something real to be jealous of. I'm beginning to believe everyone who tells me it's all fake. I hope not, but everyone says it is... and it's really looking that way.
    Shucks Jason, we've been found out.

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    Attitude is everything.
    One has to act the part and dress the part to be or become the part.
    I think the OP has probably been successful at becoming the loser in his own mind.
    It's time to start becoming the winner, you can do it, you just got to try, persist, and believe in yourself.
    and dress real smart all the time, yes even with a jacket and tie to show your respect for yourself to yourself all day everyday.
    Oh and don't forget to look in mirrors often and if you don't like what you see then fix it better.
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    Quote Originally Posted by spanishguy View Post
    Buddy, there is nothing less attractive than a person who does not accept himself, believe me it comes across and some guys can sense it.
    I go out with a smile and am a pleasant conversationalist. Despite never getting hit on, I'm incredibly outgoing and confident in social situations, so I doubt this.

    And just to clarify, not getting attention from guys isn't the worst thing in the world, I just felt incredibly jealous at the moment because he has a face people want to look at. I can't even imagine what that's like.

    But no, this isn't a case of "your attitude is horrible." Sometimes, people would rather look at a hot face than a mediocre one with a great attitude. Not to mention some of those hot faces actually have great attitudes. Don't forget that.
    Last edited by TheSpectatingLoner; January 13th, 2014 at 12:31 PM.

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    Some people don't really care what face they're looking at.

    Btw you get a lot of ass apparently. There are a lot of guys here who are probably jealous of you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    I go out with a smile and am a pleasant conversationalist. Despite never getting hit on, I'm incredibly outgoing and confident in social situations, so I doubt this.

    And just to clarify, not getting attention from guys isn't the worst thing in the world, I just felt incredibly jealous at the moment because he has a face people want to look at. I can't even imagine what that's like.

    But no, this isn't a case of "your attitude is horrible." Sometimes, people would rather look at a hot face than a mediocre one with a great attitude. Not to mention some of those hot faces actually have great attitudes. Don't forget that.
    Jealousy is a natural occurring emotion. don't fret it. Just use it to motivate yourself. Take what you like from people and leave the rest. Or just hang around uglier people when you go to bars.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bort138 View Post
    I envy those who are in good health
    I'm sorry to hear that. I envy so many people for so many reasons. It's a good thing I don't act on my emotions most of the time.
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    No, i'm not jealous of anyone.
    Life is a competition within yourself.


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    No, I don't find myself jealous of anyone. I lead a positive outlook in life and am confident in myself that I am doing the best that I can. There are days that I feel worse of course, but I just remind myself that "the grass is always browner on the other side" (little version I created myself) and remind myself that there are people worse off than I am (I'm so nice, aren't I? ).

    I'm generally all-around cheerful and know that there is no reason to be jealous.

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    @TheSpectatingLoner - I think your ability to critique yourself in such a way is surprisingly refreshing. In fact, I think it's actually attractive that a man can be a bit self-deprecating when reflecting on himself. I don't think I've ever felt jealousy of others, but I have felt inadequate around others. It's okay to occasionally feel this way as long as you're able to point out the reasons why these feelings may arise when they do. Being a gay man comes with it's own set of unique struggles that most straight men don't have to deal with.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    Anyone else struggle with it?

    Like I wish the best for everyone, I really do, but sometimes I just get so jealous of folks who have the things I want (and can never attain).

    Tonight, I'm out with my friends at a gay bar to celebrate one of my friend's birthday. My very close friend and roommate (straight guy, but has been to gay bars plenty of times with either me or other gay friends) says to me that this bar is annoying him because he "keeps getting hit on."

    I then roll my eyes, turn to him and say "Well if only you were me. Then you'd never get hit on."

    Just the idea that something like that could come as an inconvenience to someone irked me. When I know that just feeling that attractive for even a day--hell an hour--would be such a huge uplift for me.

    I feel like I'm constantly surrounding by wonderful people who look better, are better, have so much going for them. And I'm happy for them. But I'm so damn jealous.

    How do I change that? How do I accept my role as the "ugly friend" without being jealous all the damn time?

    It will always bother you as long as you let it. Work on the self esteem and go for it...

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    Quote Originally Posted by dereperez View Post
    No, I don't find myself jealous of anyone. I lead a positive outlook in life and am confident in myself that I am doing the best that I can. There are days that I feel worse of course, but I just remind myself that "the grass is always browner on the other side" (little version I created myself) and remind myself that there are people worse off than I am (I'm so nice, aren't I? ).

    I'm generally all-around cheerful and know that there is no reason to be jealous.
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    Ugh I HATE being jealous.. I used to get jealous with my ex girlfriend all the time... its really the worst feeling ever.

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    I know this feeling all too well. If you have any advice to how to be insensitive to it, I'd like to hear it. I have been "hit on" but not like hardcore flirting or anything, just people telling me I'm cute. I don't want to be cute, I wanna be hot, but I'm not, just this pitiful person who's not attractive to anyone. I'd have a better attitude about it if people would see me as human and not as a slab of meat.

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    Quote Originally Posted by figjam View Post
    It will always bother you as long as you let it. Work on the self esteem and go for it...
    I think people overdo it with the "low self esteem" claims. Everyone wants to be a shrink. Nothing I said here changes with a better "self esteem." I'm used to folks being better looking and having advantages as a result, and it's bothersome at times. That's not a self esteem issue. That's reality.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    I think people overdo it with the "low self esteem" claims. Everyone wants to be a shrink. Nothing I said here changes with a better "self esteem." I'm used to folks being better looking and having advantages as a result, and it's bothersome at times. That's not a self esteem issue. That's reality.
    It is a self esteem issue. There are advantages to you being male, being able-bodied, intelligent, etc. Yet you seem to focus on how you are deficient, particularly in such a shallow and subjective category as looks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Telstra View Post
    No your not, you said i'm disgusting without knowing anything
    Please. Cheerfulness has nothing to do with recognizing disgusting behavior, which you put on full display in the martyr thread.
    Last edited by dereperez; January 13th, 2014 at 07:08 PM.

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    My parents are both quite good looking, even though they're the "runts" of their respective families.

    Apparently, those looks were passed down to me, butt it was never anything I REALIZED because of my Short stature, and the Challenges of that I was presented with because of my diminutive stature!

    And, unfortunately, as I've aged, even the Looks no longer apply, as you can see from my avatar, which is really Me!

    As the Preacher's Kid, I also enjoyed a certain Social Status, along with it's own draw backs of Public Expectations, butt also allowed me to Relate to All other Social Strata, without the usual "Clique" boundaries.

    Did I appreciate that at the time? Um ... No! I truly had NO Clue!

    I was always Envious of the taller, more muscled, Dudes, and , therefore, tended to denigrate Myself!

    When I finally was introduced to the Gay Life, and began frequenting all the bars, and social places, I was often "Hit On", butt didn't fully understand, nor appreciated, what was actually happening, at the Time!

    There were, and still Are, other Guys that I'm completely Jealous of, and totally wish I could BE Them, instead of Who I really am!

    However, hindsight has also allowed me to realize that I wasn't as bad off as I Thought I was!

    It all boils down to SELF Perception!

    Everybody is AWESOME in their Own Right! Whatever "inadequacies" we may perceive in Ourselves is not necessarily what Others are Seeing! The only thing we can measure is the reactions, whether we "get" them, or not, from what we Think THEY are Thinking! Which, bottom line, does that Truly Matter?

    All the more reasons to ... No Matter What ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by LuckysRevenge View Post
    It is a self esteem issue. There are advantages to you being male, being able-bodied, intelligent, etc. Yet you seem to focus on how you are deficient, particularly in such a shallow and subjective category as looks.
    It isn't a self esteem issue. Stop.

    You think for a second I don't know my strong points?

    Don't think for a second I'm not happy for those things you mention. But on a near daily basis, I find myself in a room full of people who are ALSO all of those things and better looking on top of that. And in those moments, I do get jealous.

    When I know I can't get that bartending job because my headshot doesn't look as nice as the next guy's, I do get jealous. When I know I could never model for my own photography because I wouldn't get the interest that I would if I looked like my roommate or manager, or half of the hot guys on the train, I do get jealous.

    Call me superficial if you must. (Though you conveniently ignored that I mentioned jealousy of others being less fearful, more talented/accomplished than I as well)

    The self-esteem claim is tired.

    I'm strong, independent, I do NOT let people walk over me, but yes I get jealous because I regularly am around folks who have much more going on for them physically and career-wise. That's not "low self esteem." That's reality.
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    Quote Originally Posted by dereperez View Post
    Please. Cheerfulness has nothing to do with recognizing disgusting behavior, which you put on full display in the martyr thread.
    You are disgusting to infinity ...


    NEVER LISTEN TO A ONE SIDED STORY AND JUDGE.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gentleheart View Post
    Please.

    the people who go on and on about how fabulous they are, are often the most troubled. Overcompensating, perhaps?
    *Snickering*

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