You show me a gay man who says he feels adequate, and I will show you a liar. Gay man have the biggest self image problems of all because they try hardest to look perfect.
Last edited by Cumlaskan; October 19th, 2013 at 01:18 PM.
Every post you make is negative. Do you expect anyone wants to be around that? I understand what it's like to feel crappy. But if you / I / anyone else doesnt try to be pleasant, that person won't attract anything but what they give out.
Two journalists killed during live broadcasts by madman smothering them with pillows. Because remember, guns don't kill people....
You think most ppl would admit to feeling such things? What people say and how they feel aren't normally the same. But the harder someone tries to be accepted, in whatever way, gives insight into how much they think they need it.
So you don't have proof either then?
Say whatever you like, but I have traveled extensively, and it's the same everywhere. It's not hard to get a guy in bed with for a fling, even if he says he's committed to someone else. Most guys are for it anyway, and know nothing about loyalty. As soon as the going gets tough they run off to find a new model that can give them the fuzzies.
Last edited by Cumlaskan; October 19th, 2013 at 06:58 PM.
I am a gay man...and I do NOT see myself through anyone else's eyes.
of course....if you compare yourself to other people you will always come up short but that is not a gay thing...it is a human thing...
...but if you think you speak for everyone...or that everyone thinks as you do...you are simply full of shit. You certainly do not speak for me. To say that any gay man who feels adequate is lying is complete bullshit.
I am not into false images of beauty nor do I let anyone else define beauty for me. It bores me..always has.
I'm uber skeptical of those who act like their ahead of the curve when it come to basic human social behavior. You have the luxury of saying whatever you want, because none of us can read your mind. But human behavior shows us were all in the same boat. Some people are just better at putting on a front than others are.
Last edited by Cumlaskan; October 19th, 2013 at 07:42 PM.
I see a lot of strawmen and semantics. Lovely.
Oh well, one day you'll get that everyone is not you.
"Thereís death on the horizon,
and Iíll run to behold your sacrifice..."
I never said I know you better than you know yourself. But, you've never let anyone's opinion of you affect you? Never, ever? And you've now reached the pinnacle of human existence where it's impossible for other people's opinion of you to affect you? You expect anyone to believe that?
Last edited by Cumlaskan; October 19th, 2013 at 07:48 PM.
I promise you with every fiber of my being I never once "tried to look perfect". I did however grow up with a pair of assholes who did exactly that 24/7 so I learned from their bad behavior what never to become. I think you would have liked them and they would have adored you...you are their kind of guy.
I really hate it when anyone paints gay people with a broad brush...ESPECIALLY when it is another gay person. I do apologize (to myself) for not ignoring your bullshit...I wish I would have. Not many personality types can really get to me...but yours can. I gotta work on that.
We started compiling a list with him of "signs a guy is gay and closeted" - assigning positive scores for "positive signs" and negative ones for negative. It was more a joke on his end, but he was quite serious about it. And guess what? There wasn't a single trait we could come up with that he felt deserved a negative score. From the car you drive to the music you listen to, whether it's a gay stereotype or not, it's all a clear sign that you like-y the dick-y.
He began staging mini-interventions for his "clearly-gay-but-closeted" friends, begging them to break up with their wives and girlfriends and live "as they really were". He was pretty bummed, because "apparently they all choose the closet and fake-normalcy to facing the truth." And he got quite defensive whenever somebody questioned that hey, maybe some of these guys were actually straight. "Oh, so you think nobody lives in the closet? You jusr believe everything guys tell you? Cone on - I was there. I KNOW what they're doing."
I'm sensing a kinship here.
Do I care about how I'm viewed by others? Sure. Even when I buy my T-shirts with oddball cartoon characters on them, I'm hoping other people like them. And I spill ketchup on the one I'm wearing at home, I change before I go out. (If I truly didn't care, I presumably would leave it on.) But I think that's kind of par for the course for people in general, and I don't think it indicates a self-image problem on my part. Do gay guys have self-image problems more often than straight guys? Can't say. Yeah, I've seen some gay guys at clubs or the gym who seem to be doing some major over-compensating, but I could go down the block and see straight men and women doing the same thing.
It's hard not to come here and not being preachy..
but I have one thing to say: