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    What do you think of regifting?

    How do you feel about it? Have you ever done it? How do you feel when someone regifts your gift to them?

    I had this discussion with a couple mutual friends lately. One friend is upset when she found out that the tie she got for someone was then regifted to someone else.

    It's not such a big deal to me actually. If someone wants to regift my gift...then at least I did them the favor and they already have something to gift to someone else. I can understand some may be bothered by it though. I guess it would maybe bother me a little bit if I picked out something personal that I thought would be great for that person, then find out they just gave it away to someone else without so much as a second thought...

    I've been "guilty" of regifting before, but only for things such as Starbucks or Chipotle gift cards, since I never go to those places myself. It'd be a waste.

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    I've been a re-gift recipient a few times, myself.

    While I don't re-gift things, I don't mind getting a re-gift if it's something I like!


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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    It depends on what you consider "regifting".

    I tend to give shirts bought by my mother or some of my friends to charity - I feel that's a better compromise, and it alleviates my general annoyance at a person (my mom) seeing the way I dress firsthand, and then buying me things far too big for me, because of the way my other two brothers dress.
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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    It's perfectly fine. I do it all the time with hookups.

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    Sometimes, re-gifting can be a real mine field!

    Especially if you forget who gave it to you in the first place, and you give it back to them!

    However, in general, if it's "Kewl", butt you still don't want it anyway, and the receiver is not aware of where it came from, then you're likely O.K.

    One BAD time, that I remember, was giving a Bud a little "disk" of HOT Gel Lube. I'd forgotten that I'd tried it once, and my finger trace was still obvious on it's surface!

    And, though he understood, he still tossed it (who could blame him?) without wanting to try it, obviously "used"!

    The moral of that story is ... if you're going to re-gift something, double check that it at least looks Prime!

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    I don't find it a great idea, in general.
    I don't want to offend the giver - or worry about the receiver.
    Charity is an option.

    OR, if someone REALLY likes something, I may give it to them if appropriate.
    It would have to be a special regift recipient, though.


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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    Regifting...reminds me of this song...


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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    I've never regifted anything, but I wouldn't mind getting a gift that's been regifted... if I like it, and/or if it's something useful.

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    It's tacky. If you don't like a gift, just give it to someone who does for no special occasion.
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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    I would only give someone something I didn't care for and had no use for---and I'd give it away if I thought a friend would like it and have a use for it.

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    well, think it's a bit insulting.
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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    Practical, but often impersonal.

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    When I was a young man I felt honor-bound to keep crap I hated. No more.

    Re-gifting should be done with care however. There is no need to make it apparent to anyone involve that it was given away again.

    For my own part, I like to see that someone who does like it benefits from it.

    Just last Thursday a friend gave me three bagels as a reciprocation gift for having given him and his mate a dinner I made them. He didn't know I dislike bagels and green chile cheese least of all. I quietly took them to work the next morning and shared them at the coffee bar. Problem solved.

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    Don't mind if it's something generic or thoughtless like a box of chocolate/cookies.

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    I agree with doing it only when it really would be nicer for someone else to have something that myself that I wouldn't enjoy or use. It's got to be done tactfully, and like sixthson says not necessarily for any special occasion. There's got to be a generous spirit in giving it to someone, not treated like a gift dump.
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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    I happen to hold on to gifts which I receive, but don't happen to like; it isn't that the gift wasn't a good one, it may simply be that it wasn't a gift I happened to enjoy. When this happens, I tend to bestow the gift upon a recipient who would enjoy the gift far more than I ever could.

    I received a Christmas gift once, had no use for it (although it was beautiful), and gave it to a co-worker of mine as a wedding gift... along with a thoughtful card, which also contained $50 cash.

    The moral of the story: I'm neither tacky, nor cheap.

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    I've never regifted anything. If anything has been regifted to me, it hasn't been advertised as such. I have inherited the occasional bottle of wine from a teetotaler, but that was never as a special occasion gift like a birthday or anything, just a "someone gave me this but I don't drink, would you like it?" when I was visiting them.

    If I were to regift something, though, I don't think I'd tell the recipient it was a hand-me-down.

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    I have not regifted items before so my stand is that each to his own. However, for me, I find it crass and not sincere enough. Fair enough if you want to give it to someone else because you think they might find it practical but don't just re-package it and claim that you bought it! It is rude and a form of disrespect for the original giver.
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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    Over the years, we've been inundated with many, many gifts of things that we cannot use or cannot eat or drink.

    We know that we have also been given re-gifts, some of which we've really appreciated.

    A few years ago, we realized that we can't have entire rooms full of stuff in boxes and shelves of unused gourmet food items. So we joined the re-gifting league. And had a party where all the gourmet food gifts were served to people who could eat it or drink it.

    win-win.

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

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    It is rude and a form of disrespect for the original giver.
    I don't agree. When we accept a gift, it is often an unknown thing given us in a situation in which we can hardly refuse (without making a much greater social offense.)

    The notion that we should keep something that we find ugly, or space-consuming, irritating, or wasted, is not a value that we should uphold, nor does etiquette demand it. Etiquette demands that we make effort to preserve the social contract, to not return generosity with antipathy, scorn, or ingratitude. But, the truth is, many people are either lazy or clueless or disinterested in the giving process to select something that suits the recipient. Every day, people are given knick-knacks, restaurant gift cards, books, wines, crocheted toilet roll covers, bargain basement clearance flotsam, clothing, bumper stickers, and things too horrible to mention. Etiquette may or may not expect us to keep silent or lie about what became of said mismatched gift, but it never expects us to be novices to Our Lady of Perpetual Remembrance because we were the hapless recipient.

    Somewhere along the way we have inadvertently crossed the notion that we are to be grateful, and even more if someone made it for us, with the notion that retaining said gift is evidence we weren't being too selfish or materialistic. Whereas that is a good beginning precept when teaching children not to be rude, and is a necessity when preparing them for birthday parties and visits by distant great-aunts, it isn't a law of the universe that follows us into adulthood.

    And then there is the question about appearing to spend money on the new recipient, and getting a "free" credit for generosity. This is a sort of bastardization of the Old Testament where King David is careful to pay for a threshing floor lest he "sacrifice" a gift to God that cost him (David) nothing. I don't think that inter-ethereal standard really has much to say to inter-human exchanges. A man holds a $50 gift certificate to Forever 21. It has a value. What is unethical about him giving it to his nephew as a birthday gift? It is his asset just the same as the $50 in his bank account. Whether he goes and picks out a gift with it and gives the nephew, or just gives away the card, what does it matter? And, to make matters worse, why is it good to set up a standard by which a poor man should be made to feel "guilty" for not giving more generously or originally from money he may not have?

    I received well over $600 in 1979 when I graduated high school. Because I was a poor kid without parents who could return the social obligation by them buying my classmates gifts in exchange, I had to spend all of it on graduation presents for my peers. That doesn't mean I gave away any of the dozens of presents (towels, etc.) but the fact that I bought gifts with the money did not make it disrespectful, did not make it less generous, and did not make me less grateful to those who gave it to me. It was almost 35 years ago, and I still have the list I used when writing my thank-yous.
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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    Re-gifting can be fun. You could re-gift the same thing to someone different every year to see who gets it, or two people/couples could keep re-gifting something back and forth, kind of like those stories about people sending each other the same birthday card every year.

    I personally don't mind it, as long as some thought went into what I have been given (of course unless it involves the above lol)
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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    Downright tacky and as such totally appropriate for your frenemies.
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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    On the 27th of Dec. my friend has a Shovunda party every year. Everyone brings a gift they received at Christmas that they would shove under the bed. Sometimes people bring things that people that are there gave them. It's a great time and nobody has ever been offended. It's amazing to see what crap some people buy for their friends.

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    ^I love it. Swell idea.

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    I think it's cheap!

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    Poor people are much less likely to see it that way.

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    The people I tend to give gifts to are generally people close to me and I tend to get them gifts based on things they like, so if they were re-gift it or give it away I would be bothered by that. I'd honestly rather give them the receipt and they can get the money for something more they desire or actually need.

    I don't re-gift or give gifts that I have received away.

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    Quote Originally Posted by umjreon88 View Post
    Fair enough if you want to give it to someone else because you think they might find it practical but don't just re-package it and claim that you bought it! It is rude and a form of disrespect for the original giver.
    I'm going to assume that there are people guilty of this and it is really lame/lazy.

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    Quote Originally Posted by Anders123 View Post
    Practical, but often impersonal.
    Quote Originally Posted by Sausy View Post
    I agree with doing it only when it really would be nicer for someone else to have something that myself that I wouldn't enjoy or use. It's got to be done tactfully, and like sixthson says not necessarily for any special occasion. There's got to be a generous spirit in giving it to someone, not treated like a gift dump.
    That's basically how I feel about it. I find that the gifting is almost always about the act of giving rather than the actual gift item itself. It's a social concept and percept, and it's acceptable when done tactfully.

    Quote Originally Posted by umjreon88 View Post
    I have not regifted items before so my stand is that each to his own. However, for me, I find it crass and not sincere enough. Fair enough if you want to give it to someone else because you think they might find it practical but don't just re-package it and claim that you bought it! It is rude and a form of disrespect for the original giver.
    I respect your opinion but would a gift do much good if it is just sitting under the bed collecting dust? It's a tough question for me to answer but I find myself asking the question: would I rather find out that the gift I gave is tossed somewhere in the closet never to see the light of day, or that it was regifted to someone else that was grateful and could make use of it? On second thought, I'd probably lean toward the latter...

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    Quote Originally Posted by SLOPPYSECONDS View Post
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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    I see it as a practical thing, someone gives you something you can't use, why not pass it on to someone who can. I have done it a few times, like someone else mentioned, with gift cards. If you do not like the restaurant or there is not one where you live, I think it is better to pass those to someone who can actually use them. Dear Abby says that once a gift is given it belongs to the person that it was given to and that person can choose to do with it whatever they want to.

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    Quote Originally Posted by dereperez View Post
    I respect your opinion but would a gift do much good if it is just sitting under the bed collecting dust? It's a tough question for me to answer but I find myself asking the question: would I rather find out that the gift I gave is tossed somewhere in the closet never to see the light of day, or that it was regifted to someone else that was grateful and could make use of it? On second thought, I'd probably lean toward the latter...
    I didn't mean that it is crass and rude to regift it as a practical item for someone's needs. What I meant is it's bad to repackage it and claim it as something you've given thought and bought it.
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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    I do enjoy Giving gifts, butt am reticent about accepting them.

    I have drawers, and closets, full of unopened, or opened but "stored", gifts.

    In spite of my previous post, I usually put quite a bit of thought, and effort, into finding, and presenting, a Good gift, depending on the intended receiver, and the occasion at hand.

    HOWEVER ... there have been times that I've been caught, short handed, unaware of the suddenly arrived time for gift giving. Under that type of deadline, I've been known to go through those drawers, and closets, to find something appropriate.

    There was also a Tradition in my Family of passing along a certain mahogany sculpture at the Xmas gift exchange. To the best of my knowledge, my parents, the last of their respective family members, are now "stuck" with it!

    Re-gifting can be done with open Humor, or surreptitious good intentions.

    The trick is ... in most cases ... don't get "caught"!

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    Re: What do you think of regifting?

    I only regifted once and it was something I fairly liked but I didn't need and I didn't use at all. Would be better on a needing hand. I forget the item though. I think it was an ornamental lava lamp or something like that.

    On the contrary, I haven't ever known if my gift had been regifted. But I would take that as a personal input: maybe I picked the wrong gift, otherwise it wouldn't be regifted.
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