So I almost never do this. Never tell stories or anything about myself like this other than to my friends. But I've seen some of the advice you guys give on this site, hopefully it can entail what I should do.
So earlier this year, I was in a relationship with a guy. At first it started out okay, things were going well, but by around the end of the first month, I was already starting to see problems. He was being too extreme about everything, demanding I call him the second I get up, telling secrets to other people, and always criticizing me for not having the same opinion (or even the same feelings for that matter).
As time passed by, I started talking to another guy. He talked to me through one of the chaser/chub sites. Of course I wanted to see if he could put up to the test of keeping a conversation and not just "hey, sexy body right there". Within a few minutes of talking to him, we mentioned about Power Rangers, Dance Central, Marvel comics, and many other nerdy things. It seemed like each day I wanted to talk to him more and more, and overtime, I became more interested and attracted to him than the guy I was in a relationship with. It became more and more obvious what had to be done, break up my relationship. A week passed by, I saw him just to check up if everything was okay. It felt awkward. Part of me didn't want to be there, and part of me kept kissing him and cuddling him. Later during the night, I talked it over and I told him there was someone else I'm interested in. He says it's okay and I can move on (he then backfired because he was trying to get back at me). Going back to the guy I'm interested in now, we talked every single day (haven't missed one day), constantly flirting nonstop, and teasing each other with body parts, while at the same time, talking about our toy collections, comics, and cartoons. Of course there was a catch though, I lived in NY, he lives in Arkansas. I could have easily wanted to be with him if it weren't for long distance. 2 months in, he invites me to come to San Diego Comic Con with him. Now it would have been perfect for me, I get to go the place I've been dying to go to since I was 12, and it's a date too. But I told him that I wasn't working right now (student in school full-time), so I couldn't really fly over there. The day he was supposed to fly back to his home in Arkansas, I texted him asking if everything is alright. He was afraid to tell me that he was stuck in San Diego and had no choice but to go to a motel. It was then that I realized I was worried about him, thinking about him for the rest of the night. As he's going to the motel, I started to realize it was becoming more and more obvious that, I completely fell in love with him. He felt the same way about me and it made me feel so happy about myself. This guy has shown concern for me, we both share the same passionate interests, he's a big loving bear to me. But 2 more months had got by (which would be now at this point), and I was wondering where do I go from here? Do I tell him I want to be in a relationship with him, or do I wait until it's possible to actually see each other. My friends have told me at this point, I should tell him, or at least let him consider it. But there's another problem, I'm not out yet either. I've only come out to my friends, no one in my family. But part of me wants to come out just to be with this guy. I even ask him to go as my date for my brother's wedding, which would practically mean outing myself to nearly a hundred people. My friend tonight was giving me advice on So I did just that, I asked. I told him it's been about 4 months, and that he was the first guy ever that respected me as a friend first, shares the same personality and interests, and didn't rush me to be in a relationship within a month. He said that if I lived in Arkansas, we would have already been in a relationship. However, I didn't really get much of a response after that. I didn't know whether to bring it up again or just figure out when would be the right time.
I rarely write walls of text, but this is something that's been on my mind for a while now and I'm wondering to approach this.