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    My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    My story

    My name is Craig, I am 21 and I live in the UK.

    I knew I was different when I was about 13-14, I looked at guys at school rather than looking at girls like all my other friends but I just suppressed them thoughts and carried on with my life. when I was 16 I decided to try and get a girlfriend and try to act on the most accepted way of life.. being "straight" I did get a girlfriend and I while being with her it was all fun and stuff but 2 years into the relationship... nothing was happening in anyway, as in sexually we hugged and held hands but it just felt so strange and not right for me. One day i tried to french kiss her... we did but it just wasn't right, I felt really uncomfortable like I knew this was not me and since then I knew it was because I was really just gay.
    once we all left school I basically broke up with my girlfriend due to me obviously being gay and accepting myself for it but I just never saw her and it was more like a friendship due to us never interacting sexually.. so we split up...
    then I was in and out of jobs
    cleaner
    toy shop sales assistant...
    I just wasn't enjoying my life
    I knew I was gay and I didn't tell anyone, all I had was the internet to talk to about it I became very depressed as I was thinking my family and friends would neglect me for me being gay...
    the worst thing of what I thought would happen was if my parents rejected me. I don't think I could have lived on if my parents rejected me for who I am
    eventually an employment agency helped me get a good solid job

    I became a Auxiliary Nurse (yes I know cliche.. gay nurse.....)
    but it is a perfect job for me I get to meet all typed of people and everyone is accepted because, well you have to be
    I then met a agency nurse on one shift and found out he is gay
    our convocation basically turned to gays and stuff and I basically told him I am gay... and that was the first time I ever told anyone my deep dark secret...

    some time after I downloaded some gay apps on the iphone
    grindr
    growlr

    you know the type lol
    and I met my first bf on there and our first couple of times meeting it was all a secret, my parents just thought I was meeting a friend from work
    when i actuality I was experimenting with a guy far away lol

    soon I had to come out because I just couldn't keep lying to my parents where I was

    So I wrote a coming out letter... and kept it in my room in a box

    and about a month later I got home from work and just gave the letter to my mom
    as soon as I gave the letter to her I started crying
    like I could feel the secret coming out of my eyes (strange I know)

    my mom started crying and she basically accepted me for who I am
    my mom told my dad and on the night my dad was crying talking about grandchildren and that's all he really said
    but they both accept me now as the big shock has gone
    then the entire family found out and they all sent me really supportive text messages and it made me really glad

    then they got to meet my bf
    and all that happened really nicely they accepted him and everything was going smoothly
    until he broke up with me... saying he wasn't ready for a relationship...
    me knowing how hard it was for me to get a bf (knowing about the gay scene and stepping into it) I begged him to take me back (stupid I know)
    about a week latter he did... we got back together and met a few times but he broke my heart again (no surprise) we broke up again..
    we stayed in touch through text
    then I was basically back on the market again lol

    I started coming out to my friends and work friends and they were all really supportive.

    I then started a new profile on grindr and growlr
    and started speaking to more guys, only most on there are just pic swapping whores to be honest...
    I met one guy on there (just met him the once I can't even remember his name now)
    but once we met in person he was just too in my face with the "gay" label the voice and the mannerisms, all queen like... nothing wrong with people like that.. just not my type.
    so that didn't go anywhere lol

    then litteraly about a week later I got talking to a guy called Glen
    his growlr name was "deaf guy"
    at the time i thought is he joking is he really deaf???
    so I just talked to him and talked and talked and talked
    I found out he really is deaf and we just clicked
    I spoke to my ex about him and my ex just put a downer on everything...

    "he's deaf you realise how hard it will be with him"

    things like that
    I just thought no I will try and see where this goes

    so first day I spoke to glen Feb 14th 2013
    I went to meet him the very next day lol

    we were both really nervous
    I was just so nervous because I just started speaking to this guy yesterday lol
    and I was thinking how will we communicate if things get further?

    we went to a cafe
    and we spoke to each other by writing on paper (I kept the paper)

    now it's 6 months later and me and glen are still together
    he has been teaching me BSL (British Sign language)

    and the only time communication has been via paper is the first time we met
    since then it has either been via phone of BSL or he lip reads

    He has become very close with my parents and he become part of the family
    I am very happy that I have come out as I can now be myself with the people I love

    I feel like I will be with glen for a very long time as we are becoming closer and closer

    I am really happy with my life right now.




    Sorry for the long post guys

    if you actually read this far, THANK YOU

    if you have any questions about my life or my deaf bf or anything just ask

    peace.

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    Thanks very much for your story.

    I wish you continued success and growth in your relationship.

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    Great! I have a deaf friend from university in a long term relationship, and another long-lost deaf acquaintance who dated someone else I know. I guess the message is, attraction is attraction. We adapt to the people we care about.
    Americans need to keep their guns so they can protect themselves from gun violence just like Nancy Lanza did. And like Chris Kyle did. And like Gabby Giffords did. And like Tom Clements did. And like Michael Piemonte. And Joseph Wilcox.

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    Great! Thanks for posting your message, and no problem at all its long. Its good to see that you are right now living a happy and a relaxed life since you have decided to live a life of an open gay. I don't have experiences with deaf friends, but it seems to me that both of you are very happy with each other. Great man, that you have found such a nice boyfriend.

    Your message is a very good one for other guys who are still closeted, as it shows that things have improved quite alot since you have told the truth about yourself.

    Best wishes & good luck.
    I am Dutch, so please excuse me for my low level of English.

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    Thank you for sharing you story and so much of your life. With the big secret out of the way you learned that you began to have the energy for self-development, authentic friendships and familial relationships, a solid romantic relationship and enhanced self-esteem. It's quite a beautiful story and ought to provide others a lot of hope. Cheers!
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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    Lovely story...
    "... You think the only people who are people
    Are the people who look and think like you ..." - Colours of the Wind by Vanessa Williams

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    Great Story! I love a happy ending.
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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    I liked reading your story. The longer ones are often the best.

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    This is a really lovely story. Loved it. It's nice to hear (or read) some happy ending now and again.

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    Thanks guys

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    Love and romance know no bounds. Where there is attractions and care, communication is a minor thing. There are myriads of ways to communicate. The experiences you and Glen will have will help each of you to grow. As you have stated, you are learning BSL and with the modern technology of texting it gives each of you the opportunity of verbal communication. But don't forget a light touch, a smile, a tender kiss...this can be a much greater communicator. It is pleasing to read that you and Glen have found this together. My best wishes for you both.

    Craiger

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    Thank you for sharing your story. It means a lot for the people replying and even for those lurking about. Wish you the very best.


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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    When I was a freshman in high school, I was the youngest person in all of my classes, but there was also a transfer student that was deaf. I knew then that it was my mission to learn ASL (American Sign Language) and befriend him. I also took Spanish and French, but amazingly enough, I remember more ASL than the other two combined.

    I LOVE interrupting a sign language conversation and introducing myself! Language, like any other muscle - USE IT or LOSE IT! Any who, it was/is fun, and like any other language, there is always slang and shortening. I just need to meet Luke Adams from "The Amazing Race" and marry him!

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    Update
    We are still together
    My signing is getting better
    And he is planning on moving in this year


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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    Your bf is a lucky guy. You sound terrific!
    Everyone wants to be heard. No one wants to listen.

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    Omg that's an amazing and inspiring story. Thanks for sharing that with us. I love happy endings.

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    What a sweet story. Congrats!!! (And I have a thing for deaf guys. Double points!)

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    Congratulations to both you and Glen, Craig. It will soon be your first year anniversary and moving in together will be an added pleasure.
    Your story shows that there are no odds that cannot be overcome. Keep us posted.

    Craiger

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

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    This is me (left) and glen (right)

    This pic is from when we both went to out city's gay pride for the first time ever
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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    What a great pic. Sharing is wonderful experience and you two look so content. Thanks, Craig, for sharing it with us. And a hello to Glen.

    Craiger

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    Thanks for the story and even more so for the happy update.
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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    Thanks for the update. Great pic, thanks for sharing and wonderful to hear that all goes well with both of you.
    Good luck!!
    I am Dutch, so please excuse me for my low level of English.

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    We are still together and it has almost been 1 year (april 7th) since we started dating

    on the 29th of march we both decided to celebrate mothers day by having both our mothers meet both of us for a meal only it was the first time our mothers met and they didn't know they were going to meet lol

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    Re: My story, coming out, Deaf bf. long post Please read :)

    Thanks for the update.

    I wish continued happiness.

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