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    former best friend/crush hates me now

    I was unemployed for two years and basically had no social life. Finally got a temporary gig and talked to this guy for a few months. Became close friends, texted everyday for like two months. He was my closest friend. He got mad at me n said some semi hurtful things. I said some hurtful things and blocked him. Didnt talk to him for a week and finally texted him a week later asking if we can go back to normal. He blocks me. I try apologizing different ways. I miss him so much. I think i love him? He doesnt know im gay. And part of me thinks i got so mad at him because i wanted him to treat me better and i wanted alot more from him or maybe im just not familiar with how straight guys act so i overreacted. Anyway. Hes yelled at me to leave me alone, he cant even ride the same elevator with me. He just hates my guts. Last text he sent me was telling me how he doesnt read my texts and doesnt want to be friends anymore. Its been close to four months without him now. To make matters worst, i see him everyday cause his shift starts when mine ends. I still think about him alot throughout the day. Random things remind me of him. I just want to randomly burst into tears. I dont know what to do. I miss him so much. Life feels pointless, lonely, hollow...I need advice. Just forget him? Theres nothing else i can do right? Im barking up the wrong tree anyway...

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    Re: former best friend/crush hates me now

    Forget him. You need to move on with your life by making new friends...by dating other guys. Keep your social life busy. Don't hold on to old memories/fantasies/crush with him. Make new memories and adventures with new friends.

    Most importantly, what have you learned from this experience? What have you learned about yourself to improve in the future?
    Last edited by HunterM; August 26th, 2013 at 10:55 PM.

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    Re: former best friend/crush hates me now

    ok, this is probably not what you want to hear, but you sound like a creep. inappropriate, emotionally immature, and clingy.

    just leave him be, before you end up losing your job because of harassment or stalking.

    in the future, don't obsess over straight guys. and dont build your entire social life around one single person.

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    Re: former best friend/crush hates me now

    Quote Originally Posted by hylas View Post
    ok, this is probably not what you want to hear, but you sound like a creep. inappropriate, emotionally immature, and clingy.

    just leave him be, before you end up losing your job because of harassment or stalking.

    in the future, don't obsess over straight guys. and dont build your entire social life around one single person.
    More right than wrong.

    Move on.

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    Re: former best friend/crush hates me now

    "To make matters worst, i see him everyday cause his shift starts when mine ends."

    Thats is awkward.
    Maybe just smile and pretend nothing happened ?


    NEVER LISTEN TO A ONE SIDED STORY AND JUDGE.

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    Re: former best friend/crush hates me now

    He may be your best friend in that two months, you may not have been his best friend at all.

    You may have placed him on your high pedestal, but he may not feel he belongs there.

    As many above had said, move on.

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    Re: former best friend/crush hates me now

    People can decide who they want to be friends with or not. You can't force him to come back to being friends with you. He doesn't owe you anything. I'm sure he said hurtful things, but I can only imagine the things you said back to him. Remember, you cut off communication first by blocking him. That gave him the signal that you were no longer going to listen to him. So he made a final decision himself.

    Friends are not suppose to fight. In the future, handle your friendships with more care and respect. They are valuable and precious. You should also weigh how you treat another person by the proximity and number of times you see them every day. You have to accept the consequences of your actions and move on. Respect his space. Antagonizing him for contact will only make him hate you more. Find new friends.
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    Re: former best friend/crush hates me now

    All that drama on his part makes me wonder if he isn't gay
    Sorry to hear your taking it so hard, but just find a real friend, and forget all about him -- Life's too short

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    Re: former best friend/crush hates me now

    If he's straight, you're wasting your time anyways.

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    Re: former best friend/crush hates me now

    You need friends who know you are gay. Leave this guy alone as further attempts would be considered stalking. Do what you can to avoid him.
    "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."--Dr. Seuss

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    Re: former best friend/crush hates me now

    he indirectly called me a fucking (dont want to go into detail) and other things so i responded by recalling the details of every single moment he was pissed at me and how i tried to be a good friend basically trying to guilt him and said he was just as insecure as me. i was pissed as fuck that he called me all these things. were we both assholes. he's ignored me before but not to great lengths like me. i dont know if its just straight guy behavior or talk and i was overly sensitive? i think i think about him less now...

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    Re: former best friend/crush hates me now

    i know. i shud move on. im immature and i felt the need to defend myself on this thread to the creep remark, but its not like u guys know the entire picture n details anyway.

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    Re: former best friend/crush hates me now

    If we don't know the entire picture and details how do you expect us to give meaningful answers? Yes some people have said somed things that aren't nice but this is an online forum. You're going to get opinions you don't like.

    Both of you acted like immature kids. Calling names, blocking each other etc. he's told you clearly he's not interested. it doesnt matter what the entire picture is. He's told you to stop. You need to move on.

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