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    Is he trying to flirt again?

    Hi guys --
    So I work at a dept store and one day I had this male customer, maybe a few years older than me, and he was in a rush looking for clothes and I helped him out. He was very appreciative and left. A few days later the store had gotten an emailed comment from the website and it was this guy expressing his deepest thanks in ME for helping him get the items he wanted. He had included his email saying that it was okay to contact him. So, being the nice guy I am I decided to send him an email to personally respond to his kind words of thanks and to show my appreciation (not to mention he was cute and I was interested lol). We ended up trading a couple of emails back and forth and it was revealed that he was gay and very interested in me and it was his "secret plan" to email the company in hopes that he would get a date out of it.
    Well, he gave me his number and we texted for a while kind of getting to know you stuff. But I ended up texting him a lot and sending him emails trying to set a date to go out (I probably over did it but he never answered my messages which made me want to try harder). Eventually I got a message back saying he wasnt interested anymore because of all the messages, which I'm thinking if I didn't do I would have actually had a shot with him.
    Okay so this happened probably about a year ago and we haven't talked since. Today, I get a notification from LinkedIn and it's HIM trying to become a connection of mine on LinkedIn! So I'm not really sure what that means or what I should do...
    I'm very confused about this, especially since it just happened.

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    Re: Is he trying to flirt again?

    Just be friends with him. Do'nt over whem him with unwanted useless emails.

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    Do you fancy just being a "trophy fuck" ? Because mate that is what it will be . He sounds like a *Player* , and hey nowt wrong with that .
    Just have a good long think , before you leap . Good luck .

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    I'd let it go for a few reasons. Your lucky he didn't report You to your work for taking things too far. Yes he initiated the contact but many places have rules against employees getting involved with customers. He could have made it sound like you were pestering him and wouldn't leave him alone. You also sound a little too excited he's reached out and I'm afraid the same result will happen. It's possible he deleted your info and is trying to re connect. You could accept the invite but that's all Id do. He may have just joined and your in his contacts and everyone in his contacts got an invite. You don't know. He may have had second thoughts and used the "too many messages" as a reason to break it off. Personally. I'd ignore it.

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    I'd leave it alone. If you're at the same store and have the same email and phone number he knows how to find you.
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    So should I accept the request and then not try to contact him at all? Cause that's what I'm thinking I'm going to do. If he wants to contact me he can do whatever he wants

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    Re: Is he trying to flirt again?

    Quote Originally Posted by hairbway207 View Post
    So should I accept the request and then not try to contact him at all? Cause that's what I'm thinking I'm going to do. If he wants to contact me he can do whatever he wants
    ^We cannot tell you what to do . All we can do is offer advice and support .
    It looks like you have made your mind up , hope it turns out well.

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    Does Linked In have a feature where it scans your address book and then tries to connect everyone?

    I know Facebook has that feature. I think they call it "click here to auto-stalk old acquaintances."
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    Re: Is he trying to flirt again?

    I think they have that feature, but I'm not sure...so maybe he didn't MEAN to connect with me on the site... maybe I should just ignore it?

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    Re: Is he trying to flirt again?

    Quote Originally Posted by hairbway207 View Post
    I think they have that feature, but I'm not sure...so maybe he didn't MEAN to connect with me on the site... maybe I should just ignore it?
    I'd ignore it. A lot of those sites DO contact everyone in your contact list if you happen to accidentally push the wrong button. If he REALLY wants to contact you, he would. He knows how, and where to find you.
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    You have his phone number, why not text him and ask him if the Linked In was legit? Just so that you understand, coming across as too needy is a turn off for most guys, I would think.
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    I don't think I have his number anymore and honestly I don't think I'd want to text him.. but idk if I should ignore it, what's the harm in being connected on the site?

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    Re: Is he trying to flirt again?

    The harm is that you will be inundated with more LinkedIn contacts. My experience has been by even looking at someones profile on that site it tends to alert that person. Also rechecks you contacts and sends out "join LinkedIn" email to them. As others have said, he knows where to find you and since you over reacted before, let him do the searching now. He could have stopped your constant texting and emails when you first started, but it seemed his ego was stroked by the attention until it became too much. He sounds like an opportunist to me. Ignore him until he actually contacts you some other way than LinkedIn. Good luck!

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    I can see a lot of bad energy being involved with this.

    I'd stay clear.

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    Dude. Just let it go. You're already obsessing over it. What are you going to do if he didn't want any contact from you, like he said he did, and he reports you to your employer? You could be risking your job. Like almost everyone here has said. Let it go. If he wants to contact you he knows where and how. Until then I'd delete the request so your not tempted to do something you may regret doing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BENDERBOY View Post
    I can see a lot of bad energy being involved with this.

    I'd stay clear.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Georgiadude View Post
    Dude. Just let it go. You're already obsessing over it. What are you going to do if he didn't want any contact from you, like he said he did, and he reports you to your employer? You could be risking your job. Like almost everyone here has said. Let it go. If he wants to contact you he knows where and how. Until then I'd delete the request so your not tempted to do something you may regret doing.

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    ^And this , great advice my friend .

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    Yeah, you were trying too hard and it scared him away. Part of dating is not throwing yourself onto a guy. A challenge is a good thing to maintain interest. He did not contact you, LinkedIn did. They scan e-mail addresses and contact and send out mass invites to everyone that person has sent a message to. It has nothing to do with this guy personally inviting you on there. He has moved on, and isn't even aware you got that spam message. Ignore the spam, and forget all about him.
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    Re: Is he trying to flirt again?

    You guys are right, I just deleted the request... it was hard though

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    Good choice.

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    Your lack of a restraining order will thank you.
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