I love my man dearly and we have been together 3.5 years, but having sex once or twice a month is just so frustrating. Sometimes there is a full month that goes by where nothing happens. We've talked about it many times, and he openly admits that he prefers intimacy over sex, but when we have sex, he enjoys it so much he always says, "we need to do that more often. that was so hot." He doesn't follow through on that though. We have plenty of intimacy, and laughs and fun in the rest of our lives together. He brought up the topic of opening our relationship for my sake last year, but I haven't stepped out for sex with anyone else because I don't want to hurt him, and I think it would. I have talked to, and unintentionally led on, a few guys who are very interested in sex with me (plus all the kinks that my vanilla man is very against). They know about my bf and I try to be very honest in my conversations with them and my bf. I just don't know what the right choice is here.