JustUsBoys.com gay porn forum

logo

remove these banner ads by becoming a JUB Supporter.

View Poll Results: If you're gay, would you date a bisexual?

Voters
102. You may not vote on this poll
  • Yes

    73 71.57%
  • No

    22 21.57%
  • I don't know

    7 6.86%
Page 1 of 8 126 ... LastLast
Results 1 to 50 of 392
  1. #1
    Slut
    Join Date
    Oct 2012
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Bisexual
    Status
    Dating
    Posts
    172

    Code of Conduct

    If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    If so or no why?

  2. #2
    In Heat............ BENDERBOY's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2011
    Location
    Edinburgh, Scotland.
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Single
    Posts
    102,380

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    If i liked him enough, yes.
    "You may only be one person to the world, but you may also be the world to one person"
    - anonymous quote.

  3. #3
    GAYVIATOR
    ibill1's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2009
    Location
    SAN
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Widower
    Posts
    2,279

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Yes. But if I liked him enough, eventually I would ask him to make a decision if he was dating women also. Pu**y or cock buddy, your choice!

  4. #4
    Elderhostile Gay Dejavudoo's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Location
    Albuquerque
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Available
    Posts
    5,968

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    There are monogamous and polygamous bisexuals. I'd date a monogamous one.
    There are TWO kinds of people in the world -- the kind who believe there are two kinds of people, and the kind who don't.

  5. #5
    Kien
    Guest

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Of course! Don't gotta make a big deal about them liking women too.

  6. #6
    JUB Addict evanrick's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Seattle
    Gender
    Male
    Posts
    4,491
    Blog Entries
    16

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    if you were a blonde would you date a brunette? kinda silly question dont you think?
    http://forum.justusboys.com/forum/signaturepics/sigpic30903_2.gif

  7. #7
    Elderhostile Gay Dejavudoo's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Location
    Albuquerque
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Available
    Posts
    5,968

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    I don't think it silly. Many bisexuals would argue that it is necessary to express their attractions for both sexes. Whereas there certainly are men OK with open relationships, there are obviously those who aren't, and many on JUB of both ilks.

    There is obviously the concern with dating a bisexual that you might well be setting both of you up for a breakup.

    It isn't any more silly than asking a gay man whether he expects an open relationship or not. I don't see it as biased, only intentional and open.
    There are TWO kinds of people in the world -- the kind who believe there are two kinds of people, and the kind who don't.

  8. #8
    JUB Addict Anders123's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2010
    Location
    Melbourne
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Single
    Posts
    1,852

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Yes, but I still wouldn't trust Kabluey around my goldfish.

  9. #9
    A Total Bottom mbamike's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Posts
    14,614

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Yes, because there is a chance we could have sex.

    Homophobia kills!

  10. #10
    The nice guy from Nice. dpnice's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2005
    Orientation
    Gay
    Posts
    7,164
    Blog Entries
    294

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    I'd date anybody who was interested in me and whom I appreciated.

    Take advantage of the moment and who knows it might develope into a fabulous future.

    If not, knock it down to experience and carry on with living.
    http://justusboys.com/forum/image.php?type=sigpic&userid=72786&dateline=115443  2352

  11. #11
    Kien
    Guest

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Assuming it was communicated that a monogamous relationship was what both people wanted, would the person's bisexuality still be of concern?

    It still does seem kind of silly to me. It's as though dating a bisexual is, for the lack of a better word, dangerous, in the sense that they might "miss da pussy" or as though they might be tempted to get da pussy while in a relationship with a gay man. Just as though straight men may be tempted to get otha pussy while in a relationship, straight women may be tempted to get s'more dick while in a relationship, and the same with gay men and women.

    Relationships with bisexuals operate the same way that straight relationship and gay relationships do; they are based on communication and trust.

  12. #12
    PerScientiam AdJustitiam bankside's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Location
    The Middle of Snowwhere.
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Married (to a man)
    Posts
    15,980
    Blog Entries
    2

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Yes.

    But I'm not.
    Americans need to keep their guns so they can protect themselves from gun violence just like Nancy Lanza did. And like Chris Kyle did. And like Gabby Giffords did. And like Tom Clements did. And like Michael Piemonte. And Joseph Wilcox.

  13. #13
    Elderhostile Gay Dejavudoo's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Location
    Albuquerque
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Available
    Posts
    5,968

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kien View Post
    Assuming it was communicated that a monogamous relationship was what both people wanted, would the person's bisexuality still be of concern?
    No, which is why I voted "yes."
    There are TWO kinds of people in the world -- the kind who believe there are two kinds of people, and the kind who don't.

  14. #14
    Formulas Fatal to Flesh.
    Join Date
    May 2011
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Posts
    8,678
    Blog Entries
    1

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Yes. No qualifiers needed, no risk about "oh, he might go back to women, waaaaaaaaaaaaaaah", and all the bullshit that comes with it. If he's into me and we're dating, we're dating.

  15. #15
    Marty Saybrooke's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2011
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Single
    Posts
    2,186

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Oh yeah bi guys are sooooooo sexy
    I make my bed with the stars above my head and dream of a place called home.

  16. #16
    Know thyself kallipolis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Piraeus, Greece
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    11,140

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    My partner is married to a woman, and happily so with his first baby on the way...due in January. I paid for his wife's wedding gift. Our relationship is also happy. I avoid labels that presume to describe the sexual life of a human person. When a loving relationship works for both partners...enjoy the moment...knowing that our purpose in life is to celebrate our life through our relationships with other people....with the further thought that when my time comes to hand back my atoms I shall be grateful for having put out into the deep, and enjoyed life's invitation to live for today...knowing that it might be my last.

  17. #17
    PerScientiam AdJustitiam bankside's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Location
    The Middle of Snowwhere.
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Married (to a man)
    Posts
    15,980
    Blog Entries
    2

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    My partner is married to a woman, and happily so with his first baby on the way...due in January. I paid for his wife's wedding gift. Our relationship is also happy. I avoid labels that presume to describe the sexual life of a human person. When a loving relationship works for both partners...enjoy the moment...knowing that our purpose in life is to celebrate our life through our relationships with other people....with the further thought that when my time comes to hand back my atoms I shall be grateful for having put out into the deep, and enjoyed life's invitation to live for today...knowing that it might be my last.
    In this kind of example though, the relationship would need to work with the knowledge and support of all parties, not just "both."
    Americans need to keep their guns so they can protect themselves from gun violence just like Nancy Lanza did. And like Chris Kyle did. And like Gabby Giffords did. And like Tom Clements did. And like Michael Piemonte. And Joseph Wilcox.

  18. #18
    Know thyself kallipolis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Piraeus, Greece
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    11,140

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by bankside View Post
    In this kind of example though, the relationship would need to work with the knowledge and support of all parties, not just "both."
    Why make it complicated when it works very well for all three of us without his wife being party to our relationship.

  19. #19
    PerScientiam AdJustitiam bankside's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Location
    The Middle of Snowwhere.
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Married (to a man)
    Posts
    15,980
    Blog Entries
    2

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Because deceiving people and being party to such deception is slimy and low.
    Americans need to keep their guns so they can protect themselves from gun violence just like Nancy Lanza did. And like Chris Kyle did. And like Gabby Giffords did. And like Tom Clements did. And like Michael Piemonte. And Joseph Wilcox.

  20. #20
    Broken... mark1111's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2005
    Location
    Cape Cod
    Orientation
    Bisexual
    Status
    Single
    Posts
    1,347

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    If I date someone, I stay with them. If they cheat, its over and I move on. I don't make assumptions about people cheating based on their past, or what they "might do"

    Should we change bi sexual to X nationality? "I won't date a man from X country because they always (fill in the blank)?

  21. #21
    TheSpectatingLoner
    Guest

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by ibill1 View Post
    Yes. But if I liked him enough, eventually I would ask him to make a decision if he was dating women also. Pu**y or cock buddy, your choice!
    By that definition, he could simply answer cock and then proceed to date you and every other gay male in sight.


  22. #22
    TheSpectatingLoner
    Guest

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    Why make it complicated when it works very well for all three of us without his wife being party to our relationship.
    So basically you're glorifying the fact that he's lying and deceiving the mother of his children? WOW.

    - - - Updated - - -

    Quote Originally Posted by MoufOfKhaos View Post
    Yes. No qualifiers needed, no risk about "oh, he might go back to women, waaaaaaaaaaaaaaah", and all the bullshit that comes with it. If he's into me and we're dating, we're dating.
    This right here.

  23. #23
    Know thyself kallipolis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Piraeus, Greece
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    11,140

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by bankside View Post
    Because deceiving people and being party to such deception is slimy and low.
    You may think what you wish without impacting upon the life that I live.....for three happy people remain happy within our loving relationships...with the further thought that the pursuit of happiness is always a matter of personal experience rather than academic debate.

  24. #24
    PerScientiam AdJustitiam bankside's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Location
    The Middle of Snowwhere.
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Married (to a man)
    Posts
    15,980
    Blog Entries
    2

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    You may think what you wish without impacting upon the life that I live.....for three happy people remain happy within our loving relationships...with the further thought that the pursuit of happiness is always a matter of personal experience rather than academic debate.
    Unfortunately you may not think or do what you wish without impacting upon the life of someone being duped by your "happy arrangement."
    Americans need to keep their guns so they can protect themselves from gun violence just like Nancy Lanza did. And like Chris Kyle did. And like Gabby Giffords did. And like Tom Clements did. And like Michael Piemonte. And Joseph Wilcox.

  25. #25
    Know thyself kallipolis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Piraeus, Greece
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    11,140

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    So basically you're glorifying the fact that he's lying and deceiving the mother of his children? WOW.

    - - - Updated - - -


    That judgement would be valid were my partner not in love with his wife...which he is....and in love with me....a difficult scenario for many to embrace....especially for those who insist that their experience of life is definitive and should govern the behaviour of others....rather puritanical...especially for gays who are often told by the morally self righteous heterosexual that our sexual behaviour is unnatural and perverse etc....

  26. #26
    Know thyself kallipolis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Piraeus, Greece
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    11,140

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by bankside View Post
    Unfortunately you may not think or do what you wish without impacting upon the life of someone being duped by your "happy arrangement."
    Much presumption...on your part ...when you have no knowledge of the circumstances...but...I appreciate that ignorance will often breed self righteous judgements .....something we gays are used too when having to hear the words of those who believe that they represent the epitome in ideal human relationships....ensuring that we gays are obliged to hear how we will burn in Hell for not conforming to conventional social interactions...

  27. #27
    PerScientiam AdJustitiam bankside's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Location
    The Middle of Snowwhere.
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Married (to a man)
    Posts
    15,980
    Blog Entries
    2

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Ahh but you have furnished the knowledge of the circumstances, and of the ethical standards you apply to them..

    If only she knew she was so cared about that not just one, but two people, were prepared to deceive her into thinking she is in a monogamous relationship. Could there be any greater token of devotion than someone simulating monogamy, whilst being otherwise occupied?

    No, this sort of thing is most often a story not of love, but of cowardice and possession.

    BTW, to dismiss any bleating about "righteous judgement" I might recommend reading "The Ethical Slut," wherein the authors discuss several ways to have "unconventional social interactions" and how to distinguish those relationships from the unethical sort.
    Last edited by bankside; July 20th, 2013 at 09:13 AM.
    Americans need to keep their guns so they can protect themselves from gun violence just like Nancy Lanza did. And like Chris Kyle did. And like Gabby Giffords did. And like Tom Clements did. And like Michael Piemonte. And Joseph Wilcox.

  28. #28
    Know thyself kallipolis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Piraeus, Greece
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    11,140

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by bankside View Post
    Ahh but you have furnished the knowledge of the circumstances, and of the ethical standards you apply to them..

    If only she knew she was so cared about that not just one, but two people, were prepared to deceive her into thinking she is in a monogamous relationship. Could there be any greater token of devotion than someone simulating monogamy, whilst being otherwise occupied?

    No, this sort of thing is most often a story not of love, but of cowardice and possession.
    I have not provided the full picture nor shall I ....for loving relationships need not conform to a predictable pattern...that of the majority for a loving relationship to fulfil the needs of the two partners....we as gays are very well aware that our loving relationships do not conform to the expectations of the majority.... for which we receive judgements and are abused based upon the moralising of those who expect others to conform to their understandings of how intimate relationships should work....I also appreciate that such judgemental self righteousness is often defended in gay circles...some hypocrisy.

  29. #29
    JUB Addict jensu846's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2005
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Single
    Posts
    2,475

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Nah, there are plenty of gay guys to pick from to bother. No reason to add even more drama than needed. There is enough drama already.... usually.

    leave the pussy aspect out of it.

  30. #30
    Formulas Fatal to Flesh.
    Join Date
    May 2011
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Posts
    8,678
    Blog Entries
    1

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    I have not provided the full picture nor shall I ....for loving relationships need not conform to a predictable pattern...that of the majority for a loving relationship to fulfil the needs of the two partners....we as gays are very well aware that our loving relationships do not conform to the expectations of the majority.... for which we receive judgements and are abused based upon the moralising of those who expect others to conform to their understandings of how intimate relationships should work....I also appreciate that such judgemental self righteousness is often defended in gay circles...some hypocrisy.

    Wait. So you offered up your relationship, unprovoked, told us that basically your partner is married and is cheating to be with you because the wife doesn't know... and we're hypocrites and judgmental for calling it for what it is?

    Sounds like a crack in the facade of all that learned intellect.

    Come back down, it's not so bad with the mortal men.

  31. #31

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by NYClover54 View Post
    If so or no why?
    Not so fast...

    Define 'bisexual.'

  32. #32
    Know thyself kallipolis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Piraeus, Greece
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    11,140

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by MoufOfKhaos View Post
    Wait. So you offered up your relationship, unprovoked, told us that basically your partner is married and is cheating to be with you because the wife doesn't know... and we're hypocrites and judgmental for calling it for what it is?

    Sounds like a crack in the facade of all that learned intellect.

    Come back down, it's not so bad with the mortal men.
    Cheating is your characterisation based upon your judgement that loving relationships should be monogamous....whereas, my partner remains a committed partner of his wife, and of his male lover...with happiness flourishing in the lives of three people...without the need for academic judgements that condemn others for daring to be happy living in an unconventional relationship.

  33. #33
    Know thyself kallipolis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Piraeus, Greece
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    11,140

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by Native Son View Post
    Not so fast...

    Define 'bisexual.'
    I dare say that there would be many answers based upon different experiences accumulated by many people....nevertheless, a question that cannot produce one answer that will satisfy everyone posting on this thread...as a result of our varying experiences.

  34. #34

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    I dare say that there would be many answers based upon different experiences accumulated by many people....nevertheless, a question that cannot produce one answer that will satisfy everyone posting on this thread...as a result of our varying experiences.
    Then go to hell, cos I need a definitive answer before I care to respond.

  35. #35
    Under Construction Elwood's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2005
    Location
    Montreal
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Single
    Posts
    4,766
    Blog Entries
    39

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    Cheating is your characterisation based upon your judgement that loving relationships should be monogamous....whereas, my partner remains a committed partner of his wife, and of his male lover...with happiness flourishing in the lives of three people...without the need for academic judgements that condemn others for daring to be happy living in an unconventional relationship.
    You know I got no problem with what you are saying here, however how happy would his wife be if she knew about you? You can talk about living in a happy unconventional relationship all you want, but the fact remains that one person involved in this (so called) happy unconventional relationship does not know about it, and if she did I do not think she would be so happy.

    So yes you can talk about having a happy unconventional relationship all you want but until all parties involved in said relationship know about it, you are just living a lie.
    Never be afraid to try something new, remember, amateurs built the Ark, professionals built the Titanic.

  36. #36
    Sex God JohnnyAnger's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Location
    Amsterdam
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    914

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    Cheating is your characterisation based upon your judgement that loving relationships should be monogamous....whereas, my partner remains a committed partner of his wife, and of his male lover...
    Are you really failing to see what people have the problem with here? No one cares that you are not monogamous, but neither are you poly! For that to be the case, all members would have to have knowledge and consent. Currently the only people consenting to a three way relationship are you and your partner, not his wife. If she knew, and was cool with it, everyone else would be. But until she knows and consents to the set up, you are really just engaging in cheating behind a pregnant woman's back, which is pretty low. Not that I really place the full blame on you, more on the husband in this who is refusing his wife full information.

  37. #37
    Know thyself kallipolis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Piraeus, Greece
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    11,140

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by Native Son View Post
    Then go to hell, cos I need a definitive answer before I care to respond.
    I'll accept your invitation and provide you with a reply based upon my experiences with bisexual men.

    I thrive on affection, friendship as well as an active sexual life.

    Over the past 25 years my three consecutive partnerships have been with men who also sexually and emotionally relate to women.

    I have never attempted to psycho-analyse my partners for their choice of me as their male lover while also in active relationships with women enabling me to enjoy them as human beings.

    What I can say is that all three men enabled me to love them in return for the love that they extended to me without me feeling the slightest jealousy or concern that one day they would leave me for a woman. Paranoid responses have never part of my behaviour.

    My first partner died from cardiac arrest - he was a heavy smoker. The second was appointed to manage an office in Singapore where he now resides...we remain close friends....and the third partner of some 19 months is slowly waking up to the fact that he is comfortable and happy with his wife and his male lover....and I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist so am unwilling to delve into the minds of my partners preferring to enjoy their very human company.
    Last edited by kallipolis; July 20th, 2013 at 10:02 AM.

  38. #38
    Know thyself kallipolis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Piraeus, Greece
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    11,140

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by JohnnyAnger View Post
    Are you really failing to see what people have the problem with here? No one cares that you are not monogamous, but neither are you poly! For that to be the case, all members would have to have knowledge and consent. Currently the only people consenting to a three way relationship are you and your partner, not his wife. If she knew, and was cool with it, everyone else would be. But until she knows and consents to the set up, you are really just engaging in cheating behind a pregnant woman's back, which is pretty low. Not that I really place the full blame on you, more on the husband in this who is refusing his wife full information.
    Your assumptions are based upon your cultural and social influences not mine...

    ....why would it be necessary or obligatory for my partner's wife to know about my relationship with her husband when she and her husband are very happy in their relationship with one another?

    It might also be argued that because of my relationship with my partner, his relationship with his wife flourishes...

    ...social constructs often dictate how people respond to the relationships of other people... as gays we are very well aware that there very many judgemental heterosexuals out their who condemn us for daring to live in a loving relationship with a man.... when their experiences and social/cultural customs assume that a man/woman relationship is only the way to living a happy, fulfilling life...

    ...unconventional loving relationships are a small minority but no less valid for those whose happiness flourishes within such relationships.

  39. #39
    美しいヨーロッパ Scealle's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Single
    Posts
    2,847
    Blog Entries
    1

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Yes even though I have been scarred before. Thread like this usually always cause commotion as seen in the past.

  40. #40
    Know thyself kallipolis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Piraeus, Greece
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    11,140

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by Elwood View Post
    You know I got no problem with what you are saying here, however how happy would his wife be if she knew about you? You can talk about living in a happy unconventional relationship all you want, but the fact remains that one person involved in this (so called) happy unconventional relationship does not know about it, and if she did I do not think she would be so happy.

    So yes you can talk about having a happy unconventional relationship all you want but until all parties involved in said relationship know about it, you are just living a lie.
    Why should the wife know...when she is happy with her husband....what benefit would it be to her to know?

    Life is complicated enough without adding to the burden of life's trials.

    Again, I repeat that using emotive terminology, such as cheating merely addresses the judgemental nature of people who are prepared to pass judgements on others for daring to live their life according to their best understandings....unconventional by their understandings....yet, a relationship overflowing with happiness and joy flourishing for three people to feel fulfilled.

  41. #41
    Know thyself kallipolis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Piraeus, Greece
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    11,140

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by Scealle View Post
    Yes even though I have been scarred before. Thread like this usually always cause commotion as seen in the past.
    I have a very thick skin and am familiar with more bruising threads that were once the norm here some ten years ago.

  42. #42
    Sex God luckynumbah7's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Location
    philadelphia
    Gender
    Transexual Male
    Orientation
    Bisexual
    Status
    Available
    Posts
    865

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    Cheating is your characterisation based upon your judgement that loving relationships should be monogamous....whereas, my partner remains a committed partner of his wife, and of his male lover...with happiness flourishing in the lives of three people...without the need for academic judgements that condemn others for daring to be happy living in an unconventional relationship.
    Well, cheating is my characterization where neither of you have the decency to have told the wife. It doesn't matter if love is involved, or any other kind of emotion. You and he aren't being truthful with her - in other words, he's cheating and your complicit in it. My god, man, that's the definition of cheating in a relationship - not telling a partner you're seeing/fucking someone else!

    -and yes, I'd date someone who's bi. Be more than a bit hypocritical if I didn't, since on the whole I don't care what my partner identifies as.
    Last edited by luckynumbah7; July 20th, 2013 at 10:23 AM.
    If I blow your mind, do you promise not to think in my mouth? - Unknown

  43. #43
    The nice guy from Nice. dpnice's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2005
    Orientation
    Gay
    Posts
    7,164
    Blog Entries
    294

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    I can understand, sympathise and perhaps even envy the situation that kallipolis has describe to us.

    Had I ever, when younger, found my self confronted with a similar dilemma I honestly can't profess to being sufficiently conscientious to have refused.

    In my few relationships with married men I have always left the honesty of the situation to them to deal with; as it wasn't me cheating on a unwitting wife even though I was an obviously willing accomplice.

    Have I the right to be judgemental even though I have the strong conviction that it is wrong? I think not; shared happiness is so difficult to find and often many gays never find it, leaving me convinced that if no harm is done then my judgement of this sort of behaviour should rest silent.

    But kallipolis remember that there is no harm at the present moment. Should ever his wife discover your relationship you will reap the sorrows for which you have been a willing participant.
    http://justusboys.com/forum/image.php?type=sigpic&userid=72786&dateline=115443  2352

  44. #44
    Sex God JohnnyAnger's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Location
    Amsterdam
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    914

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    Why should the wife know...when she is happy with her husband....what benefit would it be to her to know?
    I am sure she would like to know what was going on in her husbands life, when he goes off with you. I think if he really loved her, he would be open about all aspects of his life with her.

    You can chat your shit about social construct because clearly it makes you feel intelligent when it really just reads as pseudo to the rest of us! What the hell does social constructs have to do with openness, trust and consent in a relationship. Again I don't care who does what with who, but I do think you need to be open with her. Currently you are refusing her any choice in what relationship she has.

  45. #45
    Know thyself kallipolis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Piraeus, Greece
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    11,140

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by dpnice View Post

    But kallipolis remember that there is no harm at the present moment. Should ever his wife discover your relationship you will reap the sorrows for which you have been a willing participant.
    Were I to worry over tomorrow it would prevent me living for today...understanding that neither my partner nor I would want to destroy or harm his relationship with his wife their is little or no possibility that she would ever learn of our relationship...you raise another issue that of anxiety that often reveals itself on these forums with the result that we are now living in a world where addiction to antidepressants speaks to the fears of people...dictating their choices....that's another topic for another day for this boy must prepare to leave for his workplace where he is working a night shift...always a pleasure to read your contributions, Alan and my best wishes to you.

  46. #46
    Know thyself kallipolis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Piraeus, Greece
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    11,140

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by JohnnyAnger View Post
    I am sure she would like to know what was going on in her husbands life, when he goes off with you. I think if he really loved her, he would be open about all aspects of his life with her.
    Why would my partner's wife want to know something of her husband's life that she knows nothing about and has no reason to know?

    Spouses do not always reveal everything of their life to each other despite their married status...married partners often retain bank accounts unknown to their spouse.....even maintaining friendships that are unknown to their spouse...nothing unusual.

    My partner loves his wife and chooses not to inform her of his relationship with me....his choice which I respect and support.

    Otherwise your speculations are duly noted and I thank you for them but they serve no purpose other than to speculate.

  47. #47
    Sex God luckynumbah7's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Location
    philadelphia
    Gender
    Transexual Male
    Orientation
    Bisexual
    Status
    Available
    Posts
    865

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    Why should the wife know...when she is happy with her husband....what benefit would it be to her to know?
    She's not happy with what her husband is doing because she doesn't have all the information. Because you two haven't given it to her. The benefit would be knowledge so she can make informed decisions about how she feels in the situation that you two have stuck her in. You must not care about her mind very much, is all I can say. Or hold her in such high esteem, either. You shouldn't do that to people you love.

    Don't bother preaching with your 'unconventional understandings' of your relationship, either. It's actually very conventional. It's downright common, in fact, for a partner in a married couple to have someone on the side that they're not telling their spouse about. It's one of the reasons divorce is so damned high. And in this case, that's all it boils down to. Hell, I'll go so far as to say it's you people who give poly a nasty name.
    If I blow your mind, do you promise not to think in my mouth? - Unknown

  48. #48
    Under Construction Elwood's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2005
    Location
    Montreal
    Gender
    Male
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Single
    Posts
    4,766
    Blog Entries
    39

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    Why should the wife know...when she is happy with her husband....what benefit would it be to her to know?

    Life is complicated enough without adding to the burden of life's trials.

    Again, I repeat that using emotive terminology, such as cheating merely addresses the judgemental nature of people who are prepared to pass judgements on others for daring to live their life according to their best understandings....unconventional by their understandings....yet, a relationship overflowing with happiness and joy flourishing for three people to feel fulfilled.

    Again how much overflowing happiness would there be in the relationship if she knew about you? You can try and make it seem all happy and wonderful, however I am sure she did not enter into marriage with her husband expecting him to have someone on the side. So she is being deceived no matter how happy and wonderful you try to say it is. And how happy and wonderful would it be if she ever found out about you? She would most likely be devastated and her marriage would end in divorce.

    You try and justify it by saying that everyone one is judgemental about gay relationships, but here is the kicker, she is not gay or bi, and she entered into to a hetero marriage expecting everything that comes with it, and that does not include the husband having a male lover on the side.

    I was married to a woman and I even have kids, I could have stayed together with her but I was no longer happy with my life and came to the realization that I was truly gay. I did the right thing and I got divorced and came out of the closet at 38. It took a lot for me to do this and it just really aggravates me to hear guys with your reasoning, what they don't know will not hurt them.

    If this relationship overflowing with happiness and joy flourishing for three people to feel fulfilled, why don't you just let the wife in on it and see where that goes???

    As to an answer to this thread yes I would date a bisexual but not one that is on the down low.
    Never be afraid to try something new, remember, amateurs built the Ark, professionals built the Titanic.

  49. #49

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    I thrive on affection, friendship as well as an active sexual life.
    Well, who doesn't?

    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    I have never attempted to psycho-analyse my partners for their choice of me as their male lover while also in active relationships with women enabling me to enjoy them as human beings.
    You are saying you provide a service? That I'm kinda feeling.


    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    My first partner died from cardiac arrest - he was a heavy smoker. The second was appointed to manage an office in Singapore where he now resides...we remain close friends....and the third partner of some 19 months is slowly waking up to the fact that he is comfortable and happy with his wife and his male lover....and I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist so am unwilling to delve into the minds of my partners preferring to enjoy their very human company.
    So you've only ever been involved with married men? That I find kinda sad.

  50. #50
    Know thyself kallipolis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Piraeus, Greece
    Orientation
    Gay
    Status
    Partnered
    Posts
    11,140

    Code of Conduct

    Re: If you are gay, would you date a bisexual ?

    Quote Originally Posted by luckynumbah7 View Post
    Well, cheating is my characterization where neither of you have the decency to have told the wife. It doesn't matter if love is involved, or any other kind of emotion. You and he aren't being truthful with her - in other words, he's cheating and your complicit in it. My god, man, that's the definition of cheating in a relationship - not telling a partner you're seeing/fucking someone else!

    -and yes, I'd date someone who's bi. Be more than a bit hypocritical if I didn't, since on the whole I don't care what my partner identifies as.
    Relationships are not governed by each partner telling their partner about every aspect of their respective lives

    An obsessive, compulsive personality may well believe this to be the case whereas, in reality married couples, and loving partnerships often demonstrate that partners do not divulge all aspects of their life to their partner....the rest is moral indignation fashioned out of cultural, and social constructs presuming to fit each individual human person into a moral mindset that conforms to current socially acceptable behaviour....remember we gays were once outcasts for daring to be different from the moral majority...now we represent a tiny minority living according to our understandings how best to create a happy, fulfilling life....to hell with puritanism.

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
Terms of Service | Privacy Policy | About JustUsBoys.com | Site Map | RSS | Webmasters | Advertise | Link to JUB | Report A Bug on this Page

Visit our sister sites: Broke Straight Boys | CollegeDudes.com | CollegeBoyPhysicals.com | RocketTube
All models appearing on JustUsBoys.com were over 18 at the time of photography. The records for sexually explicit images required by U.S. 2257 are kept by the
individual producers of the images. The location of the records is available by clicking the Custodian of Records link at the bottom of each gallery page.
© 2012 JustUsBoys.com. The JustUsBoys.com name and logo are registered trademarks. Labeled with ICRA and RTA. Member of ASACP and The Free Speech Coalition.