Basically guys going to try and keep this short and sweet.
My best friend's, we will call him Jim, 19 year old cousin, we will call him Rob, recently came out as gay. Since he came out Jim and Rob have been spending loads of time together, which I think is great as it gives Rob someone supportive to talk to about things. This has extended to joining me and Jim on nights out be it cinema, meals or drinking.
So everything has been going great between the three of us until about 2 weeks ago on a night out Rob kissed me on a night out when walking back from a bank machine. Not going to lie at first I thought it was a friendly kiss as me and Jim do kiss each other on the lips occasionally and I just thought Rob was starting to follow the trend as it were. Basically when the peck on the lips was starting to last longer than I was comfortable with I pulled back. I did give a what the hell look to him but he smiled and we went back to Jim.
Next day I spoke with Rob and told him I thought he was extremely cute but I was uncomfortable with the kiss and because me and Jim do that doesn't extend the right to him. He just said he thought I was handsome and that maybe we could go on a date. Again I explained to him that he was a different point in my life from him and I felt that being more than friends with each other is not a good idea. Again he smiled and just said alright. I decided to fill Jim in just in case Rob decided to give a variation of the story.
Since then I have had Jim talk to me about how much Rob likes me and maybe I should go on one date and then just leave it be. However Jim does see my point of view on this issue and apparently has spoke to Rob about it but apparently Rob doesn't seen the big deal is and why I won't go on a date with him. I genuinely have no issues with Rob being in our social circle but I have seen him twice since we spoke and on both occasions he was like my shadow and would not leave me alone.
So basically I'm looking for a way to make it clear to him I'm happy being friends but nothing else is ever going to happen.