Creating this thread out of curiosity.
My perspective of dating:
- get a feel (socially, not physically!) of the person, see if you click, and progress to a second date if the feeling is mutual.
- this is where I ask the guy his definition of dating.
The way I see it, dating is similar to building a foundation: respect, trust/honesty, solid communication, and most importantly commitment. I communicate that I'm only interested in dating 1 on 1 and generally I receive the same response. I make it clear that if there's a lack of interest to purse it any further then they shouldn't feel awkward expressing it. Above all, I value respect because it encompasses the characteristics I'm seeking in a guy.
I remove myself from current gay dating (despite its predominant use to hookup) sites/apps: grindr, jack'd, and adam4adam. I don't ask them for the same in return, rather I express my thoughts and concerns on these sites as a hindrance to developing a stable (dating) relationship. These are purely my opinions and are not reflective onto others, but I don't see gay apps/sites as an acceptable source of "networking". A vast majority of men will overlook your status (exclusive, committed, dating, etc) because it doesn't concern them. I truly do fail to see how a committed individual is capable of defending their use of gay apps. Honestly, if you send an exposed selfie pic and comment "lets fuck" then guys will jump on that wagon ASAP.
I'm developing an interest for a guy I recently started hanging out with. We haven't had a date yet, but the goal is to ask him out tomorrow night after we meet up again. He has had his past of... being out there you could say and I mentioned this to a close friend of mine. She commented that I need to stop settling for less and raise my expectations; however, I couldn't agree with her because everyone has their past. I dated a guy with a history of addiction (both drug and alcohol), but he's been 6 years sober since his last drink. He's a dedicated individual, in graduate school, and desires more in life.. all of which I found admirable because he has overcome difficult situations. But in the end he broke up with me through e-mail and it makes me wonder if I should expect more from a guy. In no way am I discouraged with the guy I'm talking to right now, but my friend's words keep popping back in my head