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    So Much Gay Men Are Into Open Relationships

    Are gay men afraid to commit to only 1 man?

    Are gay men really afraid of sexual boredom?

    Open relationships seems very common with gay men.Even more than with straight people.Straight people seems to at least try to commit to 1 person.Unlike gay men who seems to have a harder time to commit to only 1 man.

    So much straight men keep saying,all gay men i know are all about sex.They just wants hook ups and fucking around.

    Lot of gay porn stars are married with a man.But,they still have sex with lot of men in gay porn.Most gay porn stars are escorts.What kind of husband would accept his gay porn star husband to fuck so much men in gay porn and also having sex with lot of men as an escort?

    I just dont get why gay porn stars would get married in the first place.Porn is all about being promiscuous.Gay porn stars are usualy very sexual.

    Monogamous relationships just doesnt seem credible with gay porn stars.

    Marriage is all about commitment and monogamy.Gay men just cant say (lets get married and lets have sex with lots of men) This is not what marriage is about.Its like as if gay men didnt take marriage seriously.So,lot of gay men marriage looks like a joke.

    The point is,so much gay men gives a bad name to gay marriage.When gay men gets married and they still fuck around,straight people will believe the stereotype that says gay men are all whores and crazy sex maniacs.They are all about sex and nothing else.Why gay men wants to get married so much if its to have sex with other men? They should just not get married and stay single.So,they can be as promiscuous they wants.

    I saw a tv show a couple years ago.It follows a gay couple about to get married in Montréal.1 of the man was in his early 20s and the other man was in his early 30s.You see them getting married.Then,the day after they got married,they go on the net on hook up sites to find men for sex.WTF!

    Later,they said they had an orgy with 12 men the day after they got married.Pathetic.

    They also said,even if we are married and we have sex with other men,we are faithful to each other in our hearts.

    Its not surprising that so much straight people see gay men as sex machines.

    Sometimes i just dont understand gay men.

    Gay men oversexualize themselves way too much.This is the reason gay men are seen as promiscuous.

    Lot of straight people doesnt believe that gay men can commit to a man.Because gay men needs variety and lot of men.If not,gay men are sexually frustrated or not fullfiled sexually.

    Lot of gay men will end up alone.

    Because sex seems to be the main thing with gay men.


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    ...Oh lawrd where do I even begin with this mess....

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    Because we don't get each other pregnant

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    So much wrong with this thought/post

    cuz it can happen, and it has happened..... 1 LTR is all I have ever had, I have been with my honey for 28yrs+ 11mos and Aug 6th is our Anniversary and our upcoming WEDDING DAY.

    Now it may not happen as often, but it does happen. And there is so much more to a ltr than just sex. It's all in what one puts into it, wants out of it, but it's a team effort both have to work at it .
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    Gay men have been told for so long that they are not normal,even though they know their own feelings are natural. It forces many gay men to question what the point is of being normal in the first place. When a person is raised to question who they are every day, to doubt who they are, to question whether they are normal, to question what normal means, it will lead some people to experiment with their personal lives.

    Some of us will reject it as a lie that we are not normal. Some of us will accept that we are not normal but will also believe this is good. Some of us will believe we are not normal and this will be tragic to them.

    So you have people who will defy religious bigots and want to get married to a same-sex love. You have people who live in misery and try conversion therapy trying so hard to become straight and normal. And you have some people who rejected "normal" and have never looked back. They have experimental relationships with multiple people. Who knows if it is a good experiment? In my mind it is for them to say, though I have my opinions if asked.
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    Quote Originally Posted by racer2438 View Post
    So much wrong with this thought/post

    cuz it can happen, and it has happened..... 1 LTR is all I have ever had, I have been with my honey for 28yrs+ 11mos and Aug 6th is our Anniversary and our upcoming WEDDING DAY.

    Now it may not happen as often, but it does happen. And there is so much more to a ltr than just sex. It's all in what one puts into it, wants out of it, but it's a team effort both have to work at it .
    You have been with your boyfriend for a long time.But,i dont think its representative of most gay men who are into a relationship with a man.

    28 years is huge by gay men standards.Since,the average lasting time for gay men relationship seems to be 2 years.That is if they are lucky.Becauce lot of gay men relationships only last few months.

    Straight people also struggle with relationships.But,their relationship seems to last a bit longer than the everage gay relationship.Those who struggles the most with gay monogamous relationships are younger gay men.Im in my early 30s.Gay men i been with are mostly into only having sex with men.They just dont give a fuck about being monogamous.They must have the mentality that says,always sucking the same cock is boring.Always having sex with the same man is boring.I need more men.Lots of men means lots of fun.Why having with only 1 man when i can have sex with all of them?

    Romantic gay men exist.Monogamous gay men exist.Love is not a straight thing and sex is not a gay thing.But,monogamous gay men seems to be outnumbered by promiscuous gay men.I hope im wrong.But,something tells me im right.

    Younger gay men are the men who are most likely the most promiscuous.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marco Sensual View Post
    Romantic gay men exist.Monogamous gay men exist.Love is not a straight thing and sex is not a gay thing.But,monogamous gay men seems to be outnumbered by promiscuous gay men.I hope im wrong.But,something tells me im right.
    I think you are right about monogamous gay men being outnumbered.

    But 15 years ago, I found one monogamous gay man. And by the definition of "monogamous" it doesn't matter to me what the other men are doing. You only need to find one.
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    You seem to generalize and stereotype and lump everything you think you know about being gay by what you think you've learned by watching gay porn. Gay porn is fantasy, not a textbook. Gay porn is about as accurate as watching reality shows are an insight into straight life.

    While there's some truth to stereotypes, them being the most visible doesn't make them the rule or the standard applied to all.
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    Well maybe with lower risks of pregnancy, most of us use it as an excuse to sleep around with people. And with marriage out of the question for many, there really isn't a point to commit maybe? I don't think all gay men can't commit, just most gay men don't think there really is a future in committing. And even straight men have problems to commit. My cousin's ex-husband slept about after their marriage and cause the other woman to get pregnant. For gay men, even if they do that, there really isn't much of that kind of risk going on.

    These are just speculations. And all based on my opinions.

    Maybe, the gay porn stars that are sleeping around with guys in porn just take it as a job? It's a job like any other. Why would it make a difference to them? It's not cheating in a sense if both parties are ok with it
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sigma-taylor-E View Post
    ...Oh lawrd where do I even begin with this mess....
    I was thinking the same exact thing. Haha.

    When I'm not tired I'll revisit this judgmental disaster.

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    Quote Originally Posted by borg69unimatrix View Post
    You seem to generalize and stereotype and lump everything you think you know about being gay by what you think you've learned by watching gay porn. Gay porn is fantasy, not a textbook. Gay porn is about as accurate as watching reality shows are an insight into straight life.

    While there's some truth to stereotypes, them being the most visible doesn't make them the rule or the standard applied to all.
    I know that gay porn is fake.Porn is only an illusion.

    I dont think i generalized.Even if its my opinions.Im confident by saying that what i said was spot on enough.Gay men really struggles when it comes to relationships.I know gay men who are all about sex.Mostly younger gay men who are often very promiscuous.

    We get it.Younger men are very horny.Even myself in my early 30s,im horny as well.Im a man.But,it doesnt mean i dont want a monogamous relationship.

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    "Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife." Note that the commandment reads "neighbor's wife". Monogamy is important only for women--to keep the male line pure. Men can fuck whomever they want, as long as it's not the wife of a neighbor--that is, a man of the same tribe.

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    You ever stop to think maybe gay relationships don't last as long because of the stigma society has against homosexuals? It's hard living in a world which doesn't accept you.

    I don't really know where you got any of your data, so I don't know if anything you actually said is true.
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    Open relationships are fake relationships.

    Honestly, as mentioned above a lot of the problem is in the way the culture views us and tells us to be. There's a strong relationship between a lack of connection with your community and feeling outside the norm and sexual misconduct.

    Which is why the issue will resolve itself in a few years when homosexuality becomes more acceptable and normal.

    But regardless, I believe in monogamy because I believe we as a culture shouldn't separate deep feelings from sex or else we harm ourselves. And frankly yes, I believe free sex is psychologically damaging, because there is no such thing as sex without creating an emotional relationship.

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    Of Course They Are, Because Although They Are Gay They Are Still Men and Men Want To Fuck As Many People As They Can!

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    OMFG, the mind reading! That was my response to this BS.

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    Well there is a certain dynamic between a male and a female that doesn't always translate between two males. Tradition has a lot to do with it. Gay couples don't really have any stable relationship traditions because of the way society has demonized it. This forum is the only place where I've even heard of gay couples lasting more than a year, and it is truly wonderful!

    Open relationships work for some couples and not for others. Not all relationships are the same. I don't really care who other gay people sleep with, unless it crosses into my own relationship. Then we have a problem!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Acanthophis View Post


    You ever stop to think maybe gay relationships don't last as long because of the stigma society has against homosexuals? It's hard living in a world which doesn't accept you.

    I don't really know where you got any of your data, so I don't know if anything you actually said is true.
    I don't care what other people think of my sexual orientation I do, what I want to do with my life, and live it accordingly.The opinions of others do not influence my choices....but I am discreet by nature preferring to keep my love life my affair alone.

    I am one of those gays who is at his happiest when in a monogamous, loving relationship as I am now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marco Sensual View Post


    Because sex seems to be the main thing with gay men.

    I don't all the gay men on this planet to know the truth, but I suspect that neither do you know all the gay men on this planet, to be able to make such a generalised assertion as if it represented the truth.

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    Heterosexuals have serial marriages, birth children out of wedlock, and even practice polygamy. So, to imply that gays are more promiscuous than anyone else is poppy cock! Heterosexuals have had the luxury of using the social norms to hide their harlotry while they demonized the gays.

    You are correct when you say "sex seems to be the main thing." However, the statement applies to the entire species, even the entire class of mammal. Science tells us that only 3%-5% of all mammals are monogamous. So, it is only natural for us to be promiscuous. Gays are not afraid to be open about it. That's all.

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    No matter what sized font it's still the same old bullshit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MMMonsterBoy View Post
    Well there is a certain dynamic between a male and a female that doesn't always translate between two males. Tradition has a lot to do with it. Gay couples don't really have any stable relationship traditions because of the way society has demonized it. This forum is the only place where I've even heard of gay couples lasting more than a year, and it is truly wonderful!

    Open relationships work for some couples and not for others. Not all relationships are the same. I don't really care who other gay people sleep with, unless it crosses into my own relationship. Then we have a problem!
    In the 20 years I've been out and before the Web existed or online forums or IRC or anything, I knew dozens of long term couples (say, from 5 years together to old age) just by joining different groups in my backwater conservative homophobic province.
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    In view of the statistical fact that nearly 50% of heterosexual marriages end up in divorce in the first 5 years, I hardly believe that gays are more promiscuous than straights. The rightwing narrative that marriage is about "one man and one woman" is immediately nullified by the fact that many men have (or had) several wives and many women have had several husbands. If you really look at marriage in this country, yes there are many couples who spend their entire lives together but there are also many couples who get married for a dozen different reasons...least of all love.

    I think there is no difference between gay and straight in relationships/marriages. Both are equally promiscuous and, especially in the case of men, men are natural predators where woman are more nurturers. That's nature, not society.

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    The jealousy factor is missing in male/male relationships. Where jealousy is a factor (male/female relationships) then there is a demand for monogamy, at least as an ideal. It is absurd to deny that gays are "promiscuous". We show our enthrallment to heterosexual rules by buying into a model that is phony for gays.

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    *Sigh*

    There should be a face palm button.

    I mean, it's like, there's an objectionable generalization in every other message of this thread.

    EDIT: No bullshitting, though, I really like this: "Gay porn stars are usually very sexual." That's delicious, for real.
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    I get jealous. However, the reason for polyamorous relationships is mostly based on the unwillingness to commit!
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    Quote Originally Posted by 80KGold View Post
    *Sigh*

    There should be a face palm button.

    I mean, it's like, there's an objectionable generalization in every other message of this thread.

    EDIT: No bullshitting, though, I really like this: "Gay porn stars are usually very sexual." That's delicious, for real.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marco Sensual View Post
    You have been with your boyfriend for a long time.But,i dont think its representative of most gay men who are into a relationship with a man.

    28 years is huge by gay men standards.Since,the average lasting time for gay men relationship seems to be 2 years.That is if they are lucky.Becauce lot of gay men relationships only last few months.

    Straight people also struggle with relationships.But,their relationship seems to last a bit longer than the everage gay relationship.Those who struggles the most with gay monogamous relationships are younger gay men.Im in my early 30s.Gay men i been with are mostly into only having sex with men.They just dont give a fuck about being monogamous.They must have the mentality that says,always sucking the same cock is boring.Always having sex with the same man is boring.I need more men.Lots of men means lots of fun.Why having with only 1 man when i can have sex with all of them?

    Romantic gay men exist.Monogamous gay men exist.Love is not a straight thing and sex is not a gay thing.But,monogamous gay men seems to be outnumbered by promiscuous gay men.I hope im wrong.But,something tells me im right.

    Younger gay men are the men who are most likely the most promiscuous.
    Where are you getting this statistic from?

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    To each his own. I've come to the conclusion that an open relationship IS a valid relationship though IMO inferior to a monogamous one because it's an admission that the original relationship isn't working. Now, if the relationship was open from day one then that doesn't apply of course because nothing in the original relationship was altered. And no, changing a relationship isn't going to make it inferior in itself since there are many forms of relationships. But here we are ONLY talking about open ones be they open from the get go or changed to open. Nip that one in the bud (yep...this thread comes up again and again and again and again...and is usually very long winded with many pages unless the thread devolves into personal attack and gets shut down).....

    Let's see where this one goes and most importantly is there is REALLY any new information coming from it or simply a rehash of what has been hashed about for 100 times...

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    Quote Originally Posted by cgymike View Post
    To each his own. I've come to the conclusion that an open relationship IS a valid relationship though IMO inferior to a monogamous one because it's an admission that the original relationship isn't working.
    I'm not sure people in an open relationship would think of it that way. More likely they'd say: "I love going to dinner and a movie with my great friend. We go out every week and have a perfect evening, and I wouldn't change a thing. I have another friend where we go to dinner and then a play. It's not because there is anything wrong with my guy on movie night. I enjoy them both!" And they'd see a sexual relationship in the same terms.
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    From a single perspective, I have to say it's been great. It opens up the pool of guys you normally wouldn't have access too. For example, there was this one couple who have been together for eight years. Wasn't interested in the one guy, but the other guy I always had a crush on. Turns out, they later open their relationships to threesomes. Still wasn't interested in that, but then they opened it further to be able to do their own, one-on-one thing. Bingo! So I got the cute one in the end, and didn't have to involve myself with the other half of the relationship. It was a win-win.

    That being said, I see open relationships destroy each other from within every year. And it's almost always messier than the monogamy ones that break up. Open will not be for my next relationship.
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    Because if gay men don't have an open relationship, then they don't have a relationship at all. We need sex. A lot of it, from more than just one guy. Sure that one guy will be satisfying for a while, but then it gets boring. It's called being men.

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    I read this yesterday and I don't like to type on my cell phone so instead I thought about it and for the life of me I can only think of TWO gay men...ONE bisexual man married to a woman and ONE lesbian who were ever in a declared open relationship. I probably know more gay men first hand than anyone here because I am old and I worked in a gay environment for most of my life and know tens of thousands of gay men on some level. My point...if it was as prevalent and you say certainly I would have seen a lot more of it.

    Having said that....I have so many problems with your original post.....I am only going to address three things....

    This:
    Marriage is all about commitment and monogamy

    Who the fuck are you to define marriage between two consenting adults for anyone else but yourself?

    ...and THIS:

    The point is,so much gay men gives a bad name to gay marriage.When gay men gets married and they still fuck around,straight people will believe the stereotype that says gay men are all whores and crazy sex maniacs

    Ever see the statistics on INFIDELITY?????? Amongst HETEROSEXUALS?????? What IS your point? Would you like to police gay men so we win the approval of these people who believe the stereotypes (that you project)? Do we win a prize if we manage to get their approval? Do they have to answer for believing in tired stereotypes or is that on us? Are we collectively responsible for other people's weak and lazy minds?

    ...one more...my favorite...THIS:

    I dont think i generalized.

    Oh...My....Are you serious? That is all you did....

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    Quote Originally Posted by tcrawford18 View Post
    Because if gay men don't have an open relationship, then they don't have a relationship at all. We need sex. A lot of it, from more than just one guy. Sure that one guy will be satisfying for a while, but then it gets boring. It's called being men.
    No, I think the whole attitude of "oh, that's called being men" or "boys will be boys" is very detrimental & insulting. So what you're saying is that men can't possibly control their sex drive, so they should just have sex with as many people as they want. Then what separates us from wild animals?

    Men have penises but they also have brains. A REAL relationship is built on so much more than just raw sex. If all you have is raw sex, then yes it will get boring and you guys will start looking for other people.
    I used to be like that, but not anymore. At least not on the first date. Third date, whole other story..."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Just_Believe18 View Post
    From a single perspective, I have to say it's been great. It opens up the pool of guys you normally wouldn't have access too. For example, there was this one couple who have been together for eight years. Wasn't interested in the one guy, but the other guy I always had a crush on. Turns out, they later open their relationships to threesomes. Still wasn't interested in that, but then they opened it further to be able to do their own, one-on-one thing. Bingo! So I got the cute one in the end, and didn't have to involve myself with the other half of the relationship. It was a win-win.
    If a woman cheated with a married man like that & other people came to know of it, she would be called a "whore," "homewrecker, "slut," among other things -- even by people who consider themselves liberal. So what makes it so acceptable now that we're talking about gay men?

    I think Dan Savage is in an open relationship with his husband and he has spoken out in favor of open relationships. Dan Savage went on Bill Maher's show & said that he wishes that "all Republicans were f****g dead" & then he wondered why no Republicans participated in his "It gets better" project. He bullied & intimidated high school teenagers who believe in God.

    All the more reason to not support open relationships.
    I used to be like that, but not anymore. At least not on the first date. Third date, whole other story..."

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    Does anyone know I could meet other gay men who are looking for monogamous relationships? It's just so disappointing because it feels like there are hookup sites, and then the gay bar scene is full of guys who are looking to hookup. I thought about maybe common interest groups for gay men, but those groups also have a lot of gay guys who aren't serious about finding Mr. Right.

    I want to find my husband and get married
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    Quote Originally Posted by JayQueer View Post
    If a woman cheated with a married man like that & other people came to know of it, she would be called a "whore," "homewrecker, "slut," among other things -- even by people who consider themselves liberal. So what makes it so acceptable now that we're talking about gay men?

    I think Dan Savage is in an open relationship with his husband and he has spoken out in favor of open relationships. Dan Savage went on Bill Maher's show & said that he wishes that "all Republicans were f****g dead" & then he wondered why no Republicans participated in his "It gets better" project. He bullied & intimidated high school teenagers who believe in God.

    All the more reason to not support open relationships.
    Get off this thread and stop trolling people. This topic has nothing to do with politics and your constant interjection of praising Republicans and demonizing Democrats. There's a big difference between someone who is in an open relationship and officially married. If two guys in a relationship want to have sex with other people, they certainly can.
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    It's quite simple.

    If both guys are committed to an exclusive relationship, it works.

    If not, it doesn't. Been there and done that (I was the victim of a cheating boyfriend on more than one instance).

    Open relationships are a mixed bag, but I've never heard of any that turned out well...


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    ^^ Co-sign Just_Believe's comments.

    After several years of this shit, we're all fed up to the teeth with the derailment of thread after thread with your rants about liberals and Democrats and Dan Savage. We all thought that your vacation might have cured you of this nonsense.

    And as far as the self pity party that you want everyone else to attend? You've been told before. Until you make an honest effort to fix yourself, you are going to be missing out on 99.9% of the guys out there that you could have a productive and healthy relationship with. It is one of the reasons that we all suspect you are a fake. The avatar you have created is so incredibly one dimensional and the narrative has been kept so narrow as to make the character a caricature.

    For someone who hasn't really had a successful experience as a homo you sure do always seem to be able to pass judgement on what others may choose to do in their relationships.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tcrawford18 View Post
    Because if gay men don't have an open relationship, then they don't have a relationship at all. We need sex. A lot of it, from more than just one guy. Sure that one guy will be satisfying for a while, but then it gets boring. It's called being men.
    This is hilarious coming from someone bitching over the lack of class of all other men not too long ago.

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    @JayQueer,

    ~Sidles up to you~

    I met my partner through a forum where all of us would get together and complain about other activists. It eventually imploded due to -isms and little-to-no circulation, but I think you might try the same thing. Unfortunately there's not a lot of forums to find queer people that aren't focused solely on sex. Have you heard of fetlife? I ask because while it's technically a fetish site, that's only half of it. The other half is everything else, and I mean everything. I'm hoping to have some luck there myself.

    "If a woman cheated with a married man like that & other people came to know of it, she would be called a "whore," "homewrecker, "slut," among other things -- even by people who consider themselves liberal. So what makes it so acceptable now that we're talking about gay men? "

    It's not acceptable to cheat on someone who's monogamous, and if you're not mono, abide by the damn rules you and your partners created about seeing other people. The funny thing about the three little words whore, slut and homewrecker are they have nothing to do with the single person who is having sex with someones' partner. slut just means liking sex, whore means someone whose sold sexual services, and homewrecker is someone who's slept with someones' married partner. I've done all three, and everyone involved, including the married people and the partnered people, were fine with it. What's wrong is that those words exist as insults. And now, hopefully, we can move on.


    I'm poly, and while I have a partner (for the last 5 years, anyway, and we'll start saving for a house shortly. Note I didn't say boyfriend. Nor are we dating. But he's a partner of mine none the less. And yes, we plan to be together for the next fifty years, and he's taking my name when we marry if he doesn't find a husband because all 4 of his grandparents died of cancer, his mother had it and...yeah, he needs someone who's able to see him in the hospital and care for him when he refuses chemo) anyway, there's no sex involved, I'm not his type and our relationship styles in that department differ dramatically. My sexuality isn't hinged on who I love, let alone sexual attraction, but I've heard I'm a bit odd like that. Point is, when he finds a boyfriend he wants to keep he'll be moving in with us and into K's room specifically. It's already been discussed, multiple times over the years. That's how good relationships develop and stay strong. My other partner is getting married and moving to the UK because her partner/soon-to-be husband has a kid & there's better services there for 'em. My point being is that open / poly relationships aren't what you're saying. So give that bit a damn rest.

    And while I'm at it, since this seems to be a core tenant, liking to have sex with multiple people while being in a relationship isn't poly. That doesn't, however, stop me from wanting to have sex with lots of people. There's ethics involved called honesty, is what I'm saying. You can be in a monogamous relationship all you like and still be a dishonest little cretin about fucking - I see straight people do it all the time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rareboy View Post
    ^^ Co-sign Just_Believe's comments.

    After several years of this shit, we're all fed up to the teeth with the derailment of thread after thread with your rants about liberals and Democrats and Dan Savage. We all thought that your vacation might have cured you of this nonsense.

    And as far as the self pity party that you want everyone else to attend? You've been told before. Until you make an honest effort to fix yourself, you are going to be missing out on 99.9% of the guys out there that you could have a productive and healthy relationship with. It is one of the reasons that we all suspect you are a fake. The avatar you have created is so incredibly one dimensional and the narrative has been kept so narrow as to make the character a caricature.

    For someone who hasn't really had a successful experience as a homo you sure do always seem to be able to pass judgement on what others may choose to do in their relationships.
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    "*0KGold,
    *Sigh*

    There should be a face palm button.

    I mean, it's like, there's an objectionable generalization in every other message of this thread. "

    Yeah, I noticed that. From people who couldn't find an accurate definition of poly if they were born with a dictionary in their chubby little fingers, no less.
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    Even though I've never dated or anything I could never go for an open relationship..only type of thing i'd want would be committed/monogamous/long-term. But thats me, whether or not its rare/uncommon shouldn't matter to anyone.

    The above said...if someone wants an open relationship (and both partners in the relationship agree on such) I really see nothing wrong with it...people have different likes/wants

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheSpectatingLoner View Post
    This is hilarious coming from someone bitching over the lack of class of all other men not too long ago.
    haha i was thinking the same thing!

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