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    Got dumped for the first time :(

    Well to start this off I'm bi and going into my senior year in college. I'd been in a relationship with this guy I met off grindr for 5 months since January and was my first actual gay relationship. I've had 2 ex girlfriends. I did all my firsts with him (kiss, sex, cuddle). Does anyone have any advice on how to cope? I really did think I love him cause I'm hurting pretty badly right now. He was the first one to say he loved me, but his excuse for dumping me was that he couldn't reciprocate feelings that were never going to materialize. He wanted to start a new chapter in his life and I was not going to be apart of it. He wants to remain friends but every time I think of him I just hurt. I went home for a month and brought him back for 2 days with me (my family doesn't know i'm bi) and things seemed a little rough cause we had fought over some things a few days before. And throughout my stay at home he seemed alright but towards the end distant at times. Then he called out of nowhere saying he wasn't going to feel the same and tried to dump me on the phone and I talked him out of it. That's when he promised to give things a chance when I got back to campus. Well I get back the second line out of his mouth is "We needs to go separate ways".

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    Re: Got dumped for the first time :(

    OMG ... TX.S.E., I am so sorry ... we've all been there. Chin up, my friend ... life does go on!

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    Re: Got dumped for the first time :(

    For those of you just reading this post without regard, I've known Sunset for a while now, and he's shared more than just feet pix with me. Tex is a very handsome young man, albeit skinny, but handsome nonetheless. During our brief correspondence, he has more the demonstrated his undeniable intelligence ... I'm so feeling for him right now.

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    Re: Got dumped for the first time :(

    It's a tough thing but sometimes in relationships, love just isn't enough to make it work.

    In your case, it sounds like there was a lot of feelings on both sides but this guy wasn't ready to make a commitment. Given what you're feeling, it probably won't be easy to see each other for a while (or be "friends"). It's going to hurt for a while and you're going to mourn for the loss but after a while, you'll accept it for what it was and move on to something better.

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    Re: Got dumped for the first time :(

    Alas, TXSunsetEagle, you are not the first to experience this. I too, was once in your shoes.

    When the song goes, "First cut is the deepest" it is all too true indeed.

    I did not take it too well initially, disbelieve turned to anger which turned to violence - fortunately the last stage did not cause any death or lasting damage. In the end, I brooded, then got bored with brooding, and I turned to doing something functional and practical.

    Eventually, I realised breaking up was not the end of the world. And I also realised that our breakup was due to incompatibility, not inadequacy in any person's part.

    If it is of any comfort, he chose a path that differed from yours, and I am sure it will be his loss. It is now up to you to choose your path, with someone who understands you better, and is more able to empathise with you.

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