E. is my boyfriend for over 13 years now. We have a monogamous, loving relationship. Although we donít live together (because of our jobs), we spend a lot of time together. When we first met he was very passionate. We could kiss for hours. Each time we saw one another, we would have sex. The only problem for me then was that he came much too fast and I didnít come at all. After a while, when we grew closer, we discussed it and he told me it bothered him that I didnít haveorgasms with him. We changed our ways of having sex and since then I come almost every time.
At a certain point we started fucking and our sex life just went great.
The last few years the kissing stopped and fucks became rare to nonexistent. He doesnít let me suck his dick without him jerking it. The only way I come, is with the help of my own right hand. I canít even remember the last time he blew me or I had a hands-free orgasm.
Every time I tried to discuss this with him the past year, he always would find a way to make it my problem (heís a psychotherapistÖ). Today I tried again. He argued that heís been much too busy with work, that he doesnít get enough sleep and that me being unhappy doesnít help either. He also said that sex the past 10 months wasnít that bad. I answered that I couldnít remember having real good sex during that period. Result: E. is having hurt feelings and I get no sex!
Iím afraid that thereíll come a time I canít control my sexdrive anymore and Iíll cheat on him, wich would be the end of our relationship. This summer we go to gay-paradise in Sitges. How am I tosurvive in the middle of a herd of beautiful, horny men?