Hey guys. I'm a first timer here so don't kill me if I say or do something stupid please. First off, I'm (20) bi myself as of 2 years ago when I had my first guy fuck buddy when I got to college. I'm verse but like to top predominantly. Anyway, I moved 2 hours away from home for college and barely came home the first 2 years because of my hectic schedule. But this summer, I decided to take a break and come home for 3 months to chill.
I came home on Tuesday but my mom told me during finals week that she wanted to have a talk with me as soon as I got home. I wasn't in trouble but she wanted to discuss something. I thought the worst could be divorce. I get home on Tuesday and immediately go to my mom to have a talk. Long story short, she broke the news to me that I should be aware that my dad is having bisexual encounters with a regular partner and that she is completely ok with it. She just wanted to let me know so we can talk about it because she knew she and I are really close and can talk about anything. I found out the following things from our talk:
I asked her why now and she said that my dad had a bisexual past in his college days but completely went straight when he met my mom. But when he started having prostate issues and realized prostate stimulation helped, they had a little talk and eventually allowed him to have sex. The prostate thing obviously pointed out to me that he bottomed even though she never gave specifics which I expected.
I asked her why she was the one telling me and not him. She said that he would've had the talk with me and still would but he thought that my mom would be a better mediator so that I didn't think he was cheating.
I asked who his partner was and she said it was one of his business partners who he had known for years and who I had met once.
And I asked if they had their sessions at home or elsewhere and she said pretty much always at our home for a number of reasons and that was why she wanted to have the talk to me in the first place. She told me that I was grown enough to accept that she and my dad had sex like other parents and adults do in their own home and just wanted to make clear that it would be the same with my dad and his friend and just wanted me to accept his decision and be happy for him. She said that about 80% of the time, they had sex when she'd be out but knew that might be hard considering that I'm home, not doing summer school, and only working part-time.
I didn't bring it up with my dad yet when I saw him that day and pretended like I knew nothing even though he probably knew I did. Fast forward to yesterday, my mom is out shopping and I'm home hanging out. My dad comes home with his friend and I hear them go into the bedroom. I stupidly become really nosy and decide to check in on them quietly when they were in the room (door was a quarter of the way open). Not going into a lot of details right now, I saw my dad's friend get ready to fuck my dad, fuck him, and finish off in the end. Shockingly, I wasn't weirded out or disgusted by what I saw but instead intrigued and sort of thought it was hot to see my dad be submissive like that. And now I don't know what to think and I'm confused.
1. Is it ok for me to think it was hot to see my dad fucked in a submissive position? I don't have any feelings for him whatsoever and would NEVER think about doing anything sexual just FYI.
2. Should I finally have a talk with my dad and let him know what I think and tell him I'm ok with it or just wait until he approaches me? And I'm not talking about telling him that I think it's hot for him to bottom but that I know about his situation and have a discussion about it.
3. Is it bad for me to see him as the submissive bottom because of how it will affect how I see him as my dad? I'm not saying being submissive or a bottom makes you any less of a man or dad AT ALL. I even bottom sometimes. I'm just worried that I might not see him as that authoritative dad anymore.
Please share any other thoughts you may have and I'm ok with private messages if this forum allows it?