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    Exodus International is no more

    Exodus International, the 'ministry' that thought it could convert gays into straights and wipe away their 'sins', is shutting down. It appears their leader, Alan Chambers, has had a serious change of heart about the group and his stance on homosexuality, and finally understands the destruction it has wrought. In addition to shutting it down, he has also posted a letter to the LGBTQ community apologizing for what he has done. Unlike some of the others, though, it appears that he understands that forgiveness and trust from the community won't come easily. (if at all)

    http://www.buzzfeed.com/chrisgeidner...issues-apology

    Here is his letter:

    To Members of the LGBTQ Community:

    In 1993 I caused a four-car pileup. In a hurry to get to a friend’s house, I was driving when a bee started buzzing around the inside of my windshield. I hit the bee and it fell on the dashboard. A minute later it started buzzing again with a fury. Trying to swat it again I completely missed the fact that a city bus had stopped three cars in front of me. I also missed that those three cars were stopping, as well. Going 40 miles an hour I slammed into the car in front of me causing a chain reaction. I was injured and so were several others. I never intended for the accident to happen. I would never have knowingly hurt anyone. But I did. And it was my fault. In my rush to get to my destination, fear of being stung by a silly bee, and selfish distraction, I injured others.

    I have no idea if any of the people injured in that accident have suffered long term effects. While I did not mean to hurt them, I did. The fact that my heart wasn’t malicious did not lessen their pain or their suffering. I am very sorry that I chose to be distracted that fall afternoon, and that I caused so much damage to people and property. If I could take it all back I absolutely would. But I cannot. I pray that everyone involved in the crash has been restored to health.

    Recently, I have begun thinking again about how to apologize to the people that have been hurt by Exodus International through an experience or by a message. I have heard many firsthand stories from people called ex-gay survivors. Stories of people who went to Exodus affiliated ministries or ministers for help only to experience more trauma. I have heard stories of shame, sexual misconduct, and false hope. In every case that has been brought to my attention, there has been swift action resulting in the removal of these leaders and/or their organizations. But rarely was there an apology or a public acknowledgement by me.

    And then there is the trauma that I have caused. There were several years that I conveniently omitted my ongoing same-sex attractions. I was afraid to share them as readily and easily as I do today. They brought me tremendous shame and I hid them in the hopes they would go away. Looking back, it seems so odd that I thought I could do something to make them stop. Today, however, I accept these feelings as parts of my life that will likely always be there. The days of feeling shame over being human in that way are long over, and I feel free simply accepting myself as my wife and family does. As my friends do. As God does.

    Never in a million years would I intentionally hurt another person. Yet, here I sit having hurt so many by failing to acknowledge the pain some affiliated with Exodus International caused, and by failing to share the whole truth about my own story. My good intentions matter very little and fail to diminish the pain and hurt others have experienced on my watch. The good that we have done at Exodus is overshadowed by all of this.

    Friends and critics alike have said it’s not enough to simply change our message or website. I agree. I cannot simply move on and pretend that I have always been the friend that I long to be today. I understand why I am distrusted and why Exodus is hated.

    Please know that I am deeply sorry. I am sorry for the pain and hurt many of you have experienced. I am sorry that some of you spent years working through the shame and guilt you felt when your attractions didn’t change. I am sorry we promoted sexual orientation change efforts and reparative theories about sexual orientation that stigmatized parents. I am sorry that there were times I didn’t stand up to people publicly “on my side” who called you names like sodomite—or worse. I am sorry that I, knowing some of you so well, failed to share publicly that the gay and lesbian people I know were every bit as capable of being amazing parents as the straight people that I know. I am sorry that when I celebrated a person coming to Christ and surrendering their sexuality to Him that I callously celebrated the end of relationships that broke your heart. I am sorry that I have communicated that you and your families are less than me and mine.

    More than anything, I am sorry that so many have interpreted this religious rejection by Christians as God’s rejection. I am profoundly sorry that many have walked away from their faith and that some have chosen to end their lives. For the rest of my life I will proclaim nothing but the whole truth of the Gospel, one of grace, mercy and open invitation to all to enter into an inseverable relationship with almighty God.

    I cannot apologize for my deeply held biblical beliefs about the boundaries I see in scripture surrounding sex, but I will exercise my beliefs with great care and respect for those who do not share them. I cannot apologize for my beliefs about marriage. But I do not have any desire to fight you on your beliefs or the rights that you seek. My beliefs about these things will never again interfere with God’s command to love my neighbor as I love myself.

    You have never been my enemy. I am very sorry that I have been yours. I hope the changes in my own life, as well as the ones we announce tonight regarding Exodus International, will bring resolution, and show that I am serious in both my regret and my offer of friendship. I pledge that future endeavors will be focused on peace and common good.

    Moving forward, we will serve in our pluralistic culture by hosting thoughtful and safe conversations about gender and sexuality, while partnering with others to reduce fear, inspire hope, and cultivate human flourishing.
    Perhaps the most salient point in his statement, which other so-called christians would do well to heed, is this:

    I cannot apologize for my deeply held biblical beliefs about the boundaries I see in scripture surrounding sex, but I will exercise my beliefs with great care and respect for those who do not share them. I cannot apologize for my beliefs about marriage. But I do not have any desire to fight you on your beliefs or the rights that you seek.
    What are your thoughts?

    Personally, the statement he released is enough for me to at least give him a chance after he has proven himself. Unlike others in similar positions, he seems to understand the damage he did, and that asking forgiveness may even be too much. His statement quoted above also indicates to me that he understands where the line is and why he can never cross it again.

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    Re: Exodus International is no more

    I feel it is a heartfelt apology. It will be great to have him on our side. I was never personally affected by Exodus but I'm glad he has closed it.
    Maybe we need to send the letter to Bachmann or better Maurice.
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    Re: Exodus International is no more

    Thank God. At last.

    And hopefully the closing of this organization will encourage all of the other 'therapists' out there to crawl back under their rock as well.

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    Re: Exodus International is no more

    Forgiveness will have to come in time for the people he apologized to,if it comes at all. The damage his group did can't be ignored,especially when it comes to LGBT youth.

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    Re: Exodus International is no more

    Well, I can't say that Exodus will be missed by anyone I know. I am glad that the founder is coming to terms with his own sexuality, and I wish him no ill will. Goodbye Exodus International. I hope the next venture they have planned is open and affirming.

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    Re: Exodus International is no more

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    The wall of hate continues to crumble.

    I felt obliged to post this:


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    Re: Exodus International is no more

    Quote Originally Posted by Ninja108 View Post
    Forgiveness will have to come in time for the people he apologized to,if it comes at all. The damage his group did can't be ignored,especially when it comes to LGBT youth.
    From his statement, it sounds like he knows forgiveness may never come. Unlike some others that have had change of hearts, he seems to be fully aware that the wounds may be too deep. He also seems to want to work to prove himself to the LGBTQ community, and earn forgiveness instead of just asking for it.

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    More proof these anti-gay organizations are all headed by self loathing homosexuals. May Alan Chambers burn in his Hell for the damage he's done to people.

    It's only a matter of time until Lou Sheldon, Tony Perkins and Gary Bauer, (all of then have gay face) are exposed as closet queens with same sex attraction they hate themselves for.

    Marcus Bachmann's clinic deals with conversion therapy also and we all know about him.

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    Thank God. At last.

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    Re: Exodus International is no more

    From his letter:
    The good that we have done at Exodus is overshadowed by all of this.
    Is he still trying to say that Exodus did some GOOD things??

    These words are usually used with the intention of saying that "Overwhelmingly our organization did good things, but we did some really bad things that need to be mentioned." He clearly still thinks that Exodus was a good thing.

    He can't use the swimming pool anymore because he was caught peeing in it...

    Quote Originally Posted by CowboyBob View Post
    More proof these anti-gay organizations are all headed by self loathing homosexuals. May Alan Chambers burn in his Hell for the damage he's done to people.

    It's only a matter of time until Lou Sheldon, Tony Perkins and Gary Bauer, (all of then have gay face) are exposed as closet queens with same sex attraction they hate themselves for.

    Marcus Bachmann's clinic deals with conversion therapy also and we all know about him.
    And Ralph Reed, too - another one with the gay face.
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    Re: Exodus International is no more

    Quote Originally Posted by frankfrank View Post

    And Ralph Reed, too - another one with the gay face.
    Wow! I just Googled Ralph Reed. Gay face for sure.

    All this from a party that professes to wanting the government out of people's lives.
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    Exodus international Shuts Down: What’s Next?

    Alan Chamber’s Opening Address On June 19, 2013, the first evening of the 38th annual Exodus Freedom Conference, President Alan Chambers announced to attendees that Exodus International was shutting down. He did not make this announcement until the end of a one hour speech.Eighteen months ago, leaders with the North American region of Exodus International met to discuss the future of the organization which Alan Chambers described as an organization “entrenched in rules” and “behavior, sin management, and shutting out God.”According to Alan Chambers the organization considered four options as to how to proceed: stay the same; rebrand; modify; or shut down.… more
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