Ok so a few weeks ago a friend of mine, who has no clue that I am interested in guys although sometimes I give off that vibe, spent $800 dollars on me for no apparent reason!
But before I get started, I think I need to say that I am the kinda guy who is really good at reading into things and assuming that my guy friends have feelings for me when often times, they don’t.
The situation was a little confusing for me so I thought this would be a good place to process my thoughts and get a little clarity.
Ok so I have this guy friend whom I have known for a while now but we have not been very close til more recently. I was actually planning on getting an apartment with this guy, as roommates, before I lost my job about a month ago. We were both raised up in very conservative homes, but one thing that we both have in common is that I haven’t dated a girl in like 6 years and this guy has never dated a girl....I believe he is truly st8 but unfortunately this is where I start reading into things.....
So this friend of mine was really excited about the idea of us rooming together and I was looking forward to it because we get along fairly well and he is responsible enough to where I know that I wouldn’t have to worry about him not paying the rent or being a bad roommate.
After I told him that I was unable to room with him due to my job situation, he seemed upset but I told him that I still wanna room with him once I find a new job.
Ok so all that seems pretty basic right? Moving forward...
So about 2 weeks later he texted me and asked me if I was free later in the week. I then told him that I didn't have anything to do the next day and then asked why. He then told me that he just wanted to come over and hang out. I thought sure, what the heck and decided to have him come over and hang out the next day. I also told him that I wanted to go see the movie “Now You See Me” and that I would pay for both him and me because I had free movie tickets. We agreed.
Although to some of my friends it might seem weird to go to a movie with another guy who is also paying, because of the platonic friendship I think we have, I didn't think he would have an issue and I certainly wasn't thinking anything romantic when I told him I would pay.
So the day comes around when we are suppose to hang out, and he comes over to my house before we head over to the movies. While I am getting ready, he says, hey come with me for a minute... I say "what"? He says follow me around the corner, it will only take 5 minutes. I am a little confused now, so I ask, where are we going? He then tells me that he wants me to follow him to Goodyear tires so that he can buy me some new tires for my truck. (FYI: My truck tires were super worn)
Me, being the greedy bastard that I am, couldn't say no. This is completely out of the blue and I am trying to figure out why he decided to do this. I then informed him that it cost almost $800+ dollars to get 4 tires and a spare for my truck. He says, I know... and then tells me to follow him yet again.
Ok so, my friend has just finished college and is about to start an electrical Engineering job that is gonna pay him boku dollars. But he doesn't even start that job for almost 2 more months. And even if he is gonna get paid well at this new job, spending $800 dollars on a platonic friend is A LOT OF MONEY! I mean, he wasn't lending it to me, he was paying for it! So at this time I am thinking in my brain that maybe he just won the lotto, maybe he was given money, maybe he just got a new credit card? This is odd....I really was not able to make sense of it.
So then after it is all said and done and he has paid for the tires, we get back to his car and I say “can we talk about this for a moment”. I then asked him why he did this, and he says, just because I wanted to......?
He then says, the only thing is that I want you to accept it and don't do anything WEIRD.......
I think that is him saying that this is just something he wanted to do for me and that he didn’t want me to read into it....... But I can't help it.
Maybe I am just a poor friend but I know that the only people I spend that kinda money on is people whose pants I would like to get into.....Am I right????...
But really.... Is it just me or is this kinda an odd out of the blue gesture? Do I just need to work on being a better friend or is this really random???