(Different cousin than this, by the way)
I'm very nervous about this and could really use some advice.
Last night I was using Facebook and I found this cousin of mine. I didn't even know he had an account, but many people in my family added him. He's always nice to me and I like him, so I added him as a friend.
This morning he accepted my request and sent me a message saying he wants to talk to me, giving me his number and asking me to call him. I said "sure" and gave him my number too. But when I called him, he said (his voice was a bit edgy) that it was because he saw a Facebook friend of mine and thought it was someone he knew, but turned out it wasn't. I said OK and the conversation ended.
But then, he called me back and I could definitely notice how nervous he was. He begged me not to tell anyone and dropped the bomb on me: he's doing some escorting on the side, some of them with guys, and he thinks he might be bi. He shared with me because I had an "open mind". (I'm not out to him, by the way)
I never imagined he might be bi. Well, I tried not to. He was very attractive, but also very straight in words and action and always had girlfriends. We didn't have much contact, so it was easy not to think too much about him.
So far, so good. I promised to never tell anyone and said that I'm available whenever he wants to talk. He said he wanted to meet me in person, that it would be better than talking through the phone, which is very true. I would if I could, but we live too far from each other and neither of us have cars.
However, close to the end of the conversation, he said that he could set me up with some of his friends - and that's what made my alarm ring. I treated it as if he was joking, but after hanging up, I realized it was a mistake. What if he's after my money? What if he owes money to people and he's getting desperate? These are bad thoughts, but it's possible.
So I called him back to make it clear that I want to talk because I care about him and I want to be helpful, not because of any interest in scheduling anything. He agreed, said that he wanted to talk, but insisted on setting me up later. He lowered his voice, I lowered mine, and I could feel he was in serious need. He also said good-bye with a kiss, and I sent one back before realizing how odd it sounded.
There are a few reasons I'm nervous. One of them is that I don't know how to be helpful to him. I'm not exactly experienced enough to be a mentor. I'm out to my parents, sister and a few close friends. Since the other thread I made quite a few gay friends, but I'm still not much of a part of the gay scene, never went to a gay club or anything. And I never had sex with anyone ever. (I'm 25)
Also, I'm still uncertain about his intentions. He was pushing me toward his friends a bit too much. There's a possibility that this is a money issue as much as anything else. How do I help him then? Specially without telling anyone?
And I had a feeling that even both us getting together would be fair game.
And, to be honest, I totally would
(He has a nice body and I'm a 25-year-old virgin. Bad combination)
But I don't want to do it if it would undermine my ability to give him the help he needs - and I DEFINITELY don't want to buy him.
That's about it. I hope you guys can help me...