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    Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    I'd like to join your club now, and it totally sucks. But I'm not fully out yet and I would feel worse confessing it.

    My situation involved a friend I came out to (without confessing my crush) who refused to talk to me for almost a year. We talked recently again and the feelings came back. He decided to only limit our contact through FB because "hes not ready to communicate otherwise yet." I called him out on still not being cool with it, and he hasn't talked to me since. Yea, call me selfish, or an ass, but if nothing beyond a friendship is going to happen at this rate, I say screw it.

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    Re: Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    Short answer--Yes.

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    Re: Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    It was in a very different context, but, to quote Anita from West Side Story, "stick to your own kind."
    "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."--Dr. Seuss

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    Re: Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    I was tormented in my youth by consistently falling in love with straight boys. Gays, I'm sure, understand unrequited love better than most.

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    Re: Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    No,because as tough as it is,if someone's straight,wishing they weren't isn't going to make it so.

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    Re: Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    ended? no.

    but I've found myself in situations where I needed to take a couple steps back temporarily, to figure out what was wrong elsewhere in my life that was causing me to fixate on something I knew I'd never be able to have.

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    Re: Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    Yep , and to be honest , no great fucking loss , i did not change they did .
    If your friends cannot accept your sexuality then they were never really friends to begin with .

    Though i have never ended a friendship because of a crush on a srt8 mate , otherwise growing up would have been no fun.............

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    Re: Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    Quote Originally Posted by Seasoned View Post
    It was in a very different context, but, to quote Anita from West Side Story, "stick to your own kind."
    I don't necessarily agree with that, I personally find it hard to find gay guys in general. Not necessarily ones for romantic interests but just some people to hang out with and be friends with.

    I only consider one gay guy as a close friend, Other gay guys I know I don't really hang out with because I never seem to get along really well with any.

    I understand that many gay guys would feel comfortable only hanging out with gay guys, but I think that that is the same mentality of Blacks only hanging out with Blacks, or Christians with Christians, Or Marshmallows with Marshmallows. I'd rather befriend people with many different backgrounds.

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    Re: Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    Not ended but I have moved on from people once i realized the only reason that I was spending time with them was in the hopes that it turned in to "something more"...when I clearly knew that it would not.

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    Re: Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    Basically yes. It was very unhealthy for me.

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    Re: Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    It feels good reading this knowing everyone struggles with this (I already kinda knew but still)
    I was happy my boss was transferred to another branch cause it was very unhealthy for me back then. I still cant let it go as I still talk to him sometimes, but like its been said over here, I guess you have to let it go sometime as its just bullshit

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    Why would you have any feelings for such a bigoted ignorant low-life?
    That we are capable only of being what we are, remains our unforgivable sin.
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    Re: Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    Yeah..you shouldn't have to work at a friendship like this. It's almost like you're apologizing for being who you are. If he can't accept you now that he knows you're a gay guy then move foreward man. Lots of people out there in the world.

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    Re: Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    His name was Aaron, and he was the only one I came out to at work (before he moved in with me as a roommate). Ha ha, people started calling "GQ Beavis and Butthead" (he's blonde). Flash-forward to 5 years later, after I moved to pursue my masters, but we kept in touch; he admitting to "thinking about it." Well, when I got back we rented a hotel room and had awesome sex the whole night and day until check-out time. He avoided me for almost two months afterwards, and when he finally said that he was willing to be just friends, I told him, "No, that's not enough any more."

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    Re: Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    Story of my life. What I have been doing is just avoid until they contact me. Don't seem like a girlfriend and naggy.

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    Re: Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    tl;dr version: Yes.

    TBH, this is mostly a "teenage" problem. Once you become an adult and head out into the world, it becomes easier to meet other gays that are interested in you back.

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    Re: Ever have to end a friendship with a straight because you couldn't control your sexual/romantic feelings for him?

    ...as well as NORMAL straight guys who aren't afraid you're gonna stick a finger up their ass when they aren't looking.
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