I'd like to join your club now, and it totally sucks. But I'm not fully out yet and I would feel worse confessing it.
My situation involved a friend I came out to (without confessing my crush) who refused to talk to me for almost a year. We talked recently again and the feelings came back. He decided to only limit our contact through FB because "hes not ready to communicate otherwise yet." I called him out on still not being cool with it, and he hasn't talked to me since. Yea, call me selfish, or an ass, but if nothing beyond a friendship is going to happen at this rate, I say screw it.