So last week, I came out to my two best friends and I felt great afterwards because nothing changed and they completely accepted me and were extremely supportive. So after I talked to them for a while and told them that I wanted to come out to my parents, they encouraged me to and said everything would be fine because they have known my parents for a while. So I worked up the courage to do it and now I totally regret it.
First off, my parents are very socially liberal people and have never said anything bad about gay people or anything, so this is what makes it so difficult for me to understand.
I told them both at the same time, and when I did it my dad just sat there and said absolutely nothing and my mom said she couldn't deal with this and walked out of the room and would not talk to me even after a few minutes of begging her. FINALLY, we started talking and she started saying stuff like "If you expect me to be proud, you're wrong" and "You weren't born this way" and "Imagine what people will think of you," etc. etc. etc. And when I told her that I just needed her to be there, she told me that I broke her heart and she was disappointed.
So I have been absolutely devastated since then. My dad has been talking to me and everything seems normal. He's only brought it up once and that was to say he didn't like it but I'm 21 and he can't stop me or control me. My mom on the other hand has went insane and continues to bring up the "What are people going to think of you?" argument and when I told her that I have known since I was a freshman in high school, she said she didn't believe me and that she knows that I am not gay. She also flat out said that she was not okay with it and she would never be okay with it. So needless to say, I am shocked, disgusted, crushed, and dumbfounded all at once. She ignores me most of the time, and I do not know what to say to her.
So...how do you talk to someone like this? A parent who refuses to accept you and doesn't even really believe you when you tell them something you have known to be true for so long? I just feel like I cannot go on with her.