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    Cold feet for my first time

    23 year old very curious straight(/maybe bi?) guy here, been thinking about having sex with a man for almost 10 years. I've given/received a few BJs and almost gone all the way a few times, but I inevitably get cold feet.

    The last time I tried a few years ago, I went to a couples' house. We all started fooling around and I was really into it ... until I came, at which point I just shut down. Same thing happens after I masturbate to gay porn. It's not shame or anything like that, really, but I just am not into it at all anymore. Until an hour later when I'm thinking about cock again, haha.

    Any advice would be much appreciated.

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    Re: Cold feet for my first time

    A lot of guys lose interest once they have come. So, avoid coming until everything else has happened. I think it happens to straight guys too.

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    Re: Cold feet for my first time

    Orgasms tend to shut us down. You either need to hang around for round two, delay coming, or look into the hang up/guilt issues you may not at first glance realize you have.
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    Re: Cold feet for my first time

    For a lot of "curious" guy's, a lot of the excitement is the taboo-ness they feel about the sex. Add to that if you're hooking up with virtual strangers with no emotional connection, it's no wonder you wouldn't be interested once the deed was done.
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    Re: Cold feet for my first time

    I think shame/guilt have a role in your life.... and you probably don't realize it.

    In order to overcome this...assuming that is the goal....you need to bring your unconscious thoughts and attitudes and feelings to the surface...into the light...and examine them.

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    Re: Cold feet for my first time

    I think is is physiological. Our hormones drive us to orgasm, but when it occurs, the chemistry changes, different hormones are released and most everyone is less interested, some more than others. Women, it is said, want to cuddle, but men want to turn over and go to sleep. Shame is not the cause, but if you have shame, it is overridden by the hormones until orgasm, then comes forward when the chemistry changes. Again, you should just anticipate the let down, delaying orgasm until the end.

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