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    Is bisexuality a choice?

    There are those who claim sexuality beyond procreation is itself a privilege not a right, but most of 'those' [mindless] bastards are imbedded in a deep repression of their own sexuality so I fear they should not be taken too seriously.
    Therefore I submit for your approval that our bisexual brethren were in fact born that way.
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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    Of course they were.

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    Sexual interaction with other people is often determined by desire and opportunity rather than a pressing need to comply with perceived requirements determined by society's labelling of sexual behaviour.

    Whether my sexual behaviour has been determined by nature or nurture is a matter of no consequence for me any more than the colour of my skin matters to me for I can change nothing that is me being true to who I am.

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    Yes it is, just like heterosexuality.
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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    Sexual interaction with other people is often determined by desire and opportunity rather than a pressing need to comply with perceived requirements determined by society's labelling of sexual behaviour.

    Whether my sexual behaviour has been determined by nature or nurture is a matter of no consequence for me any more than the colour of my skin matters to me for I can change nothing that is me being true to who I am.
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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    Quote Originally Posted by MoufOfKhaos View Post
    Yes it is, just like heterosexuality.
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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    Is anything a choice? Isn't, like, everything predetermined by Fate? I mean, how free are we really, you know?



    I chose to be bi. I also chose to have shit eyes, be tall, and be born a male to a young couple in what is now called Zimbabwe.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    What choice??? There's no such thing as bisexual, they're just gay and won't admit it.
    Or, they're gay and confused.
    Or, they're just trying to have their cake and eat it too.
    Or, they're just uncontrollably randy bastards that will fuck anything, male, female, goats.....J/K (well, not about the goats... )

    There's not a whole lot in the human condition that is purely "choice", whether or not someone acts on their feelings/attractions is something else entirely. I wonder if a sizeable portion of bisexuals just live as heterosexuals because they can, and avoid all the social stigma that we see attached to same sex attraction?

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    Quote Originally Posted by The Fly View Post
    ....and avoid all the social stigma that we see attached to same sex attraction?
    That stigma is disappearing and we're now becoming fashionable. I reckon the number of guys who call themselves "Bi" will be halved by the year 2020.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    YES, YES, YES, it is a choice!

    If I can't get a woman and a man to participate in a threesome with me...I would have to choose to have sex with a woman first then a man later...or a man first then a woman later in the evening.
    Last edited by HunterM; May 10th, 2013 at 06:46 AM.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    I don't think I'm too concerned about what they do.

    Their behavior says more about what they are than any self-definition. Or my view of it.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    Not a choice...but bisexuals get to choose.
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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    Quote Originally Posted by kallipolis View Post
    Sexual interaction with other people is often determined by desire and opportunity rather than a pressing need to comply with perceived requirements determined by society's labelling of sexual behaviour.

    Whether my sexual behaviour has been determined by nature or nurture is a matter of no consequence for me any more than the colour of my skin matters to me for I can change nothing that is me being true to who I am.
    This--plus the bisexual people I knew were either primarily str or gay but were hyper sexual and just loved sex

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    My bisexuality comes and go like a frat drunken guy who did gay kiss then put his instagram pic on his wall.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    Tzu sweetheart! I've missed you!

    Ignoring the God aspect (which I usually do), if I had perceived an adequate potential for finding suitable partners, I could have happily remained a lesbian, which I considered natural to me and not a choice. I later chose to associate with men, partly for practical reasons. Fortunately, I find the gender of my partners to be unimportant.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    I think you have the choice to not need to label yourself. Sod what everyone else wants you to be.


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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    A true bisexual would be a person sexually attracted to both males and females. Aside from that, a young men attracted to other men can enjoy sex with a woman without being very attracted to them, just as a heterosexual man can have sex with another man. Think of it as a form of masterbation. Sexual orientation is not a matter of choice, and true bisexuality, attracted to both, would not be a choice. But a gay man who has sex with a woman, is making a choice. Many young men can have sex with men and women, and think they are bisexual, but later in life, when sex is not as intense, will realize that they were gay or straight all along.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    Not for me it isn't.
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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    All sexuality is a choice. Some may have "predispositions" through nature/nurture but that alone doesn't decide your sexuality any more than a predisposition to cancer means you WILL have cancer. In the end it comes down to one thing...... Who do you choose to sleep with. That is guided mostly by your desires (what you WANT) either internal, external, or a mixture of both.
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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    For me I think sexuality isn't a choice. But Bisexuals can choose who they be with.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    If you speak in regards to what turns a dude on, then no it is not a choice. By turns a dude on I mean what attractions he has sexually,
    no one decides this for his self, one day a guy realizes that other guys turn him if he is gay, if he is bi then he finds that both sexes do it for him, although for some it's more guys than girls or vise versa.
    Then of course you have the poor str8's, well, it's not their choice.
    As I tell folks, none of are here by choice, we are all the result of an orgasm, no, more than likely mom and dad did not decide to have sex just so they could be blessed with me, dad was horny, mom did her duty and here I am, just a little bi, very little. No choice of my own.
    If we get out side of sexual attraction a person is in a lot of instances able to act sexually to satisfy desire with a person that they are not really attracted to, prison sex is a good example.
    Another example are those of us who while in denial got married.
    Who we do it with does not define our sexuality, it's who we would rather do it with.
    Last edited by peeonme; May 10th, 2013 at 02:04 PM.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    Woody Allen said he was bisexual because it doubled his chances for a date on Saturday night.

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    I don't like straight people explaining what homosexuality is all about, so I sure as hell don't feel qualified in explaining what bisexuality is all about. If they say that's what it's like, I'll believe them.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    It's no more of a choice than homosexuality.

    They were born that way.

    Bisexuals have the best of all worlds because they can feel attraction both ways.


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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    I voted that it's not a choice, anymore than being gay - or being born with brown eyes - is.

    I didn't even have to ponder/think about it, not even for one second.

    As Scealle said, though, the bisexual person can choose who they want to be with, and those near the middle of the Straight-Gay (or Kinsey) continuum are most likely to vary their choices.
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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    True bisexuality is not a choice but you have to remember that sexuality is a continuum and not something concrete a la sexual orientation.

    On the subject of gay-for-pay, most of those guys are at least bisexual. Straight guys don't suck dick and get fucked just as straight women don't eat pussy and trib.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    I know this is going to make some people mad but I don't believe there is such a thing.
    Only government can take perfectly good paper, cover it with perfectly good ink and make the combination worthless.

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    I think it's not a choice but rather the natural state; heterosexuality and homosexuality are the learned behaviors.
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    The feelings of sexual preference are not a choice. however, the lifestyle is. Nobody has to act on feelings...

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    Everyone is bisexual.to a degree. Even if it is just know who is hott feom what you do not prefer.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    No it is not a choice, what about the man that goes to a bathhouse BUT he only wants blow jobs? There are married men that go to the bathhouse they don't want a relationship with another man they don't see themselves as gay. However, these men have an urge an attraction to other men so they are bisexual.

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    Bisexuality is no more of a choice than being tall, short, robust, thin, gregarious or reserved. It is, just like heterosexuality and homosexuality, an additional trait among many others that conform, rather than define, the human experience and are devoid of any intrinsic moral value. They are just a part of existence.

    However, it would be important to highlight the fact that societal pressures and prejudices might affect the personal choices that bisexual people make, from hiding their sexual orientation to avoid rejection and judgement, to rejecting all links with the gay community due to their "ability" to engage sexually and/or emotionally to women as well. As for falling in love... Can anyone truly ever control who they fall in love with? They might be able to choose to pursue a relationship with them, but feelings are not purely machinal functions. They are often arbitrary and incomprehensible. Thus, choices lie in what people want to do about the feelings they are experiencing, rather than the exclusively animal responses themselves.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    Well, you actually could choose to be with either a male or female (and be satisfied with whatever gender of partner you chose), although actually being attracted to both males and females isn't a choice.
    Last edited by SaskGuy; May 10th, 2013 at 10:20 PM.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    I think the gay community is also very biphobic especially with bisexual men. A lot of gays and straights just don't believe in male bisexuality which is a double standard. There are tons of men out there on the down low who do NOT see themselves as gay. These guys are bisexual they have sex with both sexes but keep it a secret.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MorrisseyX View Post
    I think the gay community is also very biphobic especially with bisexual men. A lot of gays and straights just don't believe in male bisexuality which is a double standard. There are tons of men out there on the down low who do NOT see themselves as gay. These guys are bisexual they have sex with both sexes but keep it a secret.
    Sorry to say this, but presenting people who are ashamed of their sexuality, might view homosexuality as something undesirable and are unfaithful to their partners isn't exactly the adequate way of advocating in favour of bisexuality. I'm just saying, because it just perpetuates the stereotype of the prototypical homophobic, hypocritical, dishonest and chronically unfaithful bisexual man.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    Yes it is. You're choosing which gender you want to fuck that day or that time period.
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    i'm really tired of hearing gay men say that bisexuals are really gay, really tired. the first time i actually "officially" came out was at a lgbt meeting place and one of the first things the moderator said was that bisexuals are masquerading as such and are really gay. tell that to my dick when it gets all excited by seeing a beautiful sexy woman. tell that to my soul when i experience intimacy with a woman on such a profound level that i can't get enough sex with her. but my head, heart, and dick still find attractive men sexy, and desirable. so, unless you're capable of crawling inside my mind, body, heart and soul, and every other bisexual's, knock it offf
    Last edited by 4playdude; May 11th, 2013 at 06:38 AM.

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    thanks Tar, for putting me onto this thread...

    Quote Originally Posted by Taralen View Post
    Yes it is. You're choosing which gender you want to fuck that day or that time period.

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    And yet, I know quite a few "gay" men, even some on here, who regularly sleep with women yet still call themselves gay. I'm beginning to suspect that being "gay" is more than just liking dick, I'm learning that it's a whole socio-political movement thing going on just behind the scenes.

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    Yes it is. You're choosing which gender you want to fuck that day or that time period.
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    that would be a choice to act upon your sexuality not a choice about your sexuality

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    Well said Mikey. There are likely far more Bi men out there than most people realize. For the same reason that some gay men go into the closet in the first place (attempting to fit in with straight society) some Bi men claim to be gay. They don't want to be called self-haters or other such names by those brain-dead gay fools who can't understand the fact that some guys ARE attracted to both sexes. Not all gays are like that, but far too many are.
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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    There are several kind of situtational bisexuality that is a choice, but usually a temporary thing, usually from lack of access to the opposite sex, like prison or same-sex summer camps, a 3-way where "things just happened", or just being drunk with a bud and watching porn (How many stories of that are on here? LOTS!). That's learned, but that doesn't make it innate, or something the person will seek out repeatedly.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    Quote Originally Posted by Adrusek81 View Post
    Sorry to say this, but presenting people who are ashamed of their sexuality, might view homosexuality as something undesirable and are unfaithful to their partners isn't exactly the adequate way of advocating in favour of bisexuality. I'm just saying, because it just perpetuates the stereotype of the prototypical homophobic, hypocritical, dishonest and chronically unfaithful bisexual man.
    So what's your point? People are unfaithful to their partners everyday all over the world. Not everyone wants the world to know about their sexuality and tell people. Some people believe their sex lives are PRIVATE not PUBLIC knowledge. I don't think these down low guys seem themselves as being shameful they just want their sexuality to be PRIVATE. They believe being on the down low being bisexual is their PRIVATE business and NOBODY has the right to know they are bisexual. I don't think these men are ashamed of being bisexual they just believe it is nobody's business but their own. And I think these men are right if a guy is bisexual he doesn't have to tell anybody it is his personal business.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mikey3000 View Post
    And yet, I know quite a few "gay" men, even some on here, who regularly sleep with women yet still call themselves gay. I'm beginning to suspect that being "gay" is more than just liking dick, I'm learning that it's a whole socio-political movement thing going on just behind the scenes.

    For me, I'll always be bisexual. I may go through a "straight" phase, or a "gay" phase, but all experiences are powerful for me.
    Thank you for your honesty.

    Being gay is not a socio-political movement, but an identity conditioned by, rather than built around, one's own sexuality. The fact that there are bisexual men who deny being bisexual and label themselves as gay for some bizarre reason, is as ridiculous and dishonest to me as bisexual men who do the opposite, and label themselves as heterosexual while actively pursuing hook ups/relationships with other men. They are bisexual and that's the end of it.

    Quote Originally Posted by MorrisseyX View Post
    So what's your point? People are unfaithful to their partners everyday all over the world. Not everyone wants the world to know about their sexuality and tell people. Some people believe their sex lives are PRIVATE not PUBLIC knowledge. I don't think these down low guys seem themselves as being shameful they just want their sexuality to be PRIVATE. They believe being on the down low being bisexual is their PRIVATE business and NOBODY has the right to know they are bisexual. I don't think these men are ashamed of being bisexual they just believe it is nobody's business but their own. And I think these men are right if a guy is bisexual he doesn't have to tell anybody it is his personal business.
    Then, why do so many bisexual people complain about the fact that the gay community is condemning them to invisibility and throw around terms like "denial" and "biphobia" all the time? I do understand that one doesn't have to go about telling everyone they have just met "Hey, guess what?! I'm gay/bisexual/heterosexual!". However, it's also true that remaining hidden only allows stereotypes to continue flourishing. Sadly, visibility and exposure to the mainstream is the only way in which people can avoid discrimination and can reclaim "normalcy" for their community. Thus, I believe that being open about one's sexuality (as long as being so doesn't result in people being imprisoned, dismissed from their jobs or abused in any way, of course), is crucial in order to achieve integration.

    Yes, many people are unfaithful to their partners every single day. Yet and still, there are millions of stories about conflicted bisexual men stringing people along and getting into messy situations because they "need" both sexes or are incapable of accepting their own sexual orientation. Yes, some things are private but, then again, exposing ourselves often allows others to see that we are not oddities or legendary monsters.

    Until recently, it was said that homosexuality should be kept in private because it wasn't nobody's business what gay people did in their bedrooms and, precisely for that, any public display of affection between two men was seen as a violation of social mores, which could legitimately be punished with dismissal, shaming, arrest or even violence. Thank to the fact that we have challenged those notions, we are achieving great advances in the political and human rights arenas. So yes, being open and honest is essential, in my opinion.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    Whenever I met a man who claims to be "bisexual" I try to ask him when was the last time he did it with a woman? They usually get very evasive.

    I'd love to ask the "bisexual" JUBbers here when was the last time they did it with a woman. I don't think I'd get a straight answer.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    why do you even care, pat? what are you so worried about???

    Quote Originally Posted by pat grimshaw View Post
    Whenever I met a man who claims to be "bisexual" I try to ask him when was the last time he did it with a woman? They usually get very evasive.

    I'd love to ask the "bisexual" JUBbers here when was the last time they did it with a woman. I don't think I'd get a straight answer.

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    Re: Is bisexuality a choice?

    Quote Originally Posted by 4playdude View Post
    why do you even care, pat? what are you so worried about???
    I'm not worried; look at my post #9. Are you worried?

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